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Do you get offended... Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Jun 24th '13

If people make broad generalizations where you could be included in it, do you get extremely offended? Would you get defensive and start calling people immature for making statements that refer to a large group? I don't understand why saying something like, "Most teenagers are ignorant of a lot of things" would provoke an extremely defensive reaction where the person keeps saying that you personally attacked them and called them ignorant... Maybe I just find it silly to be offended by something that isn't even specifically about you. It's like getting up in arms because someone says "Women are b***hes" or "Men are a*****es"

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jun 24th '13

I don't get offended, and definitely not say anything about it. It does get annoying though. I do however think it's pretty ignorant to assume a whole group of people are the same way based on one's actions. One thing that happens to get the most on my nerves is when people assume every Hispanic is Mexican or that every immigrant is Mexican.

Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" Women are b***hes, men are a*****es, most teenagers ARE ignorant. lol No, it doesn't offend me."


Haha. I just am kinda surprised that there is a girl who is genuinely offended, to the point that she called me immature, because I posted something saying that "teenagers are ignorant, but that's what growing up is all about."

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49366 posts
Jun 24th '13

I don't say anything but how different is that than saying



"Mexicans are lazy and live off welfare."



"Black people in the south are morons."



"Asians don't know how to drive."



"White people have superiority complexes and are stupid."

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I don't say anything but how different is that than saying "Mexicans are lazy and live off welfare." ... [snip!] ... people in the south are morons." "Asians don't know how to drive." "White people have superiority complexes and are stupid.""


To be honest, I've never heard that lol. Only that they're taking American's jobs. I've only heard of black & white people living off welfare. :?

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Jun 24th '13

It really all depends on the subject. I do get defensive about certain things.



And most Asians don't know how to drive. :P

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
Jun 24th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" To be honest, I've never heard that lol. Only that they're taking American's jobs. I've only heard of black & white people living off welfare. :? "</blockquote>



Yeah, same here, but maybe it just depends on where you live.

Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" I don't get offended, and definitely not say anything about it. It does get annoying though. I do however ... [snip!] ... that happens to get the most on my nerves is when people assume every Hispanic is Mexican or that every immigrant is Mexican. "


I agree it can be annoying. I just am having trouble figuring out why someone would take it to heart so much... at least with things that are so general like age and gender. Racial generalizations though... those can just be all bad

sick_girl Due February 24; 17 kids; Essen, Germany 3089 posts
Jun 24th '13

I get offended when people make generalizations about immigrants. People do it to me all the time and don't think anything of it because I'm white. I don't take it as a personal attack but it still hurts sometimes when people have negative things to say about a group I belong to. I think getting g super upset and lashing out is childish but in a way I can understand the hurt behind it.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49366 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting Now and Forever:" To be honest, I've never heard that lol. Only that they're taking American's jobs. I've only heard of black & white people living off welfare. :? "


It's very common where I live. A lot of the programs here for assistance you don't qualify unless you're Mexican/Hispanic. Or if you are no matter what you make you can automatically qualify.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
Jun 24th '13

It depends really. You can say something in a general sense and still mean for it to be directed at one person. It's called being passive aggressive and yeah, depending on what's being said and when I know it's directed towards me I get pissed off about it. Otherwise though, no it doesn't bother me.

*Mandy*Team BluE!! 1 child; San Antonio, Texas 1344 posts
Jun 24th '13

I don't get offended about anything. And if I do it doesn't affect me as much as it should. BUTTT It does get on my nerves when people say no offence. Such as: All Mexican have ugly feet, No offence. It's like you're including me in it.
If someone just said that It wouldn't matter to me.

Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Jun 24th '13

I do have ONE subject that if someone generalizes with it... I get ultra defensive. It has to do with my personality disorder. I had to stop reading about it online because there were so many statements that "People with BPD(Borderline Personality Disorder) are awful, selfish people that will manipulate you and eventually make you want to kill yourself"

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting Emotional Squeekerz:" I do have ONE subject that if someone generalizes with it... I get ultra defensive. It has to do with ... [snip!] ... Personality Disorder) are awful, selfish people that will manipulate you and eventually make you want to kill yourself""

As someone who also has BPD, I'm totally with you on this. That crap gets on my nerves sooooo much. I am not a monster and I work really hard to keep my shit in check. I like to think I do a damn good job at it too even if I do struggle sometimes. So when I hear/read comments like that it infuriates me.

Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Jun 24th '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" As someone who also has BPD, I'm totally with you on this. That crap gets on my nerves sooooo much. I ... [snip!] ... think I do a damn good job at it too even if I do struggle sometimes. So when I hear/read comments like that it infuriates me. "


It's awful. I can't believe there are books written that put BPD sufferers in a bad light. And I've seen so many places that you should just leave someone if they have it. :( It hurts my heart. Yes, there are circumstances, like if the person suffering from it doesn't want help, nor do they want to try to help themselves... but still... reading all the negative things makes me wonder if I really am more of an awful person than I think I am. It's depressing