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Open relationships... Mother-of-four 4 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 1617 posts
Apr 19th

I'm not the least bit interested but it seems to be becoming a big thing over here and I'm struggling to see the other side of it. 

Have you ever been in one? Could you? Why or why not?

♥Jessie♥ TTC since Sep 2017; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 13631 posts
Apr 19th

I couldn't do it. I feel like if you have truly found your soul mate they are enough for you and if they aren't then you haven't found your soul mate.

MOMMY 9.0 TTC since Jan 1997; 6 kids; Minnesota 12447 posts
Apr 19th

I definitely could not! I am way too jealous of a person to share my husband.. And to be honest I have no desire to be with another person physically or emotionally. 

I mean the idea of an open relationship doesn't bother me but it's not my thing. 

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4569 posts
Apr 19th

I don't really understand the point. I mean if you aren't complete and happy with each other then let go instead of hanging on to someone who doesn't excite you enough to keep you satisfied anymore. i don't really think that open relationships end up working out anyway 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3692 posts
Apr 19th

Meh. I couldn't, but to each their own. They don't need my understanding or approval. If it's consensual and makes them happy, awesome!

A.V.N. 2 kids; 4167 posts
Apr 19th

Not for me.  I'm not gonna pretend that I can't understand how or why some people aren't completely fulfilled by their primary partners alone but I personally think open relationships are better suited to unmarried, childless adults.  To each their own though !

rachelellie Due August 21; United States 293 posts
Apr 19th

I have known several couples that had open relationships....needless to say after that first or second year the original couple was no longer together...I hate to judge and tried to be open and accepting of the relationship, but now I just dont know, because I only see it not working in the end.

°•♡Alice♡•° TTC since Jun 2013; 1 angel baby; Wonderland, VA, United States 3661 posts
Apr 19th

I tried it with another relationship and it was horrible, he ended up hooking up on the couch while I 'slept' on the floor. It was a small party, and he and this girl who I knew had a thing for him. The three of us discussed the situation before and I thought it would be ok, but it wasn't lol. 

Mother-of-four 4 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 1617 posts
Apr 19th

Quoting lamb_nodules:
Meh. I couldn't, but to each their own. They don't need my understanding or approval. If it's consensual and makes them happy, awesome!


An old family friend messaged me asking my opinion on it as his long term girlfriend asked if he was willing to have an open relationship, I told him that I couldn't do it personally but I guess he ended up agreeing to it and now I can tell it's eating at him terribly.  Was just curious if it's ever successful or not because it just sounds like a recipe for disaster.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3692 posts
Apr 19th

Quoting Mother-of-four:

An old family friend messaged me asking my opinion on it as his long term girlfriend asked if he was willing to have an open relationship, I told him that I couldn't do it personally but I guess he ended up agreeing to it and now I can tell it's eating at him terribly.  Was just curious if it's ever successful or not because it just sounds like a recipe for disaster.


I belive one of the members on here (or ex-members) has been in a polygamous marriage, and what sounds like a successful one. She discussed it openly and her insight was really eye-opening, in the sense that there's all kinds of kind and not everyone will fit into one mould and be made happy by things that make me happy. 

✴ Mamacita {39w} Due October 23 (girl); Miami, FL, United States 4032 posts
Apr 19th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

I belive one of the members on here (or ex-members) has been in a polygamous marriage, and what sounds like a successful one. She discussed it openly and her insight was really eye-opening, in the sense that there's all kinds of kind and not everyone will fit into one mould and be made happy by things that make me happy. 


Good Queen Bess I believe her name was.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 8952 posts
Apr 19th

I couldn't even do it. Why have the commitment of a relationship? I'd rather just be FWB. Even then, I wouldn't want to know who else they were doing. I look at it in the view where if you want to be with me, you should be so into me that you don't even wanna look/think/be with any one else 

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10674 posts
Apr 19th

I couldn't do it. 

Sebastian Blake <3 2 kids; United Kingdom 4499 posts
Apr 20th

I couldn't stand the thought of my husband being with someone else and I have have no desire to be with anyone else myself. So it's definitely not for us. Also, we live in such a small town that there's no way it would go unnoticed so I'd either have to deal with infidelity rumours or address it. That sounds not fun. And complicated!

It's hard to understand how it is ok for anyone but I know that my preferences are not the same as others and this is just another way people differ. I would think both partners have to be 100% onboard though or it's definitely a recipe for disaster.