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Does this sound like a "trap"? Pinkman 1 child; Seattle, WA, United States 7100 posts
Jun 4th '13

Here's the situation.



A couple has been together for about seven/eight months and neither has dropped the "L" word. It seems pretty obvious that they love each other. It's more of an "actions speak louder than words" situation.



Would it put the other person in a trap to just straight up ask the other person "do you love me?" Do you think they would feel obligated to say yes since they were put on the spot/didn't want to hurt the other person? I hope this makes sense.

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
Jun 4th '13

If you have to "trap" a person into saying it... :?

♔ BαtMαɳ Due April 12; Gotham, DC, United States 88842 posts
Jun 4th '13

I wouldn't ask, that might put the other person in an awkward position. If she loves him, tell him!

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 27083 posts
Jun 4th '13

I mean, what will the other person get out of hearing the words? If they act like they love each other then why can't that be enough?

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Jun 4th '13

It sounds like that person is just too chicken to say it first in fear of not reciprocating. But that's really awkward. However, the best way to find out how someone feels is to ask.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
Jun 4th '13

Yes, it puts them on the spot and more than likely they will answer with what you want to hear because 1) they are put on the spot and don't have time to think and 2) more than likely want to avoid a fight.



I think 7/8 months you still have time before you need to worry.

Pinkman 1 child; Seattle, WA, United States 7100 posts
Jun 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" It sounds like that person is just too chicken to say it first in fear of not reciprocating. But that's really awkward. However, the best way to find out how someone feels is to ask."</blockquote>



This is the dilemma to a T haha

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4500 posts
Jun 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" I wouldn't ask, that might put the other person in an awkward position. If she loves him, tell him!"</blockquote>




:!:

Pinkman 1 child; Seattle, WA, United States 7100 posts
Jun 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting \m/:</b>" I mean, what will the other person get out of hearing the words? If they act like they love each other then why can't that be enough? "</blockquote>



Eh, I don't really know. Reassurance, I guess.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo Due September 24 (boy); 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7526 posts
Jun 4th '13

My boyfriend and I have been together a year...and still havent really said to each other besides in text. But we really arent affectionate people. If he did that to me I would feel awkward, not trapped, because Im not good with verbally expressing my feelings.

Pinkman 1 child; Seattle, WA, United States 7100 posts
Jun 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jillynne:</b>" If you have to "trap" a person into saying it... :?"</blockquote>




That's what is trying to be avoided, hence the reason I asked...

Pinkman 1 child; Seattle, WA, United States 7100 posts
Jun 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nem

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 27083 posts
Jun 4th '13
Quoting ♥ pinkman:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nem