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Faking injury Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5880 posts
status Apr 12th

4.5 y/o DS1 now has a new way of trying to get out of doing things by faking an injury or ailment. If I ask him to pick something up, come with me to the kitchen, find his shoes, go to bed, etc it's "I can't walk my legs hurt" or "I can't get up", even though 5 mins prior he was jumping off furniture and running through the house. Shy If it's trying to get him to pick up toys, I wait it out. Bedtime, I pick his butt up and take him to bed. But if we're trying to leave it becomes really frustrating. I can't wait 30-40 mins for him to get over his fake injury, and if I'm alone with him and DS2 it becomes more complicated because I can't carry both of them. He's been doing this for about a month now and it's starting to escalate. The other night while screaming during a tantrum he started fake choking. Because I wouldn't let him play a video game. Angry

Has anyone else's kid gone through a phase like this? What did you do? And please tell me it didn't last long...

Spider_Monkey 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 598 posts
Apr 12th

My 4 year old always does this when I tell her to do something she doesn't want to do. It's "my stomach hurts" "my legs hurt" "my arms hurt" "I'm tired" ...I simply tell her if she doesn't do it, she needs to stand in time out, go to bed, she doesn't get dessert, some kind of punishment. Sometimes she does what she's told and sometimes she takes her punishment.

♥Jessie♥ 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 13254 posts
Apr 12th

Yes. We talked about the little boy who cried wolf and they had a punishment that felt appropriate for lying.

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8160 posts
Apr 12th

I'm a "mean mommy." I look at whatever part is "hurting" and ask if he's bleeding or if it's broken. If he says no, then I tell him he is fine and ignore it. 
My common phrase is "If you aren't bleeding or dying, you are fine." But like I said, I'm a mean mom. Shy

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Apr 12th

Play a game: "oh you can't walk, guess you won't be able to walk your ass to come and get this ice cream".

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8160 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :
Play a game: "oh you can't walk, guess you won't be able to walk your ass to come and get this ice cream".


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anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 772 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
I'm a "mean mommy." I look at whatever part is "hurting" and ask if he's bleeding or if it's broken. If he says no, then I tell him he is fine and ignore it. 
My common phrase is "If you aren't bleeding or dying, you are fine." But like I said, I'm a mean mom. Shy


This is my method. DS pulls this a lot, but it's short lived. He knows if he's not bleeding, puking or otherwise obviously harmed, he's not getting out of anything. Lol. 

✴ Mamacita {26w} Due October 23 (girl); Miami, FL, United States 4009 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :
Play a game: "oh you can't walk, guess you won't be able to walk your ass to come and get this ice cream".


Lol exactly Super Happy

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Apr 12th

I am also a mean mom and when my older son (6) says things like "I can't walk", "I can't move my arms/legs", etc, I pull up pictures and video of people who actually can't walk or are paralyzed and we talk about why it's not ok to lie or joke about such things because he wouldn't like it very much if such were actually the case. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3657 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
I'm a "mean mommy." I look at whatever part is "hurting" and ask if he's bleeding or if it's broken. If he says no, then I tell him he is fine and ignore it. 
My common phrase is "If you aren't bleeding or dying, you are fine." But like I said, I'm a mean mom. Shy


I don't find that mean at all. They're not actually in pain and I have zero tolerance for lying. Like PP said. Can't walk? Better go to bed then. Belly hurts? Can't eat these sweets. Etc. They'll soon catch on. 

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 8160 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

I don't find that mean at all. They're not actually in pain and I have zero tolerance for lying. Like PP said. Can't walk? Better go to bed then. Belly hurts? Can't eat these sweets. Etc. They'll soon catch on. 


I say mean mom as a joke. All my friend joke with me and say I am because I don't take shit. 38

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4565 posts
Apr 12th

DD is almost 3 and she always says her tummy hurts when she wants juice (we only have juice at breakfast) or a treat or if she just wants to be held. She gets over it pretty fast if i redirect her attention to something else

Hi_ImBob Due February 5; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 2057 posts
Apr 12th

My oldest started doing this around age 5 and STILL does it, shes 9. I never give in to it either. Whenever  she complains her legs, arms, eye, stomach, knee, elbow ect hurts I just ignore it now. I won't indulge her by carrying her anywhere or doing anything for her. She just recently failed her eye exam at school and they made me take her to the eye doctor (after they sent home several papers because I disagreed she needed glasses). She passed the exam with flying colors. I wanted to flip out because I had to leave work early to take her. I did go off on her just a little because she thinks having glasses would be FUN. I wear glasses and I told her - I can't swim with them or go on amusement park rides with them or take a shower with them - I do these things NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE. But it was a beautiful day out and got to enjoy some of the day. Good luck!

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3657 posts
Apr 12th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:

I say mean mom as a joke. All my friend joke with me and say I am because I don't take shit. 38


I think most British people are pretty unfeeling lol. Most parents I know are like get on with it, even in the case of (small) actual ailments. 

fluffyruffruff Due November 29 (boy); 4 kids; United States 4512 posts
Apr 12th

My 5yo does this. Its very frustrating.