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    • I'd do and say the same thing -- Votes: 3
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S +1.5 *15 weeks* Due May 24; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Larouche, Quebec 1125 posts
Jun 17th '13

I sympathize with her pain, I'm not heartless. This girl just has some serious issues and does whatever to get attention. I caught her posting a tumblr photo of a cut up arm saying it was hers, when I found it on google. She's spending her welfare money on tattoos. She's got mental issues, which I wouldn't judge, but she CHOOSES not to see her psychiatrist, chooses only to take her pills when she pleases, and I haven't even HEARD about her having a son til today, no pictures or anything, just a photo of her in the hospital holding him that the adoptive mother tagged her in. Plus she stopped going to drug rehab because she still wanted to get high, and she used her rent money to buy drugs (which is why she is getting evicted). I wish she would get her life together!

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7119 posts
Jun 17th '13

This hits very close to home for me but sort of different situations. and all I'm going to say is maybe she has no fight left. Maybe she has exhausted all her efforts to get her child back to no avail.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Jun 17th '13

I don't think you should be judging her unless you know the whole story. For the most part it seems like she wanted to get visitations right and the court ordered none. She seems very disappointed. What do you expect her to do?

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
Jun 17th '13

They would have to kill me

S +1.5 *15 weeks* Due May 24; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Larouche, Quebec 1125 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I think I read it wrong. So, her kid was adopted out? And she wanted rights to see him? "


She lost her kid to CPS so he went to a foster home and got adopted

thats me. :) 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Edmonton, Alberta 3385 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Wow, I feel really horrible for her. She obviously tried and failed to get her child back. She must be heartbroken and you really shouldn't be judging her. "


I think you shouldn't judge her. She is obviously hurt. She just may be saying that in the moment. But...in the end, when her emotions are calmed, she may feel differently about it.

Mama Van D Due November 3; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
Jun 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I think I read it wrong. So, her kid was adopted out? And she wanted rights to see him? "</blockquote>




I missed that, too. Wouldn't she have had to sign over her rights for him to be adopted?

Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 13410 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting loser mom:" This is how I feel, too. If the child has been adopted, the birth mother needs to step back and allow the adoptive parents to raise THEIR kid. Of course, I have no idea what the back story is."


Exactly. It sounds like she may have placed him for adoption at birth. If that is the case, she has to back off. Wait until he is old enough to make that decision for himself.



Its sad, but that is the choice that she made.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Jun 17th '13

I think that if you haven't been in her situation, you have no room to judge.



As someone who has been through an incredibly difficult custody case, I can understand her feeling of hopelessness.

S +1.5 *15 weeks* Due May 24; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Larouche, Quebec 1125 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting thats me. :):" I think you shouldn't judge her. She is obviously hurt. She just may be saying that in the moment. But...in the end, when her emotions are calmed, she may feel differently about it."

I hope she does feel differently about it and gets her life back together, I hate to see someone sinking so low

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
Jun 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S & S *12weeks*:</b>" She lost her kid to CPS so he went to a foster home and got adopted"</blockquote>



Since he has been adopted what is she even supposed to do about it? Considering what she has been through, he is probably better off with his adoptive mom. So, BM has a right to feel hopeless and needs to work on her well-being.

[Gryffinwhore♥] 3 kids; anywhere, bH, United States 37526 posts
Jun 17th '13

The way it reads is that she's just beyond heartbroken and doesn't know what to do.



It's hard to know without the backstory.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Jun 17th '13
Quoting S & S *12weeks*:" She lost her kid to CPS so he went to a foster home and got adopted"


And why did she lose custody? That matters. A LOT.

~REAPER~ +2 baking #3 Due June 27; 2 kids; Toledo, Ohio 15229 posts
Jun 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S & S *12weeks*:</b>" The blocked out red is an acquaintance of mine, I'm in green. I was holding my tongue.....if this happened to you, would YOU decide the same thing she did!? I just find her decision disgusting!"</blockquote>



I don't think she's giving up GIVING up, I think she's more or less giving a pity party, but because of the fact sea upset, kinda like why should I try when I can't win.... Don't know the situation but




Would I give up I my children, never, they may drive me crazy but they're my entire life.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Jun 17th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S & S *12weeks*:</b>" She lost her kid to CPS so he went to a foster home and got adopted"</blockquote>




How old is this kid? It usually takes quite a long time in foster care and even failed attempts to reunite the child with the mother before they will allow adoption. Unless, she was guilty of some serious abuse/neglect.