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Halloween.. Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5939 posts
Oct 11th

For the 3rd year in a row, my 5 y/o doesn’t want to dress up for Halloween. He looks at the costumes at the store and has looked at others online, says they are cool, but says he doesn’t want to dress up. (We believe he has sensory issues as he doesn’t like new/different clothes either). I don’t want to force him to dress up if he doesn’t want to.
So, do I dress up my almost 2 y/o and go trick-or-treating anyways? (And what would I say to people who ask why he isn’t in costume?) Or just stay home and wait another year to try again? I feel like maybe seeing other kids trick-or-treating might entice my 5 y/o? But is it worth the hassle just to dress up the baby who doesn’t even understand what’s going on?

I can’t decide.Shy WWYD?

...B... 4 kids; 3 angel babies; .., .., Christmas Island 1202 posts
Oct 12th

Would your 5yo trick or treat? I would only take the baby to “special” houses if they are nearby, grandparents, close family friend etc, if the 5yo wont go trick or treating. 

I know people in my area dont question if kids arent in costume. Maybe say hes going as himself or something like that. Its not like its a requirement to be costumed to ToT

~a girl and a boy~ 2 kids; ,, IA, United States 61124 posts
Oct 12th

Would he still enjoy Trick or Treating even if he's not in a costume.  I would try it, he might like it. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3692 posts
Oct 12th

I'd go. Might make him want to join in the experience and even enjoy it. 

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5939 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting ...B...:
Would your 5yo trick or treat? I would only take the baby to “special” houses if they are nearby, grandparents, close family friend etc, if the 5yo wont go trick or treating. 

I know people in my area dont question if kids arent in costume. Maybe say hes going as himself or something like that. Its not like its a requirement to be costumed to ToT


I’m not sure if he would or not. The only “special” house we could go to is FIL’s and they’ll be working, unfortunately. 

I always thought costumes were required. Embarassed

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8659 posts
Oct 12th

If he doesn’t want to dress up in a costume, would he do allow you to paint his face? 
I would dress up the baby and go anyway. 

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5939 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
If he doesn’t want to dress up in a costume, would he do allow you to paint his face? 
I would dress up the baby and go anyway. 


No, he doesn’t like anything on his face. 
I keep trying to think of ideas that don’t involve a costume, facepaint, or any type of object he has to wear. But that leaves us with pretty much nothing. I even asked him if he’d be ok just carrying a guitar and being a singer but he said no. Unknown

I want to go anyways, but I’m worried about the a*****es who are going to judge or say, “but he’s not in costume?...” I don’t want him to feel ashamed or put down by them.

Mandy and her girls!~ 4 kids; Illinois 13762 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting Dee♡:

No, he doesn’t like anything on his face. 
I keep trying to think of ideas that don’t involve a costume, facepaint, or any type of object he has to wear. But that leaves us with pretty much nothing. I even asked him if he’d be ok just carrying a guitar and being a singer but he said no. Unknown

I want to go anyways, but I’m worried about the a*****es who are going to judge or say, “but he’s not in costume?...” I don’t want him to feel ashamed or put down by them.


I would think since he's young most won't care but be prepared to hear a lot of where's your costume at? I would still go because I love halloween and I would want to take my youngest too. It may make him want to participate next year.

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8659 posts
Oct 12th

I mean, if he’s not interested, leave him home and take the baby. 
Does your older one care about candy? Tell him if he doesn’t dress up, then he doesn’t get candy. 

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 36555 posts
status Oct 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
I mean, if he’s not interested, leave him home and take the baby. 
Does your older one care about candy? Tell him if he doesn’t dress up, then he doesn’t get candy. 


Exclamation I'd leave him home if he doesn't want to try to participate, he doesn't need to go. I understand him having a possible  sensory issue but he can still try and try to get over it if he cares at all about participating in Halloween. 


Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5939 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
I mean, if he’s not interested, leave him home and take the baby. 
Does your older one care about candy? Tell him if he doesn’t dress up, then he doesn’t get candy. 


I have no one to leave him home with. So either we all go or none of us do.
He likes candy, but it’s not enough to get him interested in dressing up.

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5939 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting The Original Bob:

Exclamation I'd leave him home if he doesn't want to try to participate, he doesn't need to go. I understand him having a possible  sensory issue but he can still try and try to get over it if he cares at all about participating in Halloween. 




I don’t want his issues to affect everyone else’s experience, but you can’t force a child to get over sensory issues and I have no one to leave him with.

ETA: I also feel like excluding him just because of his issues that he does not understand or yet have control over, isn’t the right thing to do either. That’s why I’m going with the all of us or none of us approach. 

marmarissa Due November 28 (girl); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, ON, Canada 7690 posts
Oct 12th

I'd probably just bring him along with you and the 2 y/o while you go door to door.  I wouldn't make him go up to the houses to ask for candy or dress up but I definitely wouldn't let him stop you from taking your little one out.  He can just walk with you and maybe watching you&LO and all the other kids trick or treating will change how he feels about it.  And if not,  your two year old will enjoy the experience.

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8659 posts
Oct 12th

Quoting Dee♡:

I have no one to leave him home with. So either we all go or none of us do.
He likes candy, but it’s not enough to get him interested in dressing up.


Then I’m not sure what to tell you. 
I personally would not give him candy or take him trick or treating if he doesn’t dress up. 
I understand sensory issues. My brother is autistic. There has to be some sort of middle ground though. 

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 36555 posts
status Oct 12th

Quoting Dee♡:

I don’t want his issues to affect everyone else’s experience, but you can’t force a child to get over sensory issues and I have no one to leave him with.

ETA: I also feel like excluding him just because of his issues that he does not understand or yet have control over, isn’t the right thing to do either. That’s why I’m going with the all of us or none of us approach. 


My DS is autistic and has sensory issues. You still have to help them try, not just accept it and try to do nothing about it.  Also with him saying no to holding a guitar I don't think that's sensory but idk. It just sounds like he doesn't want to participate at all so I personally wouldn't bring him but that's just me.