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Large age gaps Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 447 posts
Mar 20th

So my daughter is 7 and will be 8 in August, when the new baby is born. Both girls. I'm worried the large age gap wont make them very close. Before I knew gender my doc said hope its a boy so they get along...


My sister and I are 7 years apart. We get along mostly good. So what about you moms with kids and larger age gaps.... how do your little ones get along?

rachelellie Due August 21; United States 292 posts
Mar 20th

My sons are 11 years apart (I do have two daughters in between), but they get along great!!! I love seeing how my littlest looks ups to his big bro (and his two older sisters).  My kids are currently 14, 12, 9, and 2.  I honestly love having older kids....they are soooo helpful :)

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 7832 posts
status Mar 20th

My older son will be 9 this summer and I just had a baby in January. I enjoy the age gap so far. My oldest is very independent and helpful. Plus he loves the baby. 

ETA- I am 11 years older than my sister and 13 years older than my brother. We are very close now.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3594 posts
status Mar 20th

Hope it's a boy so they get along? What? What a stupid and unprofessional thing to say. 

My sister and I are ten years apart. We're super good friends now. We probably wouldn't be as close if she was a boy, but then, who knows. 


Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 447 posts
Mar 20th

Thanks, its nice to hear that it can turn out very well. She is excited to be a helper.

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Mar 20th

Quoting lamb_nodules:
Hope it's a boy so they get along? What? What a stupid and unprofessional thing to say. 

My sister and I are ten years apart. We're super good friends now. We probably wouldn't be as close if she was a boy, but then, who knows. 




I am a lot closer with my older brother than I am with my older sister. He's 9 years older than me, I always figured we were closer BECAUSE I was a girl and he was a boy, I was his baby sister that he always wanted to protect. There was never any competition between us. Not that our parents pit us against each other, but to this day my sister acts like I came along and was her competition, that I was trying to take her place as the daughter.

Team❤Pink 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Maryland 4491 posts
Mar 20th

My oldest is 7, 8 in June and the baby is 8 months. I know it's too early to determine if they will get along in the upcoming years but for now, my 8 month old thinks her big sis rise and sets the sun. She is in awe over her. And my oldest just loves her. Always saying,  "mom, why is she so cute !"  Beside myself,  she is the only one in the house that can calm her when she's fussy. My dh is always yelling for her to come help him with the baby. Lol.

browncrayon07 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dixon, Il, United States 2329 posts
Mar 20th

My oldest sister and I are 10 years apart. We were very close til she moved away and we drifted apart. That was probably 5 years ago??

DS and DD are 10 years apart. At first he was very excited, but after a while the "new toy" feeling passed and he's just like eh. Lol I can tell he loves his little sister and that they will be close when she's old enough to return the attention if that makes sense. I like the age gap because he helps and he's very self sufficient.

LittlebuttsMamax2.5 [30w] Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Asheville, North Carolina 17283 posts
Mar 20th

My girls are 6 years apart and I was worried too. Even my MIL had said they'd never get along and we should of just stopped at 1 Shy. My oldest wasn't excited, wouldn't hold her when she got here and was super jealous. It only took a few weeks and she started to adore her. My husband was working nights and sometimes DD2 would just cry and cry and my oldest would sing to her and hold her hand and she'd stop. She was a huge helper, even now. They are best friends. Sometimes she wants to be alone because well DD2 is so much younger and can get annoying lol but DD1 is so great with her, and protects her and talks about her to everyone. 

Now we're having another and she is beyond thrilled and I'm never about having them only 2 years apart haha

Yokoshimalove 2 kids; United States 491 posts
Mar 20th

My daughter will be 7 on april 21st and im due on April 9th. They will have 7 years apart I have the same fear that they won't be close or get alone. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3594 posts
status Mar 20th

Quoting Consuela*:

I am a lot closer with my older brother than I am with my older sister. He's 9 years older than me, I always figured we were closer BECAUSE I was a girl and he was a boy, I was his baby sister that he always wanted to protect. There was never any competition between us. Not that our parents pit us against each other, but to this day my sister acts like I came along and was her competition, that I was trying to take her place as the daughter.


That's between you and your sister. Maybe she's a prat. Maybe your parents preferred you. Maybe a million things. I don't know. But a medical professional saying you should hope it's a boy cause if it's a girl they won't get along is stupid and incorrect and unprofessional. 

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Mar 20th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

That's between you and your sister. Maybe she's a prat. Maybe your parents preferred you. Maybe a million things. I don't know. But a medical professional saying you should hope it's a boy cause if it's a girl they won't get along is stupid and incorrect and unprofessional. 


I don't disagree that it was unprofessional, in fact I think I missed the part that the doctor said that! I thought OP was saying that, didn't read it closely. None of her damn business to be saying that!

bia. 3 kids; ., ., Portugal 101911 posts
Mar 20th

Quoting Supermommy08:
So my daughter is 7 and will be 8 in August, when the new baby is born. Both girls. I'm worried the large age gap wont make them very close. Before I knew gender my doc said hope its a boy so they get along...


My sister and I are 7 years apart. We get along mostly good. So what about you moms with kids and larger age gaps.... how do your little ones get along?


What an ignorant thing to say. Shy

My DD1 and DD2 aren't quite 5 years apart, so not SUPER large, but big enough. They are 9 and 4 now and get along good as, they play, and they fight ha, that's just a sibling thing though, all siblings fight at some point, regardless the sex. Shy me and my big brother are 10 years apart and don't get on at all, SO. 

MommyBearTo4 Due August 6; 3 kids; Fenton, MO, United States 276 posts
Mar 20th

Our oldest is 15 and youngest is 5. With one on the way. Or 5 and 15 year old are close. The older one adores the youngest one and cannot wait for the new one. We have a middle that is 12. The 15 and 12 year old are close but more mean to each other than nice. It isn't hugs and loves like with the youngest and oldest. The 12 and 5 year old are both boys and both are close. They play well and often!  
So I think it is in how you raise your children. Ours know the value of family and We rarely have the older ones babysit. I mean very very rarely. Maybe one night a month for an hour. If that. Seriously. We try to prevent any unfairness or resentment between them!  

Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 447 posts
Mar 20th

Quoting MommyBearTo4:
Our oldest is 15 and youngest is 5. With one on the way. Or 5 and 15 year old are close. The older one adores the youngest one and cannot wait for the new one. We have a middle that is 12. The 15 and 12 year old are close but more mean to each other than nice. It isn't hugs and loves like with the youngest and oldest. The 12 and 5 year old are both boys and both are close. They play well and often!  
So I think it is in how you raise your children. Ours know the value of family and We rarely have the older ones babysit. I mean very very rarely. Maybe one night a month for an hour. If that. Seriously. We try to prevent any unfairness or resentment between them!  



Good point about the babysitting. Thank you.