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Am i wrong? Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 543 posts
status Mar 17th

I asked my mom to watch my daughter tomorrow as I was invited to a good friends house warming thats about 2 hours away. She always makes a big deal out of it. I work full time and her dad only takes her one night a week. I barely ever go out. The last time was just for a couple hours to a baby shower. She then says my sister never goes out. Well thats cause my,sister has anxiety and doesn't trust anyone to watch her children. She made it seem like I'm a bad mom cause I go out once in awhile. Now I'm so upset I don't even want to go anymore. Am I wrong for wanting some adult time once in awhile? Does that make me a bad mom?

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Mar 17th

Why don't you just find someone else to watch your kid? A drop-in daycare? A friend?

Of course you're not wrong for wanting some adult time, but if your mom clearly doesn't want to baby sit ... *shrug*

Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 543 posts
status Mar 17th

I don't have anyone else i trust 

Drew90 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7188 posts
Mar 17th

You're not wrong, but I wouldn't ask her to babysit anymore because it just sounds Like she doesn't want to do it 

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting Supermommy08:
I don't have anyone else i trust 


It sounds like she's only agreeing to watch her because you're making her feel obligated. If you didn't have mom to lean on for this, what would you do? 

It really just sounds like she doesn't want to do it, is feeling obligated to, and it's causing resentment.

bia. ., ., Portugal 102104 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting DaniellaEllaElla:
Why don't you just find someone else to watch your kid? A drop-in daycare? A friend?

Of course you're not wrong for wanting some adult time, but if your mom clearly doesn't want to baby sit ... *shrug*


Right.  

bia. ., ., Portugal 102104 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting Supermommy08:
I don't have anyone else i trust 


That's too bad then.

Red~Origami 2 kids; United States 5267 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting Supermommy08:
I don't have anyone else i trust 


Where is your kid while working full time? 

tinana+2 (37w) Due September 6 (boy); 2 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 45924 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting DaniellaEllaElla:
Why don't you just find someone else to watch your kid? A drop-in daycare? A friend?

Of course you're not wrong for wanting some adult time, but if your mom clearly doesn't want to baby sit ... *shrug*



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tinana+2 (37w) Due September 6 (boy); 2 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 45924 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting bia.:

That's too bad then.



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DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting bia.:

That's too bad then.


My mom used to tell me "Sorry, honey, I finished raising my kids" 38

Not in a mean way, but she's old. And not a babysitter. She wants time with her grandchildren on her terms, which isn't too much to ask.

Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 543 posts
status Mar 17th

I dont make her feel obligated. She goes to school during the week and after school while I work which is only open during the week. I never leave her with my mom when she says no. I wasnt asking about making her watch my daughter. I was asking the point of her saying it makes me a bad mom to go out sometimes. Which is why I said I dont even want to go anymore.

Supermommy08 1 child; 2 angel babies; United States 543 posts
status Mar 17th

Quoting bia.:

That's too bad then.


Dont get that comment. Considering I dont need to go out. I was simply asking if I'm wrong for needing some time out. Never made her to anything

bia. ., ., Portugal 102104 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting Supermommy08:

Dont get that comment. Considering I dont need to go out. I was simply asking if I'm wrong for needing some time out. Never made her to anything


What don't you get? 

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Mar 17th

Quoting Supermommy08:
I dont make her feel obligated. She goes to school during the week and after school while I work which is only open during the week. I never leave her with my mom when she says no. I wasnt asking about making her watch my daughter. I was asking the point of her saying it makes me a bad mom to go out sometimes. Which is why I said I dont even want to go anymore.


She doesn't feel obligated, which is why she is begrudgingly watching your daughter and making you even ask this question? Oh. Well I dunno. Sounds like a mystery!