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Cast Your Vote:

    • I bonded with my daughter more. -- Votes: 7
    • I bonded with my son more. -- Votes: 4
    • I love my kids equally. -- Votes: 6
    • Pineapple. -- Votes: 13
Who are you more connected to? pinkfishtacozs Missouri 4533 posts
Jun 8th '13

I have a 4 year old daughter and a 10 month old son. I feel like I have a greater attachment to my son, honestly. Like our connection is stronger as mother-child. I love my daughter, don't get me wrong, it's just so different! I don't know if it's because my son is still so little or because he's the baby of the family. Maybe it's the circumstances of his birth and how I used to feel about hi dad vs my ex husband (my daughters dad).



Do you ladies feel the same way if you have one of each? Is there one child that you just feel like you bonded with more?

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6871 posts
Jun 8th '13

I don't have a daughter. I have 3 sons, but it's the same principle. I think it fluctuates. Babies also need a lot more attention and care than 4 year olds, so that can make a difference. I think it has a lot to do with which one of them needs me more at that moment. I keep expecting to have a favorite, but I really don't.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jun 8th '13

Idk yet since there's such an age gap and my baby is still a baby. But as my dd1 has gotten older I feel less connected to her. We don't get along. I have severe depression issues which causes me to be a b***h a lot. So she's clung more to daddy. I feel like she hates me a lot of the time. She never says nice things to me or tells me she loves me unless I say it first.

user banned Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
Jun 8th '13

I have two girls. And it really depends. They are so opposite when they go through certain stages, I am usually more connected to the one who behaves the most at the time. haha.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
Jun 8th '13

I voted pineapple because I'm still pregnant lol.



Right now I'm for sure more attached to my DS who is all ready born. He's my baby lol. Idk how I'll feel after DS#2 is born.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
Jun 8th '13

I only have one child but I don't think any other child I have will match the bond I have with DD. We've essentially grown up together, and she's been there for a lot of the major events in my life. I would love my children equally but DD will always have her own special place in my heart.

Mommy to B&B 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 968 posts
Jun 8th '13

I love my kids equally !!!! but I honestly think I'm more connected with my 2.5 year old DD....I love my 7 month old son don't get me wrong he has just more clung to daddy since day 1 which is funny because I had more time to bond with him after he was born because my husband had to go to work 2 days after he was born,where as with my DD the first month she was home her daddy took care of all the duties because I had a bad csection recovery with her so her daddy got to bond with her more but she's always clung to me anyways.....

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
Jun 8th '13

i love all my children equally. but i bonded more with my youngest. with my first 2 I worked all the time. and didnt really get to be there with them. after my youngest I got be a SAHM. and oldest 2 started school. so I still dont get to be with them much. plus my youngest is more needy. and my oldest 2 are more independent.

BakingBean2 2 kids; Ohio 2247 posts
Jun 8th '13

We attachment parent and DD is only 18 mod and DS will be 3 mos on the 12 and I very much am overly attached to both of them equally. DD stayed with my mom last night and as much as I needed a break, I almost cried leaving her and felt guilty this morning. I just have such an over whelming sense of love for both of them, equally. I was worried that I would be more attached to DD, but now that DS is here and we are in the swing of things. It's equal.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jun 8th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" :( Aww, she doesn't hate you, mama. She's just adjusting, that's all. And so are you. "</blockquote>




It's always been like this though. She's never been that sweet little girl that comes and gives hugs and kisses or says I love you. My kids at school do that stuff more than she does. :(

=^•^= NO, OD, France 36542 posts
Jun 8th '13

My daughter. I love my son but when he was concieved it was a horrible time for me. I wanted an abortion but was guilt tripped into not having one yet no one wanted me to have him. His birth was a horrifying experience. I had took care of him all on my own the first year, no help or advice from friends or family. My daughter was plaaned, best birth experience I could ask for under the circumstances and DH stepped up and did a lot more to help out. I love them equally but yes I have a stronger bond with one.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35145 posts
Jun 8th '13

I voted Pineapple b/c I don't have a 2nd child yet. I am pretty bonded with my son, though. It is hard for me even attempting to have another child b/c my love for him is s strong, I cannot imagine loving another child (no matter the gender) as much as I love him. I hope when I do, I am equally bonded, but IDK

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
Jun 8th '13

I think I've bonded FASTER with my daughter. I think it's a combination of things. I'm older and more motherly, my son was a NICU baby, and I am able to EBF my daughter when I couldn't with my son. She is also the last baby we will have. Ds and I have a very special connection because he's my little man and a total mama's boy, but it took a minute for that bond to be established. There is something totally unique and special about the bond you have with your little boy. I think I feel more pressure with my daughter, because it up to me to show her how to be a woman, ya know?

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
Jun 8th '13

I have 3 sons, and my middle child is definitely more of a mama's boy. I think we have a stronger connection because a week after he was born, his dad (my ex-husband) went to jail, so it was just me and my older 2 boys for an entire year. I had that whole first baby year to just be with him and go through all those "firsts" by myself. My youngest is only 11 months though, so time will tell... right now he's ridiculously attached to me (he only loves me for my boobies, lol) but I have a feeling he'll be a daddy's boy. He already loves being outside, screams if we try to bring him in, loves throwing a baseball around...