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Second Wedding, small, big, only courthouse. mom2princesses 3 kids; NY, NY, United States 1905 posts
Jan 8th

Ok thoughts or tips on a second marriage? If its the woman's second but man's 1st and he does want a celebration what is the appropriate thing to do? Small or as big as both want it. Family is mostly very religious and 1st wedding was a religious one 8 yrs ago, separation/divorce was 2 yrs ago. It will only be a legal/civil marriage as marriage through church is not possible unless an anulment happens. The wedding would take place 6 months to 1.5 yrs from now. All things aside if we both knew people would not judge and would attend we would want a 150-200 people guest list(mainly family), obviously not q fancy white dress. But we would like music, reception, banquet etc. Any tips, thoughts?

bia. ., ., Portugal 102409 posts
Jan 8th

I'd do small, wouldn't do court house, just isn't my taste. Small with family though!

bia. ., ., Portugal 102409 posts
Jan 8th

Quoting bia.:
I'd do small, wouldn't do court house, just isn't my taste. Small with family though!


Only court house?? I'm a bit confused lol..does it have to be court house?

mom2princesses 3 kids; NY, NY, United States 1905 posts
Jan 8th

Quoting bia.:

Only court house?? I'm a bit confused lol..does it have to be court house?


No I meant as like we can't get married through church.

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 9399 posts
Jan 8th

Do whatever you and your fiancé want. 

I am not a big wedding person, so if I get married it won’t be big. 

Williams and Owen's Mommy 2 kids; Augusta, Georgia 215 posts
Jan 8th

Both of my weddings were small...the first one to my ex because he was supposed to back into the Marines so we hurried it...the second time to my current husband  I wore a white tank top and skirt from Walmart and got married in my dad's front yard...we are talking about doing a big wedding/ party in two years.... honestly I don't think it matters if it is your 1st wedding or 5th the party should be as big as you want it... celebrate your love your way

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 47333 posts
Jan 8th

I had one wedding and the venue was ripped apart by a tropical storm days before we got married. 

If I could go back and change things I’d have a backyard (or similar to) wedding and put the wedding money towards a house. 

So I say, do something small. 

Hi_ImBob Due February 5; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 2188 posts
Jan 9th

I had a small wedding for my first marriage about 11 years ago. We are now divorced and my bf (who has never been married) and I have discussed getting married but just going to the magistrate for now and having a small party in a year or so. I've never understood the need to spend so much money on a large wedding when life is expensive enough. But you should do the wedding as you and your SO want. If you want a big white fancy dress then wear one, if you want a huge 400 guest wedding then have one, if you want it to be a secret wedding in the woods with 5 people then go for it. We're no longer living in "traditional times." Good luck and congrats!

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4658 posts
Jan 9th

If I ever get married again, im going all out. I had a VERY small wedding the first time... and I regret it. No one else's opinion matters. Do what you two want. 

Kelli * Quinn 1 child; New York 474 posts
Jan 9th

Its truly up to you. The best advice I could give is, do what makes YOU happy. It sounds like you are very concerned about what your family will think/feel. And I know this may sound harsh, but they don't matter! its your relationship, youe marriage and your preference. If you want a big wedding, and if you can afford it, GO FOR IT MAMA! If it would be difficult, or if it would put a financial burden on you, I'd say go small. But its all about you and your hubby. I hope you are happy with whatever decision you make. Best wishes to you are your future husband! 

jess_Hunter 1 child; California 1724 posts
Jan 24th

well girl, do whatever your fiance and you both feel comfortable. You don't have to worry about what people will think. It is your wedding not theirs.