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Does anyone have a relationship like Belle. 2 kids; Tokyo, Ja, Canada 6999 posts
Sep 10th '13

The movies? Like a titanic, notebook, gatsby, the vow kind of relationship? Or do you think that the movies make them unrealistic?



I just want Leonardo or Ryan gosling to be madly in love with me..

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Sep 10th '13
Quoting Thug Wife:" The movies? Like a titanic, notebook, gatsby, the vow kind of relationship? Or do you think that the movies make them unrealistic? I just want Leonardo or Ryan gosling to be madly in love with me.."



All of those relationships involved toxic components....like infidelity....(titanic & the notebook).

loser mom 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, Norway, ,,, Europe 12277 posts
Sep 10th '13

Hell no.



And Leo & Ryan do nothing for me.

Belle. 2 kids; Tokyo, Ja, Canada 6999 posts
Sep 10th '13

I watched the gatsby and I've been really depressed that I'm not in love like that lol

Jessi♥ TTC since Aug 2009; Carlisle, Pennsylvania 186 posts
Sep 10th '13

Not in the way that you're thinking....and I do think a lot of the movie relationships have some toxic element to them. (aside from unrealistic standards)



But I have had people describe my relationship as 'that kind of perfect' because of mutual trust, respect and staying madly in love all this time....I think it's sad whatever standards these people have for that to seem like a miracle.

¡VinHaute! Kansas City, MO, United States 47399 posts
Sep 10th '13

When DH and I were dating it kinda felt like that. Long story though.

katxo 18 kids; Florida 7270 posts
Sep 10th '13
Quoting loser mom:" Hell no. And Leo & Ryan do nothing for me. "


seriously. I think Leo is f**king ugly as f**k. My sister is madly in love with him. I make fun of her 24/7.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Sep 10th '13

We have movie love moments, but absolutely not all the time. I love SO with all my heart but maintaining a functional (sometimes dysfunctional lol), loving, adult committed long term (foreverrrr) romantic relationship is probably the hardest thing ever. We have extremely similar stubborn personalities, short tempers and depression. Some days are a struggle, but it always turns out fine at the end of the day :)

loser mom 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, Norway, ,,, Europe 12277 posts
Sep 10th '13
Quoting katxo:" seriously. I think Leo is f**king ugly as f**k. My sister is madly in love with him. I make fun of her 24/7."


I think they're both ugly!

The Goblin King Due July 2; 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Ocala, FL, United States 14966 posts
Sep 10th '13

I wouldnt say i'm in a chick flick relationship but i think mine is pretty rare. I have the type where we were friends who fell madly in love with eachother but i was in a horrible marriage. One day I left my husband for him. Ever since we havent spent a day a part. He holds doors open for me. Puts his coat on me if he even notices i have goose bumps. Always opens my car door. If i go to bed early he tucks me in and kisses me goodnight and every night he asks me to marry him. He treats my kids better then my ex husband ever did. Like a father should, loving them like his own. I cook for him and when he comes home from work and i see it was a rough dat i rub his back and shoulders for him. We agree on every tv show and movie so its never an argument. and he like to surprise me with little things.....now recently i got some news that there is pressure on my brain and in my spine. they are looking for a tumor and I;m getting a lot weaker, A lot more tired, and the pain in my head is just so hard to ignore as well as the dizzness and vomitting (and my test results arent even all in yet). The first night we were told anything could be wrong he spent all day telling me how it would all be ok ....i woke up at 4 am to him crying holding on to me praying not for me to go. He still doesnt know i heard him. I keep getting put in the hospital some days are really hard and he tries so hard to help and still surprise me, make me feel beautiful.....hell 2 weeks ago i got AF durring my spinal tap and when igot home he set me up in bed and went out to the store and came back with 4 different kinds of chocolate for me and pads. Every night he comes home from work he spins me around and kisses me and tells me he loves me hell he's holding my hand as i type this. it may not be a movie romance but damn it its an amazing one

Belle. 2 kids; Tokyo, Ja, Canada 6999 posts
Sep 10th '13

Awwwww!!! That is seriously so sweet. My dh only farts and complains

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 23347 posts
Sep 10th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Thug Wife:</b>" Awwwww!!! That is seriously so sweet. My dh only farts and complains"</blockquote>




Yours too? Lol

Belle. 2 kids; Tokyo, Ja, Canada 6999 posts
Sep 10th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting AllAboardTheCrazyTrain!!!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Thug Wife:</b>" Awwwww!!! That is seriously so sweet. My dh only farts and complains"</blockquote> Yours too? Lol"</blockquote>
Yeah it's really romantic

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Sep 10th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Goblin King:</b>" I wouldnt say i'm in a chick flick relationship but i think mine is pretty rare. I have the type where ... [snip!] ... and tells me he loves me hell he's holding my hand as i type this. it may not be a movie romance but damn it its an amazing one"</blockquote>




This made me cry. THIS should be a movie<3

Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 13410 posts
Sep 10th '13

Yes and no.



The movies show all the romance and "lovey dovey" moments. We do have those. But they don't always show the arguments, bickering, and struggles. We have those too. But we have amazing communication and the ability to let everything go quickly.
Without the struggles and disagreements, it would be hard to fully appreciate what we have. When we work out a problem together, we get stronger.



Movie romances can make it hard for some women to accept the darker side of things. They feel the relationship isn't working because it isn't like the movies. Which isn't realistic. Relationships are never perfect.