SPOILED AS FUhhhh!!! Lady Rainicorn ✯ 1 child; California 3399 posts
Aug 4th '13

is it alright for a parent to be completely broke but still wants to spend money on his child's entertainment/toys? he claims that it's "okay" and he can never say no to his child. please leave your HONEST opinions, as these responses will be read to him.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4500 posts
Aug 4th '13

If he's COMPLETELY broke, HOW is he buying toys?

Either way, I'd say shelter, food, clothes, etc are better ways to spend money than on toys. Thought that was common sense. :?

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21473 posts
Aug 4th '13

If he is is he affording unnecessary things? :/

But no, I don't think that is very responsible of him to do...

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
Aug 4th '13

I have everything we need. And I usually spend my last dollar on things she wants. It never takes from what we need though.

Lady Rainicorn ✯ 1 child; California 3399 posts
Aug 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lacTAYtor. ☮:</b>" If he's COMPLETELY broke, HOW is he buying toys? Either way, I'd say shelter, food, clothes, etc are better ways to spend money than on toys. Thought that was common sense. :?"</blockquote>

he would have barely any money left over for gas, etc but he would insist on buying whatever the child wants with whatever he has left.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Aug 4th '13

Of course, I'm sure all parents want to make sure their children want for nothing.

I don't believe in not saying no to a child though, that can only lead to major issues down the road.

AwkwardTurtle 34 kids; Syracuse, NY, United States 2085 posts
Aug 4th '13

When raising kids, spend half the money and twice the time.

You can't buy your self a well rounded kid, they want to spend time with you.

♥Rach♥ 2 kids; Arizona 12877 posts
Aug 4th '13

It's okay to WANT to buy your child things when you're broke. It's not okay to buy toys and non-essentials for your child when you can't afford the necessities (food, shelter, clothes, etc).

Jenny&Boopy Due July 29 (twins); 3 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 9737 posts
Aug 4th '13

Bad idea if he can't pay his bills or for the necessities. I also think children need to learn to appreciate what they have. I don't think spoiling a child automatically makes them a brat or anything, but in some cases they need to be told no.

Beth Malone 3 kids; Steens, Mississippi 18 posts
Aug 4th '13

Bills and things the family needs should come first. I don't know if you are saying that he buys for the kid all the time but in my opinion buying your child toys and entertainment stuff all the time will turn them into entitled little brats. If we are "broke" then no we don't buy anything that we don't need but every now and then when we have extra its nice to surprise them with a little toy.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Aug 4th '13

If they're going to be careless with money, at least it's with children's things.

But bills need to be paid, food needs to be bought, and there's no reason for someone to go into debt over child wants.....stick with necessities, and when you can afford more, then get some extras

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Aug 4th '13

Necessities first, mama. Toys are not necessities, for most kids have too many anyway. Now taking the child to say Goodwill once or twice a month and letting them pick out something is completely fine.

[Gryffinwhore♥] 3 kids; anywhere, bH, United States 37526 posts
Aug 4th '13

I think it's okay that he wants to buy his kid toys.
It's not okay, however, for him to actually spend money he doesn't have on extra things like toys.

His kid will not remember how many toys he did or didn't have. His kid will remember that he had a hardworking father who loved him. Kids don't need a ton of toys. They just need quality time with someone who loves them.

Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 13426 posts
Aug 4th '13

Well, the part that sticks out the most is, "I can't tell him no". Money or not, they need to hear the word no sometimes. The money would be better spent on doing something together, rather than buying toys.

Toys don't show love but spending time together does. I don't remember 10% of the toys I had growing up but I do remember that my dad never missed a ball practice or game of mine. I do remember he cut his hours down at work to coach me in soccer in middle school and high school. He sacrificed more money so he could spend time with me. I appreciate that more than any amount of money or toys in the world.

Also, If its putting him in a tough spot with money, its not okay. We get a lot of DS's toys at the thrift store. They have nice ones that work and only charge a few bucks.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Aug 5th '13

Silly & irresponsible to spend money you don't have on crap you don't need & that will likely be broken/lost/forgotten in short order.

Do you know what a child appreciates farm ore than a ton of miscellaneous toys & crap? A college fund, a stable home where there is a t least a little saving s so if something goes wrong, no one goes without, etc, etc. There are far better things to do with your money than throw it at garbage.

I *can* afford to give my kids absolutely everything they ask for (well technically not, my 6 yr old wants a jet pack, but even so, I still wouldn't buy one even if I could) BUT I'd never do that for them or TO them. All getting mroe shit does to you is make you want more shit. You enver reach the pinnacle of shit you own & say "whew, glad I got all that! Now I am done." Nope, you move on to more shit you want. Pointless really. I help my kids learn the difference between real wants & flight of fancy wants, between things you want enough to work for them & things you want IF they are free. NOTHING material that you want ONLY if it is free/easy is really worth having. And if you are paying, to your kids it IS free.

So even though my oldest is only 6, we already have a policy that he has to put some "skin in" if he wants an item, meaning, he has to earn the money to pay for whatever portion we deem will be more on things that are truly frivolous (like a trampoline) & less on things I think are more standard (like a bike).