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TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23152 posts
Jul 29th '13
Quoting Slytherin Saffy:" I reached all of those be the time I had turned 18. :lol:"


Then you get a free pass to the magistrate :-)

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jul 29th '13
Quoting TheNuge:" Then you get a free pass to the magistrate :-)"


Oh, we went and got married 4 months after I graduated high school. Pretty sure it was the 2nd stupidest decision I've ever made but it was also one of the best.

♥Rach♥ 2 kids; Arizona 12877 posts
Jul 29th '13
Quoting TheNuge:" Cool. I hope you have a long, happy marriage :)"


Thank you. :D I hope so, too.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23152 posts
Jul 29th '13
Quoting Spacetits:" So my MIL is cool? She married someone she knew for 2 weeks... then divorced him, and did the same thing 2 times over... Making it 6 marriages :lol:"


does she meet all the other criteria?

draven 5 kids; Florida 724 posts
Jul 29th '13

I got married at 18 almost 19, after dating for 5 months.

Riley+Abby 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 2423 posts
Jul 30th '13

I got married at 20. To me, that wasn't too young, but I wouldn't have wanted to be any younger, either. And it lasted for almost 5 years, so I think we did pretty good!



And I did get to drink at my own wedding. :D

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jul 31st '13

I think anything younger than 18 is too young. I don't know, that's when you're legally an adult right, that's when you should be able to make your own adult decisions. I guess it sounds stupid but that's because I'm not putting much thought to it. :? I don't even think marriage is taken all that serious now a days. People go into marriages thinking, "Well, if it doesn't work out. We can always get divorced."



Before some b***h decided they want to jump down my throat. I'm well aware not all marriages are like that, but I'm pretty sure a lot of them are. Sue me if you disagree. :wink:

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" I think anything younger than 18 is too young. I don't know, that's when you're legally an adult right, ... [snip!] ... throat. I'm well aware not all marriages are like that, but I'm pretty sure a lot of them are. Sue me if you disagree. :wink:"

unfortunately i have to agree...

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting THE Draco Malfoy:" unfortunately i have to agree..."


It's quite sad & aggravating for those who do take marriage serious. :evil:

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" It's quite sad & aggravating for those who do take marriage serious. :evil:"

exactly! i believe if you're getting married, you're in it for the long haul. anything short of cheating or abuse can more than likely be worked out.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting THE Draco Malfoy:" exactly! i believe if you're getting married, you're in it for the long haul. anything short of cheating or abuse can more than likely be worked out."


I dunno.
If you get married at 18 and suddenly realize at 28 that you're no longer compatible with each other, divorce is a viable option. We're serial monogamists for the most part but serial means that we continually enter into long term partnerships; not always lifelong ones.

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting Slytherin Saffy:" I dunno. If you get married at 18 and suddenly realize at 28 that you're no longer compatible with each ... [snip!] ... monogamists for the most part but serial means that we continually enter into long term partnerships; not always lifelong ones."

i can somewhat agree, but i think it should get to an extreme and you try every possible option to work on it before calling it quits.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting THE Draco Malfoy:" exactly! i believe if you're getting married, you're in it for the long haul. anything short of cheating or abuse can more than likely be worked out."


I agree, except for the cheating part. Talking from experience, I don't think cheating is all that bad. At least not to throw a whole relationship, commitment off the rocks. Specially if it's the first time it happens. If the partner cheats again then absolutely. I don't really judge, to each it's own but it does shock me to see how many BG would give up. Whenever someone posts about their husbands being alcoholics, or not helping around the house, etc. everyone is so quick to jump on the whole, "leave him, divorce him" card. Instead of advising counseling or anything that can possibly be done to save the marriage and leave happily ever after.

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Jul 31st '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" I agree, except for the cheating part. Talking from experience, I don't think cheating is all that bad. ... [snip!] ... card. Instead of advising counseling or anything that can possibly be done to save the marriage and leave happily ever after. "

i agree with the getting him help. however, i don't on the cheating. i think it's different to cheat when dating as apposed to cheat while married, esp with a child involved.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jul 31st '13

I also have to add that you really don't know what you're getting into with addiction and mental illness until you are actually there.



BG would have had me leaving my husband at least 6 or 7 times by now; however, not everyone is as willing to put up with it. I knew this about my husband before I married him. If it occurs after marriage, it's not fair to the partner to have to deal with it if they don't want to.