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Cast Your Vote:

    • yes, text him and tell him you were nervous etc. -- Votes: 36
    • no, just let it go. -- Votes: 13
Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" First off, good for you for sending the text someone else suggested. That first one you had was terrible ... [snip!] ... what you want, but I wouldn't hold your breath. If you're really looking for love, I suggest using a more reputable site."


I can't say I was looking for love, but I did end up liking him. So sue me. I got drunk, I liked him, and it had been a while...sure I had sex! I'm an adult...these things happen. That doesn't necessarily mean that he's "off to the next one". I get what you're saying, but again...really? You need to work on how you come across to people.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I can't say I was looking for love, but I did end up liking him. So sue me. I got drunk, I liked him, ... [snip!] ... he's "off to the next one". I get what you're saying, but again...really? You need to work on how you come across to people."


Aw really... I tried really hard to be nice! I started off with a compliment, ended with advice... this had to have crossed your mind anyway. POF has a reputation for being a hook-up site, I'm sure you know that. Don't waste your time on anybody who doesn't have the decency to shoot you a text. It's been a week. If I were you, I'd move on too. :)

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Aw really... I tried really hard to be nice! I started off with a compliment, ended with advice... this ... [snip!] ... your time on anybody who doesn't have the decency to shoot you a text. It's been a week. If I were you, I'd move on too. :)"


lol no it was definately better! I can tell you tried. haha I know POF's rep...I do. But, I'm a vulnerable lady right now! lol I was hoping for the best and I know my attitude fucked up any possible anything that wasn't already fucked up. lol

Jenny&Boopy 3 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 9735 posts
Jun 8th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" First off, good for you for sending the text someone else suggested. That first one you had was terrible ... [snip!] ... what you want, but I wouldn't hold your breath. If you're really looking for love, I suggest using a more reputable site."</blockquote>




It's not just for hooking up. A lot of us met our SO's on POF. There are a lot of creeps but there are also nice guys.

Peter Pan 1 child; Florida 2800 posts
Jun 8th '13

Did he ever reply?

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 8th '13
Quoting iamdani:" Did he ever reply?"


psh no. He's either not interested or waiting until he gets back home tomorrow. Either way, I'm okay because I won't be wondering what might of happened if I never texted him.

Peter Pan 1 child; Florida 2800 posts
Jun 8th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" psh no. He's either not interested or waiting until he gets back home tomorrow. Either way, I'm okay because I won't be wondering what might of happened if I never texted him."


True that, keep us updated!

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 9th '13

So, he texted back. It took 2 days, but he textd back. Basically, he said that he's not sure if he can handle my insecurities. I get that, it just sucks. At least I have an answer though!

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 9th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" Well that's true. At least he's honest. Is he willing to give it a try or no?"


Yeah. I think he wanted to like me and was disappointed how shy I was. I think that's why he had enough respect to at least answer me because he really didn't have to. But no, I don't think we are going to try it.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Jun 9th '13

As a very wise woman once said.... "if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?"



Just from this thread i could tell you have some screaming insecurities. That's a really big turn off. You might want to work on that before trying to date because you're setting yourself up for more crap than you need to go through.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 9th '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" As a very wise woman once said.... "if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody ... [snip!] ... might want to work on that before trying to date because you're setting yourself up for more crap than you need to go through."


I really do. That may even be why I am trying to date already, to prove to myself that I am not an awful person. Not the best way to go about it, obviously. I do need to work on it. Thanks. :)

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Jun 9th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" I really do. That may even be why I am trying to date already, to prove to myself that I am not an awful person. Not the best way to go about it, obviously. I do need to work on it. Thanks. :)"</blockquote>



Yeah that kind of validation can't come from anyone else. It has to come from you to be real.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Jun 9th '13
Quoting 12.21.07♥04.16.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" I really do. That may even be why ... [snip!] ... Thanks. :)"</blockquote> Yeah that kind of validation can't come from anyone else. It has to come from you to be real."


Deep down, I know this. I've just gone 5 years without so much of even the smallest compliment. Now that I'm "allowed" to be talked to and complimented, the attention is nice. I agree though, I need to be able to love myself first.

SuperSecret123 Japan 220 posts
Jun 10th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" This is what I was going to text him: "Hey. I know you're probably away at your basketball thing and ... [snip!] ... I just thought I would tell you in case you thought differently." Help me! haha is that good? no good? what should I write?"</blockquote>




this is way too much and would scare me off honestly