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why does this have to be so difficult. CaperMommy TTC since Dec 2016; 2 kids; Somewhere over the rainbow., OZ, Canada 1236 posts
May 3rd

Awhile back my 2yo dd was sick and had croup followed by a really bad ear infection. She started to sleep in my bed, so we can keep a closer eye on her with her cough, and she was up most of the night anyways. Once her cough stopped we would attempt to put her back in her bed but shortly after she would wake up and climb back in with us. Now she straight out refuses to sleep in her bed. Its becoming SO stressful, me and SO just want our bed back, and not hanging of the edge(dd is a bed hog). She just fell asleep watching a movie with her sister, I moved her to her bed (and I moved her as if I was moving a bomb, extremely careful) But of course as soon as I get into her room, she opens her eyes and started losing it... "Noooooo Mommys bed...." I was told if I just leave her she will eventually cry herself to sleep. But I feel so bad.

bia. ., ., Portugal 102229 posts
May 3rd

Nip that in the butt, otherwise you'll be like me and have a 9yr old who refuses to sleep in her bedroom..doesn't help my other 2 sleep with me as well lol...anyways! Have you tried to lay down with her in her room? What about dragging a mattress in there and tell her you're sleeping by her, only on the floor? I've seen people do it..

Red~Origami 2 kids; United States 5283 posts
May 3rd

I sit on dds bed til she falls asleep then walk out. Istarted with laying down with her and gradually move away. Now i sit at the edge near the door and dont make contact. If she starts kicking off i tell her to stop or mommy wont stay. She continues i walk out. So far its working. She used to scream for hours. Now she fusses 10minutes on bad nights and or falls asleep in 10 minutes. We also bought her a big body pillowand a vozy new blanket. Hug. It sucks to here them cry but ive had to sometimes and it sucked. 

CaperMommy TTC since Dec 2016; 2 kids; Somewhere over the rainbow., OZ, Canada 1236 posts
May 3rd

I am going to try laying with her for a bit, I got to try something. She use to be great going to bed. ugh.
She is passed out for now, not sure for how long. if she wakes up and sees that she is not in my bed/I'm not there she will come out and try to get in my bed. She has so many Mickey/Minnie stuffies that she just has to have with her in bed, as well as her Mickey throw blanket, she will not sleep/laydown without. However maybe if I place a body pillow next to her, she will "think" or feel as though SO or myself is next to her. That she is not alone.
At this point willing to try anything, I am getting little to no sleep.

...B... 4 kids; 3 angel babies; .., .., Christmas Island 1223 posts
May 3rd

Ugh i have no advice really. I just got my kids to fall asleep in their own beds recently, but their beds are currently in my room. I dont see them being moved out anytime soon, and if they wake up in the night its hard to get them back into their own beds. 

I will say that i have found transferring them so carefully and gently wakes them up more often than not. At least for my kids, if i just kinda do normal speed and movement and kinda just plop them(not roughly, but not cautiously either) in their beds they are more likely to stay asleep. 

Red~Origami 2 kids; United States 5283 posts
May 3rd

Quoting CaperMommy:
I am going to try laying with her for a bit, I got to try something. She use to be great going to bed. ugh.
She is passed out for now, not sure for how long. if she wakes up and sees that she is not in my bed/I'm not there she will come out and try to get in my bed. She has so many Mickey/Minnie stuffies that she just has to have with her in bed, as well as her Mickey throw blanket, she will not sleep/laydown without. However maybe if I place a body pillow next to her, she will "think" or feel as though SO or myself is next to her. That she is not alone.
At this point willing to try anything, I am getting little to no sleep.


The key is being consistent! Gl!

mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2628 posts
May 4th

I personally would baby gate her door so she can't get out and let her scream. But I hate bed sharing with a passion, no one but me and dh can be in the bed or I'll flip. Dh fixed ds1 getting out of bed one night, he scared the crap out of him and he hasn't gotten out of bed since, sleeps perfectly all night with all his Spiderman stuff and 15 toy trucks. If he gets up in the morning he will sit on the couch quietly and play trucks until I get up.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3702 posts
May 4th

Quoting mrs.white8389:
I personally would baby gate her door so she can't get out and let her scream. But I hate bed sharing with a passion, no one but me and dh can be in the bed or I'll flip. Dh fixed ds1 getting out of bed one night, he scared the crap out of him and he hasn't gotten out of bed since, sleeps perfectly all night with all his Spiderman stuff and 15 toy trucks. If he gets up in the morning he will sit on the couch quietly and play trucks until I get up.


What the f**k is the matter with you??

OP, please don't terrify your child just to keep them in their room. Not that you would, because I'm assuming you're a normal human being. 

bia. ., ., Portugal 102229 posts
May 4th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

What the f**k is the matter with you??

OP, please don't terrify your child just to keep them in their room. Not that you would, because I'm assuming you're a normal human being. 


Seriously. What.  The. f**k. Dude. Wtf?? Wtfffff. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3702 posts
May 4th

Quoting bia.:

Seriously. What.  The. f**k. Dude. Wtf?? Wtfffff. 


That makes me so furious. WHY would you make your kid feel so scared they're afraid to get out of the bed?? You're their parent, a*****e, it's your job to make them feel safe. 

Reminds me of that shitty YT couple pranking their kids and tormenting them and thousands of people subscribing to watch. Angry I hate people so much. 

✴ Mamacita Miami, FL, United States 4041 posts
May 4th

Quoting mrs.white8389:
I personally would baby gate her door so she can't get out and let her scream. But I hate bed sharing with a passion, no one but me and dh can be in the bed or I'll flip. Dh fixed ds1 getting out of bed one night, he scared the crap out of him and he hasn't gotten out of bed since, sleeps perfectly all night with all his Spiderman stuff and 15 toy trucks. If he gets up in the morning he will sit on the couch quietly and play trucks until I get up.


Ummmmm..... Wow. 

OP, when any of my kids want to sleep with dh and I we just take them back to their room and lay down with them. I'll either hum a song while rubbing their back or we count. That usually helps them fall asleep, just knowing someone is around. We once tried making a game out of being in bed with my oldest son. The bed was a spaceship and if he got out, it would leave him. Lol it worked pretty well for a while. 

mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2628 posts
May 4th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

What the f**k is the matter with you??

OP, please don't terrify your child just to keep them in their room. Not that you would, because I'm assuming you're a normal human being. 


It was unintentional...but worked.

marmarissa Due November 28 (girl); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, ON, Canada 7865 posts
May 4th

Quoting mrs.white8389:
I personally would baby gate her door so she can't get out and let her scream. But I hate bed sharing with a passion, no one but me and dh can be in the bed or I'll flip. Dh fixed ds1 getting out of bed one night, he scared the crap out of him and he hasn't gotten out of bed since, sleeps perfectly all night with all his Spiderman stuff and 15 toy trucks. If he gets up in the morning he will sit on the couch quietly and play trucks until I get up.


.......Surprised terrible advice.   What the actual f**k?

CaperMommy TTC since Dec 2016; 2 kids; Somewhere over the rainbow., OZ, Canada 1236 posts
May 4th

DD mastered the baby gate and door knobs at any early age, no point doing that. I don't want to scare her, I will not scare her into going to bed. I am trying to make bedtime more relaxed not stressful for both of us. I just can't, I've tried but I didn't last long with the cry it out method, I feel so bad letting her cry... that my mother insist it will work after three or four nights. Last night she cried for a few minutes but was so tired she passed out pretty quick, she woke up three times between 9-11 but I would put her back in bed each time and she eventually realized she's not going to make it far. She stopped getting out of bed, probably because she was clearly tired. She would just keep yelling mommy's bed. She fell back to sleep around 11 and slept until 4. I just tucked her back in, gave her her mickey stuffy and walked out of the room. She fell back to sleep and slept until 7:30.

marmarissa Due November 28 (girl); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, ON, Canada 7865 posts
May 4th

Quoting CaperMommy:
DD mastered the baby gate and door knobs at any early age, no point doing that. I don't want to scare her, I will not scare her into going to bed. I am trying to make bedtime more relaxed not stressful for both of us. I just can't, I've tried but I didn't last long with the cry it out method, I feel so bad letting her cry... that my mother insist it will work after three or four nights. Last night she cried for a few minutes but was so tired she passed out pretty quick, she woke up three times between 9-11 but I would put her back in bed each time and she eventually realized she's not going to make it far. She stopped getting out of bed, probably because she was clearly tired. She would just keep yelling mommy's bed. She fell back to sleep around 11 and slept until 4. I just tucked her back in, gave her her mickey stuffy and walked out of the room. She fell back to sleep and slept until 7:30.


That's progress!  Consistency is key!