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Baby daddy drama!?! Mz.Torai,Emree 1 child; Ohio 50 posts
Aug 16th '13

So me and my babys father hav 2daughters 2gthr 3&1 we tried to make it work over the last 4yrs just couldnt get it 2gthr..He mostly blames me for the failed relationship it took me a yr and a half to grow up and get it 2gthr had no license no ged and was still living with my mom im now proud to say i have all those things plus more.. he said he grew frustrated with me and in return he would cheat on me when things were bad emotionally abused me abandoned me when i had noone shit crazy it could be a lifetime movie.. why i stayed for so long? I was inlove and i knew i wasnt perfect aswell i can get nasty with my tongue when kicked emo for too long.. well enough about the past present day he asked me to move closer to his city being he was 45mins away so he could get to know his children And his fam aswell i saw nothing wrong with that being i had no father growing up.. i jus asked foe one thing be there to support me and the kids.. i move and it seems like here comes the arguments mind u he now has a new gf thats when he acts super funny go figure lol but we came to an agreement then he started to fight with his gf of 2wks(anyone seeing a pattern) but apparently it was about me during an argument he saud my name instead of hers crzy huh. We ended up fooling around and i told him it never happen well they get back 2gthr now in being treated like shit being short with me getting attitudes as if im a pest Haha support ?right? What should i do i want our kids to see a positive relatiionship kinda hard that he hasto treat me like shit in order to make his gf at ease?

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
Aug 16th '13

Keep the relationship between you two platonic. Its not healthy for kids to see parents going back in forth like that.

ButterballBoutique 1 child; 3790 posts
Aug 16th '13

This is a hot mess. Punctuation is our friend! :)

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting Mz.Torai,Emree:" So me and my babys father hav 2daughters 2gthr 3&1 we tried to make it work over the last 4yrs just couldnt ... [snip!] ... do i want our kids to see a positive relatiionship kinda hard that he hasto treat me like shit in order to make his gf at ease?"


That was a bit hard to read but I'm going to do my best here...




Is he a good father to the kids? His relationship with them can be completely separate form his relationship with you or his gf. And when you asked him for support were you talking financially or emotionally or what?? And honestly if this guy cheated on you etc. then what are you doing fooling around with him?

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:" Stop dealing with him. You shouldn't have moved. If he wanted to be part of his kids lives then he should ... [snip!] ... a good relationship when they realize that mom is doing good for herself without dealing with dad's emotional and verbal abuse."


Also all of this :!::!:

I declare a Time War 1 child; Ohio 1591 posts
Aug 16th '13

Well first off learn what punctuation, spelling and grammar are. I can't understand half of what you are saying so I can't really give advice.

Mz.Torai,Emree 1 child; Ohio 50 posts
Aug 16th '13

He was like a dream when i first met him and hes a a damn good father i do give him that credit for the girls and financially hes there i guess i wanted emotional support being im away from family and friends and know only one person up here.. it sucks cause i guess i wanted to believe we could work through hardships being its soo ez for the generation we live in give up on things..

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting Mz.Torai,Emree:" He was like a dream when i first met him and hes a a damn good father i do give him that credit for the ... [snip!] ... i guess i wanted to believe we could work through hardships being its soo ez for the generation we live in give up on things.."


This sounds like you're clinging to a relationship with him rather than his relationship with his kids. If you moved down expecting rainbows to spew out and yall to get back together then I can see why he's upset. He has a GF and his own life. If he's a good father, then let him be a good father but don't try to complicate it with a relationship between you two. Focus on your kids and being a mom.

Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Colorado Springs, CO, United States 5844 posts
Aug 16th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Severus Snape:</b>" This sounds like you're clinging to a relationship with him rather than his relationship with his kids. ... [snip!] ... him be a good father but don't try to complicate it with a relationship between you two. Focus on your kids and being a mom. "</blockquote>
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Mz.Torai,Emree 1 child; Ohio 50 posts
Aug 16th '13

Maybe i do live in a fairtytale, thinking we could be at peace and hav civil convos with one another.. Nobodys perfect wasnt trying to intrude on the relationship he now has but when u play hot and cold i never know where i stand but thx 4 the advice all

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting Mz.Torai,Emree:" Maybe i do live in a fairtytale, thinking we could be at peace and hav civil convos with one another.. ... [snip!] ... to intrude on the relationship he now has but when u play hot and cold i never know where i stand but thx 4 the advice all"


No problem. Hopefully he can continue to be a good father to his kids and you both can move on and have a good life.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" This sounds like you're clinging to a relationship with him rather than his relationship with his kids. ... [snip!] ... him be a good father but don't try to complicate it with a relationship between you two. Focus on your kids and being a mom. "
user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Aug 16th '13

This is such a c*********k.



Stop worrying about his relationships and when or why they're fighting. And certainly stop messing around with him.



You're there for the kids. Stop complicating it.

SurvivingApril 18 kids; West Virginia 174 posts
Aug 16th '13
Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:" Stop dealing with him. You shouldn't have moved. If he wanted to be part of his kids lives then he should ... [snip!] ... a good relationship when they realize that mom is doing good for herself without dealing with dad's emotional and verbal abuse."



Took the words out of my mouth.



Quit wondering what he is thinking. Screw what he is thinking. All that matters is #1, your kids, and #2 what you are thinking and how you are going to further your life for yourself and your kids. See how I said yourself and your kids only? No him. You are not together. It's up to him to further his own life, and his relationships with his kids, you can't do it for him.



Make it clear to him that you two are only going to have a platonic, respectful relationship with each other about your kids. Keep out of each others business, unless it involves the kids, so much easier and better that way. Your personal lives are off the table.