Children and new relationships MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
Jun 3rd '13

Okay so this is stemming from a personal story. My cousin and his daughter's mother broke up about Four years ago. Every time he moves on or finds someone new she pops back up and breaks his heart again. So this time around he is happy, has been seeing this girl for a while now and is just done with his daughters mother. So she took it one step further and made her child say she didn't like her and never wanted to meet her. Then decided to announce on Facebook that he still loves her and doesn't want the new girlfriend and how he should respect his daughters feelings of not liking her and not have her around his daughter. So forth and so on.

I know using a child in this is wrong. How many people actually think this type of behavior, forcing hate, is mentally scarring?

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
Jun 3rd '13

It totally is. My step brothers mother did this to my step father. They now have no relationship whatsoever and my step father is heartbroken over it. Its brainwashing.

user banned -, -, United Kingdom 75061 posts
Jun 3rd '13

Dealing with the same kinda thing with SO's ex.. It's hard on everyone in the situation. I couldn't imagine how the child feels :(

~ Island ~ Phoenix ~ 2 kids; Brisbane, Australia 192 posts
Jun 11th '13

Poor child. No one should use a child to hurt their ex, or get their way :(

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
Jun 11th '13

He chose to dump his new girlfriend over the situation, saying his daughter was way more important. I feel bad for both him and the child... Her mother wins and everyone else is manipulated.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35338 posts
Jun 11th '13

I do. Manipulative behavior can mess with that child in more ways than one. For starters, she could begin to mimic that manipulative behavior.
I think it is nice that he dumped the chick b/c of how his daughter feels, but sadly, she has been brainwashed by her mom to feel that way. Not cool.