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I hate this. *Trigger warning* Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5807 posts
Oct 27th

Why? Why is all of the pro-life propaganda on my newsfeed upsetting me so much? I get so emotional, especially if I see it's being shared by a family member. Then there are the pictures of the tiny preemie babies. I start reading hoping to read a heartfelt story of triumph and survival. And then it turns into a pro-life rant calling people like me murderers, selfish, heartless, etc.

In August 2014 I found out I was pregnant. We announced a few days later at DS1's birthday party. Everyone was ecstatic. Then, 3 days later, things took a drastic turn. I ended up going to the ER late that night for severe abdominal pain and bleeding. They ran my levels and did an ultrasound. Levels were great. The ultrasound showed an empty uterus with a large flickering "mass" in my fallopian tube. It was an ectopic pregnancy. The doctor came in and said, "Luckily, you're early enough where we can avoid surgery. We're going to do the Methotrexate injections instead which will stop the heartbeat and the embryo from growing. Then your body will just absorb it." Luckily? How was I lucky? You're telling me that terminating my pregnancy is "lucky"? Sure didn't feel like it to me. I received two injections in my hips and then spent a little over a month going to the doctor every 2-3 days to have my levels redrawn until they finally went to 0. I was told not to conceive for 6 months or I ran the risk of having a baby with a neural tube defect. I passed everything 2.5 weeks later after having a nice date with my DH. I thought I'd finally snapped out of my grief and had actually been having a good night. It was torture. A nightmare. And now I'm reliving it every time I see a pro-life post.

I get told, "but yours was medically necessary." Yes, it was, but there was still a heartbeat. Still a tiny little embryo that was so close to becoming a fetus. And I still had to stop that tiny little heart and stop that little embryo into turning into a fetus that would eventually be my baby. I had to make the heartwrenching choice to terminate my pregnancy. A choice I never wished to make. A choice I'd never thought I'd have to make. And here I am seeing all of these posts making me feel like I'm a bad person for making that choice. Like I'm a cold-hearted killer.

I can't wait for this election to be over with so all of our political views and opinions can be shoved back under a rug for another 4 years. I'm tired of other people's opinions making me feel awful and upsetting me so much. I don't know what that doctor was talking about because I feel everything short of lucky. Very Sad

Drew90 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 6651 posts
status Oct 27th

I was never in that position but I /almost/was.
I was raped multiplr times when I was 11 years old and I don't know how I never got pregnant but I'm thankful I didn't.
 I would have had to have an abortion, there really would have been no choice there.  

S&R Besotted 2 kids; United States 5000 posts
status Oct 27th

I just want to wish you good vibes and peaceful thoughts. People are a*****es. I hate the stuff that ends up on my feeds. 

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4399 posts
Oct 27th

Aw, it was not your fault. Don't feel bad mama

Cat.Woman. 2 kids; Gotham City, PA, United States 6636 posts
Oct 27th

Sadly the people who have ever been in that position just don't understand. I'm very sorry for your loss. <3
Abortion, even an elective abortion, is a heartbreaking and difficult decision. I can't wait until it stops flooding my newsfeed also.

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5807 posts
Oct 27th

Quoting Cat.Woman.:
Sadly the people who have ever been in that position just don't understand. I'm very sorry for your loss. <3
Abortion, even an elective abortion, is a heartbreaking and difficult decision. I can't wait until it stops flooding my newsfeed also.



Thank you. It's a tough subject for some people to grasp. My experience definitely changed my views and now I would never look down on anyone for making that choice. I try so hard to be the type of person who doesn't 'unfriend' or alienate someone just because we have different beliefs. But it's so hard to see this stuff constantly. I really just need to log off and have a good cry tonight. </3

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5807 posts
Oct 27th

Quoting Drew90:
I was never in that position but I /almost/was.
I was raped multiplr times when I was 11 years old and I don't know how I never got pregnant but I'm thankful I didn't.
 I would have had to have an abortion, there really would have been no choice there.  


That's horrific. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. :( 

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5807 posts
Oct 27th

Quoting Rock_Candy:
I just want to wish you good vibes and peaceful thoughts. People are a*****es. I hate the stuff that ends up on my feeds. 



Yes, they are. Thank you. I'm going to try and avoid fb for the next few weeks. Spare myself the heartache. Hopefully it'll all die down after the 8th.

*R [E]N%A/Y ¥ 2 kids; independence, MO, United States 4619 posts
Oct 27th

I would unfollow the people posting these things.  That way your still friends but their posts won't show up.  Ice done that to a few family members I can't bring myself to delete. 

JBL Mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 878 posts
Oct 28th

I'm so sorry. And it's not your fault. I wish people would grow up and stop sharing their opinions on abortion all over social media. Like anyone wants to see it? While abortion might feel wrong to some, its not a choice for others. I too will be glad when the election is over. 

~*~Cassi~*~ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Bar Harbor, ME, United States 1560 posts
Oct 28th

I had an elective abortion when I was 17 after I had been gang raped at a party. I do not regret my choice but it certainly stings when people constantly share their pro-life opinions. I feel like I did what was best for me, and my mental health at the time. I can't imagine the damage to my psyche had I been forced to carry a constant reminder of the assault that gave me PTSD as is. 

♡J+C+B+J+0=5♡ Due April 7 (boy); 4 kids; Godfrey, IL, United States 5165 posts
Oct 28th

Quoting ~*~Cassi~*~:
I had an elective abortion when I was 17 after I had been gang raped at a party. I do not regret my choice but it certainly stings when people constantly share their pro-life opinions. I feel like I did what was best for me, and my mental health at the time. I can't imagine the damage to my psyche had I been forced to carry a constant reminder of the assault that gave me PTSD as is. 


Oh my gosh Im so sorry you went through that. I completely understand your decision. I cant imagine forcing someone to carry a baby that is a reminder of an event like that. I had a similiar experience and did not get pregnant. I would have made the same decision as you. Best wishes to you. 

♡J+C+B+J+0=5♡ Due April 7 (boy); 4 kids; Godfrey, IL, United States 5165 posts
Oct 28th

I too am so ready for this election to be over. I pray for your healing and sadness. You did what was best for you and your health. People that are pro-life simply do not understand abortion and the outcomes that could arise from making it illegal.

user banned United States 9 posts
Nov 2nd

As stated, medically necessary. Get over it. 

Dee♡ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; .., IN, United States 5807 posts
Nov 2nd

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