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family bed CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
Aug 22nd '13

What is your opinion on a family bed ( everyone in the family share one bed)? I just talked to a lady who has a six year old and three year old and they are both breastfed and sleep with her and her husband. I honestly think its so weird, its not beneficial to the kids at all. They probably wont ever get them out of their bed!

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Aug 22nd '13

I think if it works for the family, great.



If it doesn't work for a family, good, they don't have to do it.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
Aug 22nd '13

I know I'm in the minority here on BG but I think BF at 3 and 6 is just....just no.



As for sharing a bed, well I dunno. I wouldn't want to do it because I can't imagine you'd have any alone time with my spouse and that would drive me crazy.

Mari-C 18 kids; Nebraska 3695 posts
Aug 22nd '13

Iif it works for other families, fine.
My daughters have their own beds and sleep in them every night. If there was one night where they wanted to crawl in, I'd be ok with that. But it will not be every night. DH and I need our alone time.

=^•^= NO, OD, France 36542 posts
Aug 22nd '13

Whatever works for them. I don't see how anyone could say its not beneficial, who knows their story. My husband shared a bed with his parents until he was eight because of sleep apnea.

Viv ♥ 3 kids; ., TX, United States 15475 posts
Aug 22nd '13

DD sleeps better when she is in our bed. She's a mommas girl. But we don't let her.
I'm not sure what bad things can happen by sharing a bed? They won't be independent? Who knows, kids personalities are what they are.
If something does happen with her kids by sharing a bed then it's her problem, idc what other people do.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Aug 22nd '13

It is beneficial for their emotional development, who are you to say its weird? It's what people do all over the world and have been doing since the beginning of time. It's natural to not force independence.
Do what works for your family.

Gold 3 kids; Stuffed with a, ., Turkey 67018 posts
Aug 22nd '13

If that's what work for them. I co-sleep with my one year old still. My 4 year old likes having his own space now though. Do what works for you.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Aug 22nd '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" It is beneficial for their emotional development, who are you to say its weird? It's what people do all ... [snip!] ... world and have been doing since the beginning of time. It's natural to not force independence. Do what works for your family."


Totally agree. Children are individuals and there isn't 1 right way to teach independence into a child.
All of our children sleep w/us till between 2-3yrs old and bf'd between 1yr and 38mo. Some kids are ready to be more independent sooner than others :)

user banned California 36390 posts
Aug 22nd '13

Our 3.5 year old still sleeps with us most nights.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo Due September 24 (boy); 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7526 posts
Aug 22nd '13

My 1 year old sleeps with my bf and I, but once he hits 2, Ill transfer him to a toddler bed. 3 and 6 is a little old for me, especially since kids sleep WILD. At some point, I think its time that child have his own bed.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Aug 22nd '13

It's not for us, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it or weird if everyone in the family is happy with the arrangement.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
Aug 22nd '13

I have my four year old with me, but im a single mom and space is an issue we have one bedroom and I don't like it since my sleep is awful!

Crystal Gems 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beach city, CA, United States 17667 posts
status Aug 22nd '13

My three and two year old sleeps with us.It's a king bed.My three year old chooses to sleep in his toddler bed so it's not a big issue with us.I slept with my mom until i was 9 and transitioned well.My dad was also deployed a lot so my mom wanted me with her.