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    • eat soap -- Votes: 4
    • time out -- Votes: 4
    • disscusion -- Votes: 13
    • take away privledges -- Votes: 13
    • spank -- Votes: 2
    • other please explain -- Votes: 3
♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."


Jiminy. I don't know mama. I've never had to deal with it to that severity.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."

Well she clearly knows that they're not appropriate words to say. I doubt she likes being punished, so I would assume she just forgets (like parents do sometimes) or it has become a habit. Help her think of alternative words to use. I don't think the soap is going to work, she's just going to get better at hiding it imo like she tried to do when she thought you weren't around to hear her.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Jiminy. I don't know mama. I've never had to deal with it to that severity. "

I know this is something that I'm going to laugh about in the future. But right now it's a problem. What if we go to church and she starts singing her little "song" in Sunday school, ya know? :oops: that would be embarrasing anywhere... but ya KWIM?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Jul 16th '13
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. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" True. I'm gonna tell her to say smurf, instead... lol."


:lol:

ashley + 2 2 kids; Nebraska 1665 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."

That's hard. What do you usually do for discipline for other things? Does she get an allowance/money for chores? Make her pay you for every bad word she says. Or take away tv time or go to bed early. There's got to be something that will make her think twice about doing it.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting ashley + 2:" That's hard. What do you usually do for discipline for other things? Does she get an allowance/money ... [snip!] ... she says. Or take away tv time or go to bed early. There's got to be something that will make her think twice about doing it."

With most things a conversation works, or if it's a serious offense, we spank.
ETA: I just don't feel like spanking is the right discipline for this behavior.



She's usually such a good kid, though. She rarely gets in trouble, and especially not for the same thing over and over.



Swear jar might be an effective way to break her. She does have a piggy bank that she saves her chore money in.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."


So this happened with my youngest when he was 3. And it's still a problem. Since we know now he's autistic, his first words were fing SOB, without all the shortening. And he'd call his dad's girlfriend that. It was one of the reason he was expelled from day care. He wouldn't stop.



Nothing helped and I make them lick soap, not really eat it. 2 licks is good enough for me.



since we're still struggling with it, and he's obviously doing it for attention, his SN teacher would come up with silly words and she pretends they're cuss words. And then the kids start saying them and thinking they're saying something REALLY dirty, and that helps curb a lot of his cussing.



Although now he's a smart ass and tells his sissy, "Only adults are allowed to cuss, we can't."

ashley + 2 2 kids; Nebraska 1665 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" With most things a conversation works, or if it's a serious offense, we spank. ETA: I just don't feel ... [snip!] ... over and over. Swear jar might be an effective way to break her. She does have a piggy bank that she saves her chore money in."

I agree that spanking doesn't fit for this. I would try a swear jar and see if that works. Make her pay you a quarter everytime she swears and if she catches you swearing you have to pay her.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Jul 16th '13

I like the idea of helping her find alternative words to "fix" her colorful vocab :D



I think I'm gonna correct her next time she cusses, and tell her to use "smurf".
If anyone else has silly alternative words feel free to share.



If that doesn't help, then we will try the swear jar.



Thanks for all your help ladies <3

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
Jul 16th '13
Quoting Kacti:" I like the idea of helping her find alternative words to "fix" her colorful vocab :D I think I'm gonna ... [snip!] ... words feel free to share. If that doesn't help, then we will try the swear jar. Thanks for all your help ladies <3"

I'd suggest a bunch of funny words.:lol:

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Jul 16th '13

My daughter did that a couple of times, I just ignored her. She was looking to get a rise out of me...negative attention is still attention.

Serial Mom ✄ 2 kids; Michigan 2710 posts
Jul 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Teenage Girl:</b>" Ignore it. IMO, spanking is wrong and soap/hot sauce is fucked up. She'll stop when it's not getting a rise out of anyone."</blockquote>




This. They want a reaction.



And I thought the soap was an old fashioned thing. I had no idea people still actually did this. Yuck.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 7100 posts
Jul 17th '13

If you have made it clear that she is not allowed to speak this way, and she chooses to disobey you, then she should be punished in the same way as any other time she disobeyed you. The consequence more severe each time she makes that bad choice.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35184 posts
status Jul 17th '13

I vote for taking away privileges,a discussion and if she says a bad word, give her an appropriate word to use instead.