Also, your ab muscles play a sort of "corset" to your midsection. When you are pregnant, especially multiple times, it ruins it so it can be impossible to have that "fit" stomach...no matter how many sit ups you do.
Nope, definitely not.
What everyone else said pretty much, I agree with.
I also don't think having kids is an excuse to not exercise either. There are days I don't get a minute to myself but I still find ways to exercise. I've used our elliptical at 1 in the morning before. You should be leading an active lifestyle anyway, and not trying to find a way and time to be active.
I'm always told that I look amazing for having 3 kids, 2 being twins. I'm skinny and only weigh 130lbs (I'm 5'9"). The only thing I use them for an excuse is the saggy skin after stretching out to 185lbs like this
but even still, it's not that bad. I just can't get rid of it at all!
Idk how to answer your question OP. I think our society as a whole puts too much emphasis on how people look instead of what kind of person they are. A few of the people I consider to have greatly influenced my life might be considered overweight. Does that mean I should respect them less because they don't have a fit, toned body or does it mean that their hug is just a little more cuddly than the average persons?
Yes, we should all take steps to have healthier lifestyles, but as far as judging someone based on their weight, I can't do that.