Be honest it wont hurt my feelings.
Ok me and mu aunt are only 6 months apart were more like sisters since her dad died when she was in 2nd grade weve been really close weve both been through a lot and theres always been a competition between us but nothing dramatic. Anyways when we got into high school we kinda drifted apart, we had different friends but we still talked everyday! Well I got pregnant at 15 :/ and she pretty much wanted nothing to do with me because I couldnt go party anymore.. I pretty much lost all my friends but that wasnt near as devastating as lossing her as my best friend. After my son was born she decided to come back around but weve never been as close as we were.. anyway she got with this guy that was supper abusive mentaly and physicaly she began to make herself throw up because she was "fat" and she would show up with bruises all over her id try and try to talk to her but she wouldnt talk to me.. one day she called me at like 1 am balling telling me her boyfriend just beat her ass and she was walking down the highway trying to hide from him I was home just me and my 1 year old at the time but I didnt think twice about loading him up to go get her. She of course went back to him the next day but months later she finally got out, and she was back to herself. About a year ago she lost her job and so I got her a job at a local restaurant we hung out every monday we texted eachother daily we were finally close again.. but my SO had kidney failure in December last year. He was in icu for a week I never received a phone call from her checking on us or anything. He now does dialysis at home.. he has to hook up to his machine at 6 pm every night and he cant go more then 15 feet away from our bed so I he cant be left alone. Hes since this all started been in the hospital three times once again never got a phone call from her. Shes pissed at me because I cant go hang out with her at night.. but she now has a new boyfriend who she says she loves which is GREAT! but she refused to hang out with me or even talk to me because shes always busy with him I understand new relationships are exciting and all that but when I really NEED her she wants nothing to do with me. It hurts my feelings! She said she wouldnt be coming to my sons fourth birthday because her and her boyfriend just got a apartment and she wanted to stay home..
Im sooooo pissed/upset. Ina way I feel immature but between having my son and having to be more grown then my friends with so being sick and stuff iv lost all my friends but one..
Am I being stupid?
No you're not being stupid. It kind of sounds like she just wants to use you and hang out when it's convenient for her.
You're not being stupid, and I don't think she is either. I think that's just life, and sometimes it sucks.
You're not being stupid, but I will say you're wasting your time with her. I understand you want her support and if she was a good friend/family member she would be there for you, but she's not. So I wouldn't waste my time or get my hopes up with her.
I would be hurt too. Unfortunately I think that we all go through this to some degree, but it sounds like it's been especially bad for you. One thing to do is join mommy groups and make new friends, I find it almost impossible to maintain friendships with people who don't have kids, especially the ones who are clearly as self absorbed as she is.
To me it sounds like you got a lot on your plate. And the one person you needed most isnt being a very supportive anything. I personally would told her to go F herself long ago. Shes lucky your so forgiving!!
You say she wants you to come hang out with her, and in the same breath, you say she wants nothing to do with you.
You expect her to come to you because of your husband, and her life is going on as usual so she expects you to come out. Neither of you are wrong.
You're adults now, living completely different lives. If you want to hang out, you both need to compromise.
Its not that I wont come to her I will but even when I try she will tell me she already made plans or she decided she didnt want me to interrupt her and her bf. I KNW were grown now but if anything we should be closer now..
<blockquote><b>Quoting kr:):</b>" Its not that I wont come to her I will but even when I try she will tell me she already made plans or ... [snip!] ... or she decided she didnt want me to interrupt her and her bf. I KNW were grown now but if anything we should be closer now.."</blockquote>
Make plans ahead of time.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting kr:):</b>" Its not that I wont come to her I will but even when ... [snip!] ... and her bf. I KNW were grown now but if anything we should be closer now.."</blockquote> Make plans ahead of time."</blockquote>
I tried.. we actually were suppose to take my LO to celebrate his bday tomorrow just me her and my son since she cant come to the party she text me a hour and told me she didnt wanna go anymore... thats whay caused me to post this
<blockquote><b>Quoting kr:):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting kr:):</b>" ... [snip!] ... since she cant come to the party she text me a hour and told me she didnt wanna go anymore... thats whay caused me to post this"</blockquote>
Then stop trying.