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Can anyone relate? anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 840 posts
Nov 13th

*vent* I’m 20 weeks tomorrow. And while we did plan this pregnancy and we are all so excited, I’m having a really hard time with the prospect of starting all over. Pregnancy isn’t entirely fun for me. It sounds selfish, but I’m getting bummed about missing out on going out for beers or having a glass of wine with holiday dinners. SO still gets to do whatever, whenever and it seems like when the baby is born I’ll still be super restricted to breastfeeding and staying home with the kids. My emotions went through this with DS as well, it seems like i was just starting to come out of it... 5 years later we were actually able to go out together and start living life again. Ugh. It sounds so dumb and shallow. Idk why it’s bumming me out so much all of a sudden. Any suggestions on how not to feel like I’m missing out on life during pregnancy/infancy stages? 

INDIAN 1 child; California 2390 posts
Nov 13th

I don't think it's dumb or shallow, you want a life too ya know. I think everyone has that emotion sometimes. Do you have mom friends? Or do you hang out with others? You don't have to drink to still go do things, it sucks sometimes, sometimes you just want lunch and a bloody Mary or wine with a friend. But I feel like you're in a normal boat. 

anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 840 posts
Nov 13th

Quoting INDIAN:
I don't think it's dumb or shallow, you want a life too ya know. I think everyone has that emotion sometimes. Do you have mom friends? Or do you hang out with others? You don't have to drink to still go do things, it sucks sometimes, sometimes you just want lunch and a bloody Mary or wine with a friend. But I feel like you're in a normal boat. 


I have like one Mom friend but she has three kids and never wants to do anything without them. I just don’t have many friends in general. But i do enjoying going out with SO to grab a beer or have a Bloody Mary with lunch. I’ve been craving bloody Mary’s so bad lately as well which only makes things worse. 

Hi_ImBob Due February 5; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 2164 posts
Nov 14th

I don't enjoy being pregnant either and this was planned, knowing if I hadn't lost the last baby and my pregnancy would be over doesn't help matters either. I'm also going back to the infant stage after being out for so long. My youngest is going to be 6 just after thanksgiving. Vent away, we get it.

anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 840 posts
6 days ago

Quoting Hi_ImBob:
I don't enjoy being pregnant either and this was planned, knowing if I hadn't lost the last baby and my pregnancy would be over doesn't help matters either. I'm also going back to the infant stage after being out for so long. My youngest is going to be 6 just after thanksgiving. Vent away, we get it.


I’m glad I’m not the only one! Yes I want another baby, but the pregnancy/baby part is not so beautiful and easy for me. DS is turning 6 the week this baby is due. Soooo. Let’s hope we can all get along and no one has to share a birthday.