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deletedd M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13

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user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Jun 7th '13

I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt.



& then I would try couples counseling.



I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship.

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
Jun 7th '13

That was a d**k move on his part, but unless you have reason to suspect he cheated I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. It sounds like he desperately knows he fucked up.

LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1624 posts
Jun 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."</blockquote>



This! I hope yall can work things out.

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
Jun 7th '13

I think it's messed up that he didn't take the time to meet your dad and spend time with you, but instead lied just to be with other people..... But yeah I would try to talk it out and see why he lied and all that.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


This!



As much as I hate liars. I would try to make it work before I called it quits.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3298 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


:!:

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I'd tell him you're more upset he's lying, and wish he'd tell the truth and you wouldn't be so hurt. & then I would try couples counseling. I don't believe in just giving up on a relationship."


I just feel like if he is lying to me about this. then it will continue. I have always had pretty honest and loyal men its like one of the first things I look for. I am just still in shock that he would even lie! This is the first time I have ever caught him in a lie in 4 years that I have known him..

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I'm not a fan of the lying repeatedly. I would suggest a break"

I was leaning towards this as well because I see it as he not only lied, but he didn't even spend his free time with you and meeting your dad like it seems you guys had previously planned on.
If a guy I was dating had free time and lied to me and said he was working, i would be hurt that he didn't want to spend his time with me and lied to avoid it.

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting GavinsMomJohnnysWife:" That was a d**k move on his part, but unless you have reason to suspect he cheated I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. It sounds like he desperately knows he fucked up."


I think he does know. I told him before that lying and cheating are dealbreakers for me.. And the thing with liars if they lie about something its probably to cover something else up with another lie .. I had BAD trust issues in the past and when we got back together we had such a good relationship, no trust problems. Now I feel like I can't believe what he says and now im questioning things that have happened in the past. Such a shitty feeling inside when you find things out in a bad way:/.

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I was leaning towards this as well because I see it as he not only lied, but he didn't even spend his ... [snip!] ... and lied to me and said he was working, i would be hurt that he didn't want to spend his time with me and lied to avoid it. "


I know thats also another factor. :( I dont know if he was lying because of the fact that he ditched me and my family for the beach with his friends.. Or if he was with people that I probably would not be "cool" with him being with .. Oh and apparently they had a handle of vodka... He was not texting me for like 4 hours and said his "phone died" while he was at his friends house..

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting M♥MMY to 3:):" I just feel like if he is lying to me about this. then it will continue. I have always had pretty honest ... [snip!] ... in shock that he would even lie! This is the first time I have ever caught him in a lie in 4 years that I have known him.."


what i have learned is people don't lie about stupid stuff- you may never catch him but if you suspect there were girls then i suggest you push further to have him tell the whole truth because you will not be satisfied or trusting until he does. if he chooses to continue to lie- i'd ask for a break until he can tell you the whole truth. if you have good instinct you will know when he has told the truth. because honestly if you stand your ground on this- he will know he can not lie again- my husband has lied before (earlier years) and he still says he doesn't know how i caught him every time- but i just went with my instinct and stuck with it & if you know your man- i think you know when they lie.

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I just think he has more to hide because he lied about it multiple times"


me too. :?



you dont just lie about something so stupid just because...And I asked him atleast 20 times to just tell me the truth. Finally he did , but what if I did not persist? I would have never known.

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I just think he has more to hide because he lied about it multiple times"


me too. :?



you dont just lie about something so stupid just because...And I asked him atleast 20 times to just tell me the truth. Finally he did , but what if I did not persist? I would have never known.

M♥MMY to 4 Due August 6 (boy); 3 kids; California 2004 posts
Jun 7th '13
Quoting #3dueOct*23weeks*:" what i have learned is people don't lie about stupid stuff- you may never catch him but if you suspect ... [snip!] ... him every time- but i just went with my instinct and stuck with it & if you know your man- i think you know when they lie."


Yepp. I feel like there is defenitly more to it.. It makes me really hurt to think it but I cannot trust what he says anyways. I did tell him on the phone after he confessed that I still do not trust him, and that I was sorry but I can't be with him and need some time for now. He says girls were "supposed" to meet them down there but did not show up. Then I asked why he lied about that day when he said he was with family and he said that he knew I would be mad so he had to lie? What the f**k. I tell him everything and I try to be as open and calm whenever something happens that is bad. I really do not get mad at him alot or invade his space. He was upset I went through his phone, but I know that only because I found out he is a liar.lol