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Life Insursance Beneficiary AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
Sep 19th '13

Is it just me,... I may be in the minority here...



But I feel like if my husband left, that he should want to make sure that I'm taken care of. That I'll be okay with out him. Right?



My SO got life insurance through his company for free and he put the kids as the beneficiaries. Not me. I don't think that's bad but it really hurt my feelings. I really depend on him while I'm pursing my education. If he were to pass away I would have basically figure out how to care for two kids with no job and no trade or anything to support us. Why would he want me to struggle like that? He says once I get my degree and make a contribution that he'll put me on the life insurance? But right now I don't struggle like him. I don't even know what that means.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Sep 19th '13

Wow. Okay, here's my honest opinion. You shouldn't expect him to fully care for you. I worked and went to school. It's very possible. So many women think they're entitled to stay home and it's irritating. With that being said, you are "contributing" by raising the kids. That's not an easy task. I wouldn't be upset if my hubby left his money to the kids; I don't need him to support me, but that's just me.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you posted about this already It sounds like you're getting a little obsessive. I just find it odd ... [snip!] ... with financial issues in the event of the death of your so rather than the emotional toll a loss like this would take."


Right? It sounds like all she cares about is his money.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
Sep 19th '13

Deja vu!

AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you posted about this already It sounds like you're getting a little obsessive. I just find it odd ... [snip!] ... with financial issues in the event of the death of your so rather than the emotional toll a loss like this would take."

It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. I'm his wife. I don't feel ENTITLED to anything. I just feel as his wife I should take care of my husband and he should take care of me. We should take care of each other. If shoes were on different feet, I would want him to continue to pursue his education. I would want to make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Sep 19th '13

Wow, is it about the money, or is it about losing your spouse....



Because it seems all you care about is money...

AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Wow, is it about the money, or is it about losing your spouse.... Because it seems all you care about is money..."

Let me state again...



"It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. I'm his wife. I don't feel ENTITLED to anything. I just feel as his wife I should take care of my husband and he should take care of me. We should take care of each other. If shoes were on different feet, I would want him to continue to pursue his education. I would want to make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids."

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" Let me state again... "It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids.""


Leave you to fend for yourself? Yes, because dying would be his choice. :roll:

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you are perfectly capable of providing for yourself and are only concerned with being able to be home and not struggling if the guy dies. kinda sad for him, imo"


I do as well!

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids."


Why are you so offended? He wants to make sure your children have money to live their lives, maybe go towards college, offer them the things you guys might not have had as children. You're a grown ass woman, fend for yourself and get the f**k over it.

GetItGirl Due September 21; 2 kids; Virginia 3096 posts
Sep 19th '13

if he dies you would be the one controlling the money tho anyway i'm sure unless the kids are 18 and also you would get his social security and so would your kids.

AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting Dr. Robert Kelso:" Leave you to fend for yourself? Yes, because dying would be his choice. :roll:"


You guys are a*****es. You are twisting my words. It's amazing. I type a little paragraph on this. You act as like your in my head knowing what I'm thinking completely. You don't. I posted about feelings. Not about money. I felt hurt. I know the emotional toll will be devastating. I know this. It makes me cry more because I feel like I wont even get that time to grieve. If he has the opportunity to make sure we are okay but he doesn't, then yes, he's leaving me here to fend for myself. If it were him, I wouldn't want him to struggle while dealing with all that emotion. Like I said. HE'S NOT A BAD PERSON FOR LEAVING IT TO HIS KIDS. I feel like y'all don't read. Y'all just see what you want. That's cool. You guys can be catty little girls. I don't care.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" You guys are a*****es. You are twisting my words. It's amazing. I type a little paragraph on this. You ... [snip!] ... I feel like y'all don't read. Y'all just see what you want. That's cool. You guys can be catty little girls. I don't care."


You're a big girl. You'll be fine.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" You guys are a*****es. You are twisting my words. It's amazing. I type a little paragraph on this. You ... [snip!] ... I feel like y'all don't read. Y'all just see what you want. That's cool. You guys can be catty little girls. I don't care."


If you are getting all this education, I'm assuming that will lead to a career, at which you'll make money.



Take some of that money and pay your bills with it.



Man, I'm such a problem solver!

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
Sep 19th '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" You guys are a*****es. You are twisting my words. It's amazing. I type a little paragraph on this. You ... [snip!] ... I feel like y'all don't read. Y'all just see what you want. That's cool. You guys can be catty little girls. I don't care."


Well.. you clearly haven't been here long enough. :lol: