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This is semi long and about a guy I just met. Advice please INDIAN 1 child; California 2390 posts
Nov 13th

I meet this guy at dinner, we hung out and closed the place down with the bartender neither of us knew, (and we weren’t drunk) we went back to his place and fooled around, I had work the next morning so I left and when I started to get dressed he sounded confused and asked if I was leaving.
Next day he texts me asking to hangout, I kind of asked what we’d do if we hung out and he responded get a bottle of wine and have passionate sex all night, or hang out making plans to take over the world and “check it out” not have sex at all, anyways I kind of didn’t really say yes or no, he pushed I came over, he introduced me to his “best friend” drank wine with him, ended up having sex and I went to sleep then work, next day I text him asking if he would come over he did, we again hung out for awhile then fooled around and I went to work. Then I went on a trip to Cali and he initiated a couple texts on my first two days. I’m not a big texter so I tried my best to give good responses. Then I initiated like one or two throughout the week, when I got home I asked him if he wanted to come over and talk me to sleep, he imediatly said yes, and brought me candy saying everyone likes gifts when they come home. But it got kind of weird, we were hanging out for like 20 minutes and he said something about his brother I think which he literally told me two hours ago he was hanging out with, and I responded you have a brother, oh duh you told me that. He said Rachel you never listen to me, then leaned over to shut me up from explaining myself and kissed me. We folded around again and the next morning I left for work, which he seemed surprised I was working. Two days later he texted me asking if I was on BC, we talked about that for a minute, then I let the text go, not responding to the last one and I have heard from him in about a week. Bottom line, I like the guy, but I’m overly cautious of being needy. Does he sound like a player or like I pushed him away with my personality. Should I text him?


Ps my daughter was around for non of this besides the vacation to Cali... 

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8842 posts
Nov 14th

Honestly, it sounds like maybe he doesn’t really like you or thinks you don’t really like him. 
If you do like him, reach out and ask him if he would like to go out again. Maybe try to not have sex with him in case that’s all he wants. His response will tell you whether he likes you or not. 

♥Jessie♥ TTC since Sep 2017; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 13781 posts
Nov 14th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
Honestly, it sounds like maybe he doesn’t really like you or thinks you don’t really like him. 
If you do like him, reach out and ask him if he would like to go out again. Maybe try to not have sex with him in case that’s all he wants. His response will tell you whether he likes you or not. 



I agree that a date that does not end in sex will let you know how he feels.

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 46798 posts
status Nov 14th

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:


I agree that a date that does not end in sex will let you know how he feels.



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