Over the weekend, I was at a birthday party for the daughter of a close friend of mine. My friend will smoke around her 2 year old no problem, windows up in the car, in the house with no ventilation, no problem, and her daughter has severe asthma. So I know smoking around her child doesn't bother her.
At the party, which was at my friend's house, her family was smoking all outside, around the kids. I was uncomfortable, but it was their house so I just moved DS away from it in a corner. It seemed everywhere we went, to get away from it, someone would light up. It became an annoyance and I was getting ready to leave because we couldn't enjoy the party. I also noticed a lot of other mothers start to do the same thing, and a lot of mothers began to leave because of the smoking. This was only like an hour and a half into it.
Then, we go inside for presents and cake, where as figured - everyone was smoking! All around all the toys the kids were playing with, all of the food, and all of the goodie favors. By this time, there weren't many other young kids at the party who weren't her family members because I could see they were disgusted with the smoking around every corner and left. One mom even said sarcastically loud when asked why she is leaving that her kid has severe asthma, and can't get the away from all the chain smokers, this is a KIDS party. I was just so shocked that no one had enough respect for the little lungs.
Needles to say, my friend was furious when the party was only 2 hours in an mostly everyone had left with you children, including all of her daughters day care friends. I tried to explain to her, and she just didn't get it, just because YOU smoke around your child, and your family does doesn't mean other parents want their child around it and since it is her house, they chose to leave since they can't ask you to stop.
The party was suppose to be a big pool party, that was suppose to last all afternoon into the night, and pretty much everyone left 2 hours in and my friend was out money because everyone left. I feel bad she lost the money, but I understand why everyone left. Me and DS only stayed about 2.5 hours as well, before I couldn't take it and we left.
What would you have done? I understand it was their home, and her family and they literally can do whatever they want, but what did she expect? This was a kids party, and you couldn't escape the smoke, and a majority of the other parents didn't want to eat the food or pay with the toys because of it.
I would have left as soon as my kids couldn't escape the smoke. Their health isn't less important than her money LOL
I would have told her why we were leaving, and left. F that. Even my SO doesn't smoke around our kids.
Yeah, I would've left too. That's very inconsiderate. My SO smokes but he either goes outside or in the bathroom with the fan on, and then washes his hands. It's never in the same room, or in the car, or anywhere near her.
I would have left. That grosses me out.
I would have left, probably less than an hour from getting there too. That is a HUGE petpeve of mine. And in Cali it's illegal to smoke with a child under 16 in the car. I went to an outdoor kids party on e where all the kids were around people smoking and I told the mom straight up I was going to have to leave because I don't want my kids around the smoke.
Okay glad to hear this! She just can't wrap her head around it and it still mad. I just thought to post this since I just got off the phone with her.
Those 2.5 hours I was there, was a hassle to try and get DS away from it. Literally every time we found a place outside to sit and enjoy what we could, someone would walk over with a cig in hand, or light one up. It sucks because we drove all the way down there (hour drive) for fun and food and I couldn't even feed my kid. Thank God I packed snacks, so we hit a diner on the way home. SO was furious about it, and I can see why. I kept DS away from it as much as I could and I wouldn't take him in the house after I saw how much they smoked in there.
I'm just in shock she doesn't get it.
I'm a smoker and I would never ever ever ever smoke in a house or a car with a child in it.. Really ever.
I probably would have left immediately.
Would have left, for sure. We don't allow cigarettes near the kids, we don't want them to have to see people smoking and grow up with that kind of example.
Quoting laurenmik:" I'm a smoker and I would never ever ever ever smoke in a house or a car with a child in it.. Really ever. I probably would have left immediately."
same here, I smoke maybe 3 a day now, but before I even had DS I wouldn't even smoke around a child.
I remember once, I went over my friend's boyfriends house and his little sister was sitting in the basement, not even 7 months old, and surrounded by everyone in the basement smoking. I was furious inside, so I pretended to want to play and hold the baby and took her outside since that was all I could do for the kid.
I just don't understand why people can''t wrap it around their heads how bad it is!
I would have left te second there was smoking. My son has asthma and even if he did not i would have said " sorry I choose not to have my children around smoke"
Quoting Lady GooGoo
I would've left too. And probably very early on. I smoked for 8 years or so off and on. I never smoked in the car or house with DS or any other kids. I was fine with going outside away from children. This one chick I know is always smoking around her kid in other people's houses (can't in her house because her dad is on oxygen otherwise she'd doit at home too) and always smoking in the car with him. Some people I guess just don't give a shit about their kids.
I would have left. I smoke, but I NEVER do it around DD. I always go outside with a "smoking hoodie/shirt and wash my hands before picking her up again. And I certainly wouldn't smoke in front of other people's kids. Even before I had DD, when a friend would come over with her kid I would always go outside to smoke, even though they were at my house. I had no problem doing that, at all. And if I'm smoking outside and someone walks past me with a child I'll be my cigarette out so I don't accidentally blow smoke in their direction.