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is this in violation? fluffyruffruff Due November 29 (boy); 4 kids; United States 4466 posts
Feb 16th

I have an ex parte order of protection against my husband. We are still going to court over it because it involves a case that he has against him involving a felony charge. Hes not allowed to have direct contact with me or my children, nor is he allowed to contact me through a third party. Last week he had his power of attorney shut our water off because it was still in his name... WHERE HIS CHILDREN LIVE. I spoke with the DA and he thinks that is in violation of the protection order. Anyway, i got home from work tonight and my neighbor told me that the police were beating on my door earlier. I asked the sitter if they had been there and she said that my husbands sister told them that she hadnt heard from me in awhile and they were doing a welfare check on me. In the almost 7 years that we have been married, my children and i have met his sister ONCE and we have only spoken a few times. we arent friends so its not like we have regular contact with each other. She hasnt attempted to call or text me, she has my phone number. As far as im concerned, we have no business together. Shes never played an active roll in any of our lives. Im livid. This was my babysitters first day with the kids and she was terrified! Im contacting my lawyer tomorrow to make her aware of the situation, but im wondering if this is in violation. I feel like im being harassed by a man in JAIL. How tf does that happen???

♡J+C+B+J+0=5♡ 5 kids; Godfrey, IL, United States 5305 posts
Feb 16th

Yes I think it is. It for sure it harassment. Your poor sitter. I would speak to your attorney. 

bia. ., ., Portugal 102045 posts
Feb 16th

What in the ever f**k...yes I think it is, totally! He's such a t**t. Shy

✩ ℒioȵεsȿ 99749 posts
Feb 16th

Quoting ♡J+C+B+J+0=5♡:
Yes I think it is. It for sure it harassment. Your poor sitter. I would speak to your attorney. 


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mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2615 posts
Feb 17th

Depends...if bills are I'm his name he has every right to turn them off or remove his name off the account because who is to say you will pay them and if you don't it ruins his credit(our bills go on credit if unpaid) and opportunity to re-establish an account again if they were left unpaid. The responsible thing would have been is for you to go remove his name and put it in yours so it wouldn't be shut off. As far as no contact that's something to be figured out. But cops banging on the door and babysitter getting scared...it's normal..cops bang and yell loudly to get attention of the people inside. Had them come by 3 times to do a welfare check and it sounded like my door was being beat down and it had my family oriented, doesn't bark at strangers, big baby of a pit bull bowing up and bearing teeth until I answered the door.

Drew90 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7068 posts
status Feb 17th

Quoting ♡J+C+B+J+0=5♡:
Yes I think it is. It for sure it harassment. Your poor sitter. I would speak to your attorney. 


This! 

SomeMommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 71083 posts
Feb 17th

Wow, I have no real input but wanted to give you support. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Big hugs!

tinana+2 (33w) Due September 6 (boy); 2 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 45560 posts
Feb 17th


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I'm so sorry. Wtf. 

fluffyruffruff Due November 29 (boy); 4 kids; United States 4466 posts
Feb 17th

Quoting mrs.white8389:
Depends...if bills are I'm his name he has every right to turn them off or remove his name off the account because who is to say you will pay them and if you don't it ruins his credit(our bills go on credit if unpaid) and opportunity to re-establish an account again if they were left unpaid. The responsible thing would have been is for you to go remove his name and put it in yours so it wouldn't be shut off. As far as no contact that's something to be figured out. But cops banging on the door and babysitter getting scared...it's normal..cops bang and yell loudly to get attention of the people inside. Had them come by 3 times to do a welfare check and it sounded like my door was being beat down and it had my family oriented, doesn't bark at strangers, big baby of a pit bull bowing up and bearing teeth until I answered the door.


Riiiight. Because i didnt have anything else on my mind... Like recently becoming a single mother of 4, trying to keep a full time job, trying to find a baby sitter, not even knowing when bills were due because he always paid them, trying to get on government assistance because theres no way i can manage all of my bills myself, trying to get a lawyer, court dates, etc... Because the list goes on... But thank you for telling me what the RESPONSIBLE thing to do would have been. Thanks i appreciate it. I mean, cuz most people would have the utilities shut off where their kids live. Way to justify it. Thanks. 

fluffyruffruff Due November 29 (boy); 4 kids; United States 4466 posts
Feb 17th

Thanks ladies for the support. Im def. Going to give my attorney a call this morning. My boss called the DA and he is going to call her back... If my lawyer wont, then i will call the police station and make them aware of the situation that way it wont happen again. His family is full of vindictive crazies.

bia. ., ., Portugal 102045 posts
Feb 17th

Quoting fluffyruffruff:

Riiiight. Because i didnt have anything else on my mind... Like recently becoming a single mother of 4, trying to keep a full time job, trying to find a baby sitter, not even knowing when bills were due because he always paid them, trying to get on government assistance because theres no way i can manage all of my bills myself, trying to get a lawyer, court dates, etc... Because the list goes on... But thank you for telling me what the RESPONSIBLE thing to do would have been. Thanks i appreciate it. I mean, cuz most people would have the utilities shut off where their kids live. Way to justify it. Thanks. 



Very Sad <3

HFlo14 TTC since Oct 2016; United States 552 posts
Feb 17th

I just want to give you a hug <3 

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Feb 21st

Quoting fluffyruffruff:

Riiiight. Because i didnt have anything else on my mind... Like recently becoming a single mother of 4, trying to keep a full time job, trying to find a baby sitter, not even knowing when bills were due because he always paid them, trying to get on government assistance because theres no way i can manage all of my bills myself, trying to get a lawyer, court dates, etc... Because the list goes on... But thank you for telling me what the RESPONSIBLE thing to do would have been. Thanks i appreciate it. I mean, cuz most people would have the utilities shut off where their kids live. Way to justify it. Thanks. would sy



Huge hugs. And yes - your plate is full. I don't think the poster was trying to say you are irresponsible, just in the eye of the law....... that's what they would say.

The dude is trying to ruff you up, trying to get to you. Try not to play into it. Stay focused.....you got this!!!

fluffyruffruff Due November 29 (boy); 4 kids; United States 4466 posts
Feb 21st

I really appreciate all of the support <3 it feels like everything in my life is a battle anymore, nothing can just be easy. I think if i stopped to really think about everything, i probably wouldnt be able to function. We had court this morning and the judge granted a protection order for myself and the children. My lawyer was awesome. DH tried to say that i was abusive and hes been trying to get away from me for years... The judge rolled his eyes and said he has no sympathy for him. Thankfully he saw right through all of his bs. If i was abusing him, why would he contest a protection order? It works both ways. Sigh. Anyway, next up is the divorce and custody thing. I cant wait for all of this to be behind us.

SomeMommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 71083 posts
Feb 21st

Quoting fluffyruffruff:
I really appreciate all of the support <3 it feels like everything in my life is a battle anymore, nothing can just be easy. I think if i stopped to really think about everything, i probably wouldnt be able to function. We had court this morning and the judge granted a protection order for myself and the children. My lawyer was awesome. DH tried to say that i was abusive and hes been trying to get away from me for years... The judge rolled his eyes and said he has no sympathy for him. Thankfully he saw right through all of his bs. If i was abusing him, why would he contest a protection order? It works both ways. Sigh. Anyway, next up is the divorce and custody thing. I cant wait for all of this to be behind us.


<333 Just keep rocking girl! So glad the judge granted those orders and was on your side with it all! Fingers are staying crossed for you and your kids <333