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Balanitis in intact 2 year old Jake Wyler 1 child; 2 angel babies; New Jersey 1171 posts
Nov 13th

If this is long and all over the place, I’m sorry. While I was at work DH told me that DS had some redness to his p***s and that he put Vaseline on it. Mind you it was completely normal last night. When I got home from work at 7 I started crying when I took his diaper off to check on it. It was super red and swollen so much. DS seemed happy, but as soon as I touched it he started crying and saying, “Ow.” I took him to urgent care and the doctor (an older lady) asked if there was any pus and I said no. From everything I’ve read about caring for an uncircumcised p***s I’ve seen NOT to retract the skin to clean it. The doctor kind of pushed down on the skin and all of this pus came out. Of course my son was screaming and I was crying. She told me that I should have always been pulling it back and I told her that’s not what I had been told and I was just shaking because she was trying to pull it back, but it was just so swollen that pus came out when she pushed on it. She finally stopped and I was just speechless. She told me to soak him in a cool tub and clean it with mild soap. We have a shower, no tub, and all I have ever done was wash him with Baby Dove soap and clean his p***s like any other part of his body. Do I pull it back now? I’m afraid that since she did a little bit that we’ll have to circumcise him. I am so confused and i feel like the worst mother ever. I can’t stop crying. We’re still at the pharmacy waiting on his prescription which is antibiotics that he has to take by mouth 3 times a day for a week. I’m honestly afraid to get home and give him a shower. 

Williams and Owen's Mommy 2 kids; Augusta, Georgia 203 posts
Nov 13th

I went through this with my youngest son...he is circumcised but they left the fore skin a little too long...so we have to care for it like it was uncircumcised... unfortunately we we're still caring for it the same way as my oldest's  and he developed a yeast infection complete with painful abscess ...his pediatrician told us to gently push the skin back to clean out the dead skin sweat dirt etc...the key is not to force it just ease it back especially if it is swollen and painful

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 36748 posts
status Nov 13th

Aww poor baby. Did the Dr give you instructions on how to clean it? I would think you might have to pull the skin back to get all of that pus out of there but I'm not sure. 

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8842 posts
Nov 14th

My youngest is in tact and I was told not to push the skin back either. 
My friend had a similar thing happen to her son when he was around the same age. He was circumcised, but too much skin was left. He had to have surgery to take the rest of the skin. 

Hi_ImBob Due February 5; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 2164 posts
Nov 14th

How big is your kitchen sink just to let him sit in it for a few minutes? A storage tote or a small baby pool with a little water so he can soak? I only have girls and all the boys in the family were circumcised so I'm not much help.

bia. ., ., Portugal 102229 posts
Nov 14th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
My youngest is in tact and I was told not to push the skin back either. 
My friend had a similar thing happen to her son when he was around the same age. He was circumcised, but too much skin was left. He had to have surgery to take the rest of the skin. 



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My nephew is uncircumised and my sister was told NOT to pull it back either, I had to ask her because my mum would have told her to pull it back, that's what I did with your brother, I think it's very outdated info OP, I hope he feels better soon!

Jake Wyler 1 child; 2 angel babies; New Jersey 1171 posts
Nov 14th

Thank you everyone for all of the responses and kind words. I let him soak in the kitchen sink last night in cool water for a while. And I let him have diaper free time as well. We started the antibiotics last night and are using a wet wash cloth to wipe instead of wipes. He’s happy at least. We won’t be pulling the skin back, this website has helped a lot since I was pregnant with my son, especially helpful with advice on the whole to circ or not to circ debate. I’m hoping this clears up fast and my baby is back to normal, I’ve cried so much since last night that I am exhausted Very Sad

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 46798 posts
status 6 days ago

You were right to not be pulling the skin back but she probably wasn’t wrong to pull it back to try to get pus out. A lot of times it won’t make it out on its own which is probably why it was so inflamed. Def follow up with his regular pedi and if it’s not getting better, I would take him to a urologist. Good luck mama! Don’t be so hard on yourself. 

Jake Wyler 1 child; 2 angel babies; New Jersey 1171 posts
3 days ago

Quoting tinana+3:
You were right to not be pulling the skin back but she probably wasn’t wrong to pull it back to try to get pus out. A lot of times it won’t make it out on its own which is probably why it was so inflamed. Def follow up with his regular pedi and if it’s not getting better, I would take him to a urologist. Good luck mama! Don’t be so hard on yourself. 


Thank you so much! He is totally back to normal now. We’re finishing up the antibiotics and are only using unscented, gentle soap from now on.