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Autism? Blair B Due January 25; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 3227 posts
May 5th

I'm a little concerned that my son has autism for a few reasons. I know these reasons don't necessarily mean he does but I would like some advice from moms of children with autism please. He's going on 16 months old and the Dr told me he is speech delayed (he only says mama, dada, baba), he won't eat anything I give him i tried everything you can think of he HATES food I have to give him toddler formula and vitamins, and most importantly he throws these really really bad temper tantrums I CANNOT calm him down, I can't distract him there's nothing I can do but lay him safely on the floor until he's done about 30 mins or more later. During these tantrums he wants nothing to do with me he pushes me away. Does this sound concerning at all or is this all normal? Thank you for any advice. 

Drew90 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7232 posts
May 5th

Sounds like my dd1.  She talks now at 2.5 years old but only because her little sister started talking.  She eats most things now too but still has texture issues.  Still has horrible meltdowns (honestly they got worse)  and she's very very emotional. I've had people bring it up to me about my daughter and I've talked to her doctor and her doctors response was that we wouldn't worry about it right now because it's difficult to accurately diagnose a toddler 

Blair B Due January 25; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 3227 posts
May 5th

Quoting Drew90:
Sounds like my dd1.  She talks now at 2.5 years old but only because her little sister started talking.  She eats most things now too but still has texture issues.  Still has horrible meltdowns (honestly they got worse)  and she's very very emotional. I've had people bring it up to me about my daughter and I've talked to her doctor and her doctors response was that we wouldn't worry about it right now because it's difficult to accurately diagnose a toddler 


Yeah I figured it's difficult to diagnose them so young but the tantrums are crazy my DD never threw tantrums like that I was always able to calm her down but I have to leave my son on the floor for a long time and let him calm down his self I feel so bad but there's nothing I can do I feel helpless 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 8966 posts
May 5th

doesn't scream autism to me while reading that blurb.
but you're the mom. trust your momma instincts.
it wouldn't harm anything to mention your concerns to pediatrician and go from there.

Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1846 posts
May 5th

My dd3 is 15 months old.  She doesn't say but maybe 5 words.  Dd1 was the same.  She also is the most pickiest eater.. its horrible. I plan to talk to her pedi at her 18 month check up. And she has horrible tantrums.  I blame it on the fact that she's teething and she can't put into words what she wants/needs yet. I don't necessarily think that behavior screams autism. 

...B... 4 kids; 3 angel babies; .., .., Christmas Island 1223 posts
May 6th

My son was very similar to what you describe, except the food part. He would eat, but was (still is) very picky. He didnt talk until closer to 3, and his tantrums are still horrible, although they dont last quite as long as they once did. He is 3.5 now. 

16 months seems a little young to be told of a speech delay, but im no doctor. Otherwise the behaviors dont necessarily seem autistic, but i would address any concerns with your pedi. 

mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2628 posts
May 6th

Ds1 didn't say much of anything until we put him in preschool at 2. After that he started talking. I wouldn't worry about it to much. When he gets into school(even preschool) it will show if he may have learning delays. The tantrums just may be his personality, my oldest would throw himself about the floor having a complete melt down and beat his head on the wall, it slowly subsided as he got closer to 3.

Blair B Due January 25; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 3227 posts
May 6th

I'm mainly worried about these temper tantrums they're so bad and they're over nothing do you know why he could be doing this? 

Blair B Due January 25; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 3227 posts
May 6th

Quoting mrs.white8389:
Ds1 didn't say much of anything until we put him in preschool at 2. After that he started talking. I wouldn't worry about it to much. When he gets into school(even preschool) it will show if he may have learning delays. The tantrums just may be his personality, my oldest would throw himself about the floor having a complete melt down and beat his head on the wall, it slowly subsided as he got closer to 3.


I can't wait until his subsides. He just there another one they're almost daily. They last until he falls asleep 

...B... 4 kids; 3 angel babies; .., .., Christmas Island 1223 posts
May 6th

Quoting Blair B:
I'm mainly worried about these temper tantrums they're so bad and they're over nothing do you know why he could be doing this? 


They are probably because he cant communicate what he wants and gets frustrated, and when they are that little they just get "taken over" by their emotions. 

mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2628 posts
May 6th

Quoting ...B...:

They are probably because he cant communicate what he wants and gets frustrated, and when they are that little they just get "taken over" by their emotions. 


This!

maybe try teaching him simple sign language so he can communicate things he would like but just can't say with words yet.

Royal_Lux United States 2615 posts
May 6th

As much as it could be little to nothing, never bad to check in and or mention to pedi. Early intervention is key and yes, children can be diagnosed with delays and or being on autism spectrum as early as 2. Id rather be wrong and overly concerned, then pushed aside gut feelings of something being off.

Dr. Don't just jump into an evaluation, they first test the delays and if there's concern to helping your child with any interventions like occupational therapy and or speech therapy. Those are really just exercises to helping your child to find ways to progress and catch up to their milestones. If there's a consistent learning concerns, while receiving early invention then suggestions about evaluations would be made. 

Royal_Lux United States 2615 posts
May 6th

My son is on spectrum, doesn't have issues with eating and yet he does throw tantrums due to not being able to communicate. It's just about figuring out, ways of him being able to express himself. He is two and only says 1 word (mama). He has said a couple words, inconsistently and randomly. I had a gut feeling things were different. He began speech and occupational therapy, at 16/17mths.  He was evaluated and diagnosed 2wks before his 2nd birthday. 

hilee18 1 child; United States 691 posts
May 6th

I think it's worth calling early intervention even just for the speech delay they can work with him on OT stuff too like eating. 

♥ my girls 3 kids; Australia 1756 posts
May 7th

If you are worried have him evaluated.
but he sounds just like my DD 2 was, she didn't say anything but "mum" until she was 3, she ate next to nothing and chucked massive tantrums that lasted 30-40 minutes.

when she started talking at 3 alot changed, she is still a fussy eater, but we are working on it and now that she talks she hardly chucks tantrums how she did before  (she doesn't have autism)