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marriage without engagement Sarah +2 ♥ 2 kids; Hollywood, FL, United States 11222 posts
Jun 3rd '13

Anyone get married without having a "proper" engagement? For example, instead of him getting on one knee, proposing with a ring, being engaged for x amount of time and then getting married, the two of you just decided to set a date for the wedding then get married and exchange rings?




If you haven't done it, how do you feel about it? Would you still be considered engaged without having a ring?

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
Jun 3rd '13

We talked about getting married and he asked me to marry him. I just never got an actual engagement ring. I never really called him my fiance either. We got married court house style on Valentine's day. No one really seemed to noticed we got married without actually being engaged. I guess everyone expected it because we were together for almost 5yrs.

user banned 33 kids; British Columbia 2986 posts
Jun 3rd '13

I didn't get a proposal. I do have a ring, I kinda feel like I missed out on a "special moment" in my life.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jun 3rd '13

I do t see the big deal. I wanted the proposal and ring but I don't think you have to have it.

Mrs.C+4.5 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Duncan, OK, United States 17667 posts
Jun 3rd '13

We kinda did it like that. He asked me to marry him in a letter from basic training in November. He came home in December we went and bought the ring then got married 2 days later.

V ♥ Due August 26 (girl); 2 kids; ., TX, United States 15227 posts
Jun 3rd '13

I didn't get a proposal. Our "engagement" actually started from an argument haha. And we got married a month later :P

user banned 33 kids; British Columbia 2986 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" I do t see the big deal. I wanted the proposal and ring but I don't think you have to have it."

Yeah you don't have to its just nice for sentimental reasons :P

user banned Due December 15 (girl); 1 child; Colorado 1484 posts
Jun 3rd '13

DH and I had talked about getting married before we did. He never proposed but we knew we'd eventually get married. One day we went to the courthouse to see about getting married and set a date for the very next day. We were married 1 1/2 years exactly into our relationship. It's been 5 years now and neither of us have ever regretted the way we did things. We do plan on having a renewal of the vows in a few years though.

Sarah +2 ♥ 2 kids; Hollywood, FL, United States 11222 posts
Jun 3rd '13

Thanks ladies!