Just venting. Overwhelmed. Jess081316 3 kids; Spokane Valley, WA, United States 856 posts
Feb 13th '18

I am feeling really overwhelmed right now. I am a stay-at-home mom. My oldest is in school all day and then I stay home with my youngest two. They are 4.5 and 2. I also watch a little girl 2 days a week who is 4 and my daughter's best friend. I have been watching her since she was about eight months old. And I have two boys that I watch 3 days a week. Anyways the little girl that I watch her moms best friend ask me if I could watch her two boys full time. They are 4 and 1/2 and 1. It's only till September so not very long. But I was a little hesitant about it because I already have my plate full. I felt a little bit of pressure just because she is my good friends best friend so I felt like I needed to help out. And the extra money is super nice since we are planning our first family vacation this fall. However it's day two of me watching them and the four-and-a-half-year-old is a complete brat. I try not to be mean and say that but he has just been awful. He goes and rips toys out of the other kids hands and refuses to give it back even when I asked him nicely multiple times. He doesn't listen at all. He will go around the house just dumping toys out everywhere and throwing things and then refuses to help pick up. He talks back Etc. I just don't know if I can handle it. The money would be really nice though. But my anxiety is through the roof. And there mom just started her job. I don't wanna screw her over. I guess I just needed to vent.

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 38254 posts
Feb 13th '18

Hmm that's difficult I understand wanting to help the friend and all but I'd probably end up telling her she needs to rearrange for different care for the 4 year old especially if it was causing my anxiety to get worse. 

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 47925 posts
Feb 13th '18

He’s 4.5 so in my opinion his parents need to give him a stern talking-to. It’s not like he’s not old enough to understand. 

I would talk to the Mom privately and tell her you’re not sure if he’s just trying to adjust to a new routine but that you’d appreciate if she could talk to him as well.

Good luck!