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. Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

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Mom2Kids United States 847 posts
Dec 23rd

First off I couldn't deal with a husband who doesn't pull his weight with the children, every woman needs a break. You're going to literally wear yourself out, you'll be so burnt out possibly if you have another child with having to physically take care of him/her that maybe you'd start resenting your husband and then it could cause fights/problems between you two and your marriage. Although I'm not saying it will happen. Always be honest with him, I wouldn't beg because I'd hate to have a child with my husband and him not want the kid, that would demolish me literally. I'd be so heart broken, bearing a child is suppose to be a joyous moment between you two. You never know he might come around. Goodluck. 

Team❤Pink 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Maryland 4632 posts
Dec 23rd

Honestly I wouldn't have had a second let alone talking about a third if my DH wasn't completely on board. I see future resentment happening on his part. Doesn't sound like you two want the same things.

--Mommie C 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Fresno, California 191 posts
Dec 23rd

Well my SO is the type that's wants more but a little bit spaced out but because we have 3 already that are all 2 years apart, we do want more but we have decided to wait another year or so unless it just happens, and well each time I got pregnant with my others I just told him I wanted another one and that he had to deal with it, and I could tell he kinda was like ugh I don't want another one but I only thought about what I want since I deal with them most of the time when he works but he as well helps out with them. But now we have decided together to wait a couple of years before bringing a 4th, maybe have a serious talk I mean like serious. If my SO was that way I don't know what I would do. 

.casper. TTC since Jan 2017; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 1965 posts
Dec 23rd

I think it's important that you're both on the same page with things like that, or it doesn't work. I couldn't stay with someone that didn't want the same things, because I'd feel very resentful. I think compromise is different. But, I wouldn't make my DH have another child if he really didn't want one. Sure, you might like the fact that you get extra cuddles. But I can't imagine how your kid feels knowing that daddy doesn't do anything with him because he didn't want him in the first place. I certainly wouldn't put another child in that position. 

Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

Dont get me wrong as soon as DS2 came around he loves him dearly. Hes working 630-530 everyday and he pulls more weight then ever with my 1st since im bfding and baby needs me all the time.

Its just that he can get frustrated with a crying baby because hes use to our oldest
i just wish he'd want one more! He may come around though, I just want him to know its phases and that's how babies communicate
I came from a family of 4 kids and he has an older brother but is the baby so idk if that could be it since he was never around babies until we had them

Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

Let me rephrase he wanted him once I was pregnant I think he was more afraid to picture another baby. Like he wanted to wait 10 plus years but I didnt want them so far apart

hειhει 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10659 posts
Dec 23rd

Quoting Sierra AL Burton:
Let me rephrase he wanted him once I was pregnant I think he was more afraid to picture another baby. Like he wanted to wait 10 plus years but I didnt want them so far apart


Sometimes you just have to compromise.  I would wait until be is ready. If he is wanting things that a new baby would tale away from, I would wait. 

Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

Quoting Mαяcєℓιηє:

Sometimes you just have to compromise.  I would wait until be is ready. If he is wanting things that a new baby would tale away from, I would wait. 


Yeah I probably will, when we had the second we agreed during ttc. Like I asked for 2 years and then he finallu came around.
I tend to word my stuff wrong in these sites lol like he loves the baby as much as my oldest. And hes super helpful with my oldest when I cant be there for him due to the baby.
He wakes up every night (DS1) and my SO is right there for him to put him back to sleep even when he needs to work and on weekends he doesnt bother me and baby to wake up he just leaves us be until we are ready. Hes a really good man, just stubborn when it comes to babies lol he said we were done adter DS2 but then changed his mind and said in 6 years we will. So I cant bug him more :p

¡VinHaute! Kansas City, MO, United States 47544 posts
Dec 23rd

I had said I wanted 3 and DH said he wanted 2. One day he wanted to bang and I told him "you're gonna get me pregnant dude" and he pursued me anyway and then BAM! I called it and got what I wanted anyway. 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 8950 posts
Dec 23rd

give it time, he'll come around.

Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

Quoting ¡VinHaute!:
I had said I wanted 3 and DH said he wanted 2. One day he wanted to bang and I told him "you're gonna get me pregnant dude" and he pursued me anyway and then BAM! I called it and got what I wanted anyway. 


Lol thats hilarious! Id like for us to meet in the middle with 3 he'll be on board soon. Plus he finds me attractive pregnant (not that he doesnt already lol)

Sierra AL Burton 2 kids; Canada 300 posts
Dec 23rd

Quoting Hi, I'm Sarah. ❤:
give it time, he'll come around.


I think he will :)

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 46417 posts
status Dec 23rd

Quoting Sierra AL Burton:
So I have a DS1 and DS2, but I don't feel complete. My SO does not want another, he didn't even want our 2nd but I was finally able to get him to see how important it is to me.
His problem is that he hates when newborns cry, but yet I deal with the baby all day every day, he says hi etc to the baby here and there but wont watch him (and Im totally fine more lovins for me).

I space my kids 4.5years apart just in time for the oldest to start JK. And I'd like to do the same, but he says things like no I dont want any more or wait 6+ years etc after he gets everything he wants.
I don't want to pressure him buy I don't want to wait that long.



How did you ladies end up bringing in a 3rd when SO isn't all for it?


I mean... it doesnt sound like he will come around and it's not fair to him, your current kids, or you to push an idea that someone doesn't want. Idk how old you guys are but I wouldnt bank on anything... 

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 46417 posts
status Dec 23rd

Quoting Team❤Pink:
Honestly I wouldn't have had a second let alone talking about a third if my DH wasn't completely on board. I see future resentment happening on his part. Doesn't sound like you two want the same things.



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