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I dont want a boy! !!M.E.G.A.N!! Due October 24; United Kingdom 66 posts
Jun 7th '14

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and I found out I am having a little baby boy, but I was set and certain I was having a girl and I want a girl. I was really disappointed after finding out yesterday that I wasn't having a little girl, especially as the girls have always come first in my family and in my partners family.
He is really happy we are having a boy, but my question is, will these feelings go? will I end up appreciating again what is being grown inside me? did anyone else need time to get over the fact that they're having the sex they didn't want? there are too many boys in my family! haha.
Let me know, I am feeling like a bad mum already. 

Heather+2 Due July 8 (girl); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Beverly Hills, MI, United States 23 posts
Jun 7th '14

Hi! I know that feeling. With this child I wanted a boy but it was a girl. I got over it though and I bet you will too. What I did to help me get over it was go shopping and look at all the cute clothes and toys. I fell in love with them. Probably if you do that and have your baby shower you will get over it. Sometimes people don't get over it until birth and when they see there adorable baby!

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Jun 7th '14

It's totally normal to feel this way, and it will not last. You are not a bad mother, and you will loooove having a boy once you process!

ღCeceღ 2 kids; Somewhere in, GA, United States 12691 posts
Jun 7th '14

Well some don't ever really get over it. When I found out this baby was a girl I was very upset lol I had no desire for a daughter. Now due in about a week I couldn't care less and all I want is to see her and hold her and smooch her all up. Once you see him trust me your heart will melt and you'll wonder how you went so long without this amazing little thing in your life. 

*Erika* TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Brandon, Florida 4333 posts
Jun 7th '14

Honestly, I had the same exact feelings, even at ultrasound tech was like I wasn't expecting that reaction, becuase I almost started to cry, maybe I did a little. Over the months as it set it in that I was having a boy, I started to get excited, I would still have moments like at any other ultrasound asking is it still a boy?? Lol or going to a store and seeing all girl stuff, but here's the great news even if the feeling doesn't go away until you give birth. When you have him, all those feelings of wanting him to be a girl will not be there or not as strong because I know for me when I saw my son, it was instant love and I would never change it, actually I'm glad I have a boy. After changing my two year olds diapers that are explosive and disgusting, I think man if he was a girl how hard that would be to clean. Lol it's easier with a boy for sure. Just my opinion of course ;)

Live-Laugh-Love 3 kids; Kitchener, ON, Falkland Islands (Malvinas) 9510 posts
Jun 7th '14

I always thought I would have a girl because my great grandma had 2 girls, my grandma had 2 girls, my mom had 2 girls, my uncle had 2 girls and my aunt had 2 girls.... I had 3 boys haha I wasnt really disappointed after finding out my first was a boy, I just would have bet money that I would have a girl 38
Boys are so sweet and so much fun, I promise!

Mrs_Burke987 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 769 posts
Jun 7th '14

Yes, the feelings eventually go away. We have three daughters and I was so convinced that our 3rd was a boy. When the tech told me it's a girl - I instantly started crying! But, after the fact, I was really excited to have another little girl.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6871 posts
Jun 7th '14

Quoting Live-Laugh-Love:
I always thought I would have a girl because my great grandma had 2 girls, my grandma had 2 girls, my mom had 2 girls, my uncle had 2 girls and my aunt had 2 girls.... I had 3 boys haha I wasnt really disappointed after finding out my first was a boy, I just would have bet money that I would have a girl 38
Boys are so sweet and so much fun, I promise!


Ahhh if only I hadn't read that last sentence while cleaning poop out of the tub.... :D Our family was similar though. It was all girls until me and my sibs started having kids. We haven't seen pink in years and years. 5 boys and counting. 

Frankie goes to Hollywood Due June 30; 1 child; United Kingdom 762 posts
Jun 7th '14

Try not to feel bad, I've heard of lots of cases of disappointment with gender. I remember when the tech first told us we were having a boy I didn't have that initial burst of excitement, because I had somehow convinced myself I was having a girl (although I wasn't bothered either way) As the day went on the more excited I got, and now I couldn't imagine having a little girl! Just try to give yourself some time :) 

Oswin Oswald 4 kids; 1 angel baby; adelaide, sa, Australia 903 posts
Jun 7th '14

Lmao this is how im feeling

i have 3 kids already

girl
boy
boy

and i was POSITIVE this baby would be a girl to even it out but its another damn boy hahah :( my last baby having a bicornuate uterus, having 3 csections and being prone to preterm labor.. so no more for me sadly

but its okay.. its fine, i will accept this hahahah and be out numbered :O

Lizzygurl01 1 child; United States 751 posts
Jun 7th '14

It's normal!  I really wanted a boy never wanted girls lol at my U/S found out we were having a girl i was disappointed,  but then started shopping for her and now I'm so excited and can't wait to have her! 

lissy 27 2 kids; Australia 203 posts
Jun 7th '14

I had the same issue a few weeks ago. Except I wanted a boy. I already have 2 girls. And I was hoping for a boy each time. (I was raised by my father and I had only brothers.) So I always thought id be better with boys. 
but after a week or so I came to terms with it again that im having yet another girl, amd I know this will be my last pregnancy too,  so that made it hard as well. But now im excited. It will pass. Dont beat yourself up its fine. A lot of mothers go through similar feelings. 

Michonne 2 kids; United States 1820 posts
Jun 7th '14

It's normal. Boys are fun I love having a boy everyone around me thought I was going to have a girl including myself which honestly I wanted a boy so when the u/s tech told me it's a boy I was so happy and excited, I really would have been fine either way. I would like another boy next time around but if I get a girl that's fine to. Totally normal though my sister cried when she found out she was having a boy but now she loves him more than anything.

Live-Laugh-Love 3 kids; Kitchener, ON, Falkland Islands (Malvinas) 9510 posts
Jun 7th '14

Quoting Summerfrost:

Ahhh if only I hadn't read that last sentence while cleaning poop out of the tub.... :D Our family was similar though. It was all girls until me and my sibs started having kids. We haven't seen pink in years and years. 5 boys and counting. 


LOL! Oh the joys 38 Hey,  At least we wont have a house full of menstruating teenage girls!

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6871 posts
Jun 7th '14

Quoting Live-Laugh-Love:

LOL! Oh the joys 38 Hey,  At least we wont have a house full of menstruating teenage girls!


This is very true! I was actually thinking about that the other day. I am a little concerned about the amount of food we'll need to buy to keep up with a small herd of teenage boys though. :)