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gender reveal or nothing? Kansas Bonanno Due November 15; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2564 posts
May 6th

So first let me say this baby was a complete surprise. I have 3 children ages 5 years -18 months. My ovulation date was apparently messed up because of me having surgery at the beginning of that month and I ovulated the day before AF was supposed to start. Anyway. This is our final baby. I want to do something special, maybe a gender reveal or a cookout to celebrate. But i don't want people to think i'm greedy and asking for stuff ( far from the truth, we are planning on getting everything no problem) I feel like every baby should be celebrated. This little one was non the less a blessing. ( God plays funny tricks :P ) I don't want people to think i'm being tacky. What should I do, a little celebration or just not worry about it? I find out in about 3 weeks what i'm having.  

SomeMommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 72017 posts
May 6th

I wanted to do something a bit more for this one but ended up just having a special moment with our girls and taking video to send to our family. No one is throwing us a shower. We've done it all on our own. I think you do what you want and screw what people think. I think having a little BBQ reveal would be fun but just ask people to bring a dish to share. Unless you plan to do a baby shower down the line...I feel both is a bit over-doing it.

Kansas Bonanno Due November 15; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2564 posts
May 6th

Quoting SomeMommy:
I wanted to do something a bit more for this one but ended up just having a special moment with our girls and taking video to send to our family. No one is throwing us a shower. We've done it all on our own. I think you do what you want and screw what people think. I think having a little BBQ reveal would be fun but just ask people to bring a dish to share. Unless you plan to do a baby shower down the line...I feel both is a bit over-doing it.


No i'd only do a cookout or something. :) 

SomeMommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 72017 posts
May 6th

Quoting Kansas Bonanno:

No i'd only do a cookout or something. :) 


For the gender reveal or as a baby shower? I'd just pick one and go for it! 

Kansas Bonanno Due November 15; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2564 posts
May 6th

Quoting SomeMommy:

For the gender reveal or as a baby shower? I'd just pick one and go for it! 


Yea for the reveal, I don't really feel comfortable having another shower, I threw one for myself with my son ( he was our first boy so we had nothing ) like 4 people came and most of those were family ( not saying i was being greedy i just spent alot of money for nothing ya know ) Unless someone ended up throwing one. 

SomeMommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 72017 posts
May 6th

Quoting Kansas Bonanno:

Yea for the reveal, I don't really feel comfortable having another shower, I threw one for myself with my son ( he was our first boy so we had nothing ) like 4 people came and most of those were family ( not saying i was being greedy i just spent alot of money for nothing ya know ) Unless someone ended up throwing one. 


That sounds fun! I wanted a shower for this baby so bad. It's been 8 yrs since our last and he's our first boy but no one did anything and I felt silly having one for myself so I just said forget it...spent the money on baby things myself. I think people will buy or give things once he's here though. If not, no biggie. I think a fun gender reveal cookout will be a great memory for all!

Chelle2.5 Due October 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 3015 posts
May 6th

What about waiting til the baby is here and doing a meet and greet. 

Kansas Bonanno Due November 15; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2564 posts
May 6th

Quoting Chelle2.5:
What about waiting til the baby is here and doing a meet and greet. 


I've never thought about that, baby is due though in Nov. Lots of icky germs then. 

✴ Mamacita Miami, FL, United States 4041 posts
May 6th

I'd do a gender reveal at my cookout. Just food and fun to celebrate. 

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4578 posts
May 6th

Do the reveal. I'm sure you will get gifts after baby is born too. 

Jess&A+A 3 kids; 1 angel baby; kitchener, ON, Canada 21042 posts
May 6th

Do gender reveals require presents? That's weird to me lol! My fiancé is insisting I have a baby shower with this baby but I really don't want one, he is being selfish and just thinking that his wealthy family will get all the big things Shy 

anyway, do a cookout, don't tell anyone it's for the gender that way they don't bring anything but food and then surprise them all with the gender reveal. 

Kansas Bonanno Due November 15; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; North Carolina 2564 posts
May 6th

that's the thing, i really don't care if anyone brings a gift ya know.

bia. ., ., Portugal 102218 posts
May 6th

Quoting Jess&A:
Do gender reveals require presents? That's weird to me lol! My fiancé is insisting I have a baby shower with this baby but I really don't want one, he is being selfish and just thinking that his wealthy family will get all the big things Shy 

anyway, do a cookout, don't tell anyone it's for the gender that way they don't bring anything but food and then surprise them all with the gender reveal. 


I would be jumping all over that...38Embarassed this is his first child? First grandbaby? 

bia. ., ., Portugal 102218 posts
May 6th

Quoting Kansas Bonanno:
that's the thing, i really don't care if anyone brings a gift ya know.


I'd just have a BBQ and meet the baby,or just the BBQ before baby is born, put on the invite to just bring a plate or dish, no gift needed. I would anyways.

Jess&A+A 3 kids; 1 angel baby; kitchener, ON, Canada 21042 posts
May 6th

Quoting bia.:

I would be jumping all over that...38Embarassed this is his first child? First grandbaby? 


Haha yeah his first and first grandbaby. Though they consider A their first grabdbaby now.