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I cant stop obsessing Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13

Over the girl my SO cheated on me with, I think of how she look and wonder if he thinks she prettier. I wonder if he thinks shes better sexually. I wonder if he thinks of her more than me. I feel ugly compared to her and like Im not good enough for him.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
Aug 14th '13

I'm sorry :(



That has to be a completely horrible thing to go through. I don't really have any advice. The 2 guys I have been with previously that cheated on me, I broke up with right away. I could never stay with someone who cheated on me. I would constantly be worrying about them doing it again. I would also be obsessing like you are right now.

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I doubt it. They always downgrade. "



Ive seen pics of her

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Sherri + 3:" I'm sorry :( That has to be a completely horrible thing to go through. I don't really have any advice. ... [snip!] ... who cheated on me. I would constantly be worrying about them doing it again. I would also be obsessing like you are right now. "


I should of left him but, I didnt.

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Was it more than once? He probably just made a stupid decision. "


just once but it was on my birthday. So I spent it alone while he blew me off.

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Wooow that's cold. :? I mean, I guess you've forgiven him since you're still with him but if it eats you up that badly it's not worth it IMO. "


I dont even know what to say to him

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Secret Service:" just once but it was on my birthday. So I spent it alone while he blew me off."


Wow. You are a better person then I am because I wouldn't have been able to forgive that at all. I really think you need to have a talk with him. If you really cannot get over what happened and all you are going to do is make yourself miserable by comparing yourself to her, then you need to break the relationship off. You deserve better and you deserve to be happy.

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Sherri + 3:" Wow. You are a better person then I am because I wouldn't have been able to forgive that at all. I really ... [snip!] ... by comparing yourself to her, then you need to break the relationship off. You deserve better and you deserve to be happy. "


Its hard because Im beyond attached to him/

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
Aug 14th '13

that is rough :( I've been through it and ultimately I had to leave him, it just causes problems, jealouslyy, and always comes out in arguments. If you can get over it and make it work, kudos to you. you'll have to talk to him about how you're feeling though

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Did he tell you or you found out somehow?"


one of his friends told me

Secret Service Texas 792 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting What if...:" that is rough :( I've been through it and ultimately I had to leave him, it just causes problems, jealouslyy, ... [snip!] ... in arguments. If you can get over it and make it work, kudos to you. you'll have to talk to him about how you're feeling though"


I dont think he'll leave me for her or anything but I just feel so ugly now

Baby_Majick Due May 1 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; Sullivan, Missouri 4129 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I doubt it. They always downgrade. "


Yes they do! LOL.. no one knows why... but they do.

tinana+2 2 kids; Jesus, FC, Peru 38705 posts
status Aug 14th '13
Quoting Secret Service:" just once but it was on my birthday. So I spent it alone while he blew me off."


Holy hell. I'd have castrated him. Definitely wouldn't have given another chance.

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
Aug 14th '13
Quoting Secret Service:" I dont think he'll leave me for her or anything but I just feel so ugly now"


:( I hope it gets better

Lin Brown TTC since May 2015; 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1941 posts
Aug 14th '13

my ex cheated on me quite a few times with multiple girls, i've met a few of them and was always told they were "just friends" his best friend ended up spilling everything out to me the second my ex left us alone. i forgave him each time and always looked passed it, the constant lying is what broke us up, the cheating didn't really fase me just because each girl was always bigger then me or just flat out ugly. honesly if it bugs you this much, the relationship may not last to much longer