'We're pissed' to be pregnant with twins
Some blast couple for being ungrateful
I think they have a right to be upset, just as parents have a right to be upset about the gender of the baby they're expecting. If I found out I was having twins, I wouldn't be thrilled. Although with IVF, there's a greater chance of multiples, so they should've known that this could happen.
everyone has a right to be pissed off for any reason. But, yeah they need to suck it up. Their kids will read this one day and that is fucked up.
I don't like telling anyone how they should feel, but what the hell did they expect? They implanted more than one embryo, which can easily result in more than one child. I don't feel sorry for their 'ruined family'..... THEY did that.
I love how I can say fucked and not $uck. lol
I'm pretty sure they let you know your chances of having multiples prior to undergoing IVF so.. No pity for them here. They sound like dumbfucks honestly.
I can understand them being nervous and scared. Nearing 40, having one son already, and now about to have two newborns.
"Pissed", is a bit much (imo) considering that they knew the risks of the method they used to conceive. But they're perfectly entitled to their emotions. Hopefully it won't affect their parenting when the babies are born.
I'd be pissed if I found out I was having twins, at first. Then eventually I'd get over it and love the crap out of them. I don't think they're wrong for feeling that way at all. And honestly, I'm sure most of those people that were judging them, probably would've had a similar reaction...they just don't want to admit that.
Quoting castaway:" I don't like telling anyone how they should feel, but what the hell did they expect? They implanted ... [snip!] ... one embryo, which can easily result in more than one child. I don't feel sorry for their 'ruined family'..... THEY did that."
Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I think they have a right to be upset, just as parents have a right to be upset about the gender of the ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be thrilled. Although with IVF, there's a greater chance of multiples, so they should've known that this could happen."
I agree with this. They should have been mentally prepared for the possibility of multiples. And i think being 'pissed' is a little extreme. But I totally understand why you would be terrified and disappointed.
I can understand them being disappointed. I'd probably have a panic attack if I found out I was pregnant with twins.. but to say they ruined their family is a bit of an exaggeration. They'll survive! Also, I think it's wrong for them to say they regret it. I'm sure their doctors went over all the risks and possible outcomes when they decided to do this, they should have been mentally prepared for this.
I watch a set of triplets. The did 4 rounds of failed IVF before they got pregnant (after 6 years of trying with fertility meds and other methods). They said it wasn't until 2 months (the triplets were born 8 weeks early) before they were born they were happy about it. They were scared, worried, panicked, etc. I can see how multiples would not always be a happy surprise for a while.
IMO I think they should suck it up, after all they are the ones who went through with IVF and they would have had to of said 'yes' to the implantation of 2 embryos. If they didn't want to take the risk of increasing their chances of ending up with twins they should have opted to only have one embryo implanted instead.
I get how parents can be upset about having twins, I would be one of those if it were to happen to me naturally and later on in life if I go through IVF I will only be having the 1 embryo implanted because I do not want that increased risk of having twins.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I can wholeheartedly understand that reaction. I'd be scared if I popped up pregnant with multiples too. But to be pissed? Yeah, no. "</blockquote>
I know until 12 weeks they were approached about selective reduction. They considered it. I don't know if I would be mad, but it would be a very difficult thing for me to accept at first. Twins sound fun and I love watching the triplets, but the thought of two newborns at the same time living with me.....terrifying.
I was not happy when I find out I was pregnant with twins. I was terrified and overwhelmed. I would cry a lot during my pregnancy wondering how the hell we were going to make it work. The first 1.5 years of them being born was absolute hell. Of course I wouldn't change things but to say I was unhappy would be an understatement.