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bs over income tax MamaBearRaaaaawr 2 kids; Wouldn't You Like to Kno 148 posts
Feb 10th

Alright so my 5 year relationship wit my daughters dad jus blew up all, due to income tax. We've been living with my mother for over 2 years since he came home from being incarcerated. So she basically does everything for us. Helped put girls on life/health insurance and since he refuses to work basically pays everything. ND wen he does it's like pulling teeth to get him to give me money for our girls for thier diapers clothes etc.He didn't want me to work cause our daughters are still young .
So due to the fact that my mom does EVERYTHING I allowed her to claim my girls which is totally legal due to the new path law they set out. But by doin this he basically took it as me saying our girls aren't his and that I'm just out for his money. Which is total bullshiiit. He took all his stuff and left then told our oldest that it's mommy's fault we aren't family anymore. I really think he blew everything outta proportion and if he wanted to be able to claim us that he should of put in the time and effort by working and supporting us. It doesn't help that he's also trying to make it out like I'm in the wrong and did something illegal. Ugh.
Rant over!!!

tinana+2 (37w) Due September 6 (boy); 2 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 45933 posts
status Feb 10th

Honestly, I'd have let him leave easily. He sounds like a deadbeat.

MamaBearRaaaaawr 2 kids; Wouldn't You Like to Kno 148 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting tinana+2&{10w}:
Honestly, I'd have let him leave easily. He sounds like a deadbeat.


I did I didn't fight him to stay but he blew up this whole situation outta proportion. Maybe it's just me but the way he acted was so selfish

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3657 posts
Feb 10th

This relationship sounds unhealthy and he sounds like a waste of space, so I'm thinking you're better off. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3657 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting MamaBearRaaaaawr:

I did I didn't fight him to stay but he blew up this whole situation outta proportion. Maybe it's just me but the way he acted was so selfish


I mean, is that surprising to you? I figured out he was selfish two sentences in. Surely you knew that. 

tinana+2 (37w) Due September 6 (boy); 2 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 45933 posts
status Feb 10th

Quoting MamaBearRaaaaawr:

I did I didn't fight him to stay but he blew up this whole situation outta proportion. Maybe it's just me but the way he acted was so selfish



Sounds very selfish but living with your mom and neither of you working doesn't come across as unselfish either. I'd get a job, get on my feet, and make a good life for those kids. Don't need someone like him bringing you guys down. Good luck!

MamaBearRaaaaawr 2 kids; Wouldn't You Like to Kno 148 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting lamb_nodules:

I mean, is that surprising to you? I figured out he was selfish two sentences in. Surely you knew that. 


Surprising no. Unexpected yes since we talked and came to a conclusion that it would be OK for my mother to claim them. Now he's saying our girls ain't his and that now since he can't claim them it's Gna look bad on his record since someone else is. If he was sooo worried about his record he should have done everything for them instead of havin someone else.

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 36109 posts
status Feb 10th

What an idiot. You're way better off without him. If anything he was probably using you guys. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3657 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting MamaBearRaaaaawr:

Surprising no. Unexpected yes since we talked and came to a conclusion that it would be OK for my mother to claim them. Now he's saying our girls ain't his and that now since he can't claim them it's Gna look bad on his record since someone else is. If he was sooo worried about his record he should have done everything for them instead of havin someone else.


What a load of unnecessary drama. 

I'd ditch him. 

✩ Silver 100061 posts
Feb 10th

Sorry but he sounds like a loser anyhow so no loss there. 

Team❤Pink 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Maryland 4597 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting MamaBearRaaaaawr:
Alright so my 5 year relationship wit my daughters dad jus blew up all, due to income tax. We've been living with my mother for over 2 years since he came home from being incarcerated. So she basically does everything for us. Helped put girls on life/health insurance and since he refuses to work basically pays everything. ND wen he does it's like pulling teeth to get him to give me money for our girls for thier diapers clothes etc.He didn't want me to work cause our daughters are still young .
So due to the fact that my mom does EVERYTHING I allowed her to claim my girls which is totally legal due to the new path law they set out. But by doin this he basically took it as me saying our girls aren't his and that I'm just out for his money. Which is total bullshiiit. He took all his stuff and left then told our oldest that it's mommy's fault we aren't family anymore. I really think he blew everything outta proportion and if he wanted to be able to claim us that he should of put in the time and effort by working and supporting us. It doesn't help that he's also trying to make it out like I'm in the wrong and did something illegal. Ugh.
Rant over!!!


If he doesn't work then why/how could he claim your girls? I'm I confused?

✩ Silver 100061 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting tinana+2&{10w}:


Sounds very selfish but living with your mom and neither of you working doesn't come across as unselfish either. I'd get a job, get on my feet, and make a good life for those kids. Don't need someone like him bringing you guys down. Good luck!


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MamaBearRaaaaawr 2 kids; Wouldn't You Like to Kno 148 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting tinana+2&{10w}:


Sounds very selfish but living with your mom and neither of you working doesn't come across as unselfish either. I'd get a job, get on my feet, and make a good life for those kids. Don't need someone like him bringing you guys down. Good luck!


I've always lived with my mom but I always had a job and helped out wit the bills when I could but since she jus had a Lil boy and I jus had my 2ND daughter it was decided I'd stay home watch the kids ND keep the house cleaned etc. And by this arrangement we wouldn't have to put out more money for day care or sitters

MamaBearRaaaaawr 2 kids; Wouldn't You Like to Kno 148 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting Team❤Pink:

If he doesn't work then why/how could he claim your girls? I'm I confused?


He worked had a really good job that paid 15/hr. But wouldn't help wit house bills that he agreed to pay once hired and refused to give me money for the necessities diapers clothes wipes for our girls....

Team❤Pink 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Maryland 4597 posts
Feb 10th

Quoting MamaBearRaaaaawr:

He worked had a really good job that paid 15/hr. But wouldn't help wit house bills that he agreed to pay once hired and refused to give me money for the necessities diapers clothes wipes for our girls....


Oh, okay. I just assumed by your post he hadn't ever worked.
I think your mom has every right to claim your girls. She is the one taking care of them (and you guys too, it sounds like). If he doesn't want you working then he needs to get a job and take care of you guys. He sounds very immature and selfish. I don't see what you'd want someone like that in your life as a partner. Sounds like the trash took itself out. Count yourself lucky.