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Banned from a miscarriage and pregnancy loss group on FB user banned
Jun 3rd '13

Because I spoke of my current pregnancy. I lost a baby at 17 weeks to Turner syndrome and speaking of my family helps me cope. I didn't do it to be malicious but to give others hope that they too can have their rainbow babies.



Also I got in to a debate with another woman about the affects of smoking while pregnant. She said smoking is not why she lost her baby and they should delete the truth ads about smoking and pregnant and I told her I happen to agree with the ads Bc it educates those that may not know the risks Bc there are indeed risks. I told her I was not saying that she was the reason she miscarried just that I happen to agree with the ads. I myself was a smoker and quit cold turkey when I found out I was pregnant but I know everyone can't Bc just like any other drug it's an addiction.




Was I wrong or were they for banning me?

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
Jun 3rd '13

They were wrong for banning you. The lady who lost her baby, most likely didn't lose it to smoking, but people need to know the risks.



And posting about your current pregnancy might make some people sad, but it will also give some people hope.

Mason, Carmen & Nolans Mo 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 6503 posts
Jun 3rd '13

is there more to the story cuz I don't see why they would banned you just because you were talking about your current pregnancy and the loss you had b4..

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" is there more to the story cuz I don't see why they would banned you just because you were talking about your current pregnancy and the loss you had b4.."


Because it's a Facebook group. I've been banned from groups for merely stating an unpopular opinion.

Mason, Carmen & Nolans Mo 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 6503 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I'm betting there is a bit more to the story than that."



:!::!:

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
Jun 3rd '13

Everything that happened I posted. I later learned its not acceptable to talk about current pregnancies bc it could be hard on some ladies but they can post pictures of fetuses and babies dead. Even one woman posted at 7 weeks a picture of the blood clot and named it. Maybe that was hard for me never getting to see my baby.



That and the debate is why I believe I was banned.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:</b>" is there more to the story cuz I don't see why they would banned you just because you were talking about your current pregnancy and the loss you had b4.."</blockquote>




This is what I was thinking.

Vindictive Due July 23; 50 kids; Switzerland 31001 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" Everything that happened I posted. I later learned its not acceptable to talk about current pregnancies ... [snip!] ... and named it. Maybe that was hard for me never getting to see my baby. That and the debate is why I believe I was banned."


You deserve to be banned if you're going to talk like that.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4500 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting You and me + 3:</b>" Everything that happened I posted. I later learned its not acceptable to talk about current pregnancies ... [snip!] ... and named it. Maybe that was hard for me never getting to see my baby. That and the debate is why I believe I was banned."</blockquote>




:? That is not okay.



And I don't think a FB loss page is the place for a debate.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I can see from your attitude that you don't have much respect for their losses. Find somewhere else for support, there must be 454564521231 FB groups."</blockquote>




I was actually a lot of support and i had a lot of respect for others losses.I have an attitude now Bc I was banned for no reason.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" Everything that happened I posted. I later learned its not acceptable to talk about current pregnancies ... [snip!] ... and named it. Maybe that was hard for me never getting to see my baby. That and the debate is why I believe I was banned."


Yeah this, plus your need to debate smoking....can totally see why you got banned.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" Yeah this, plus your need to debate smoking....can totally see why you got banned."</blockquote>




It wasn't much of a debate. I spoke from my experience as a smoker and she claimed I was being judgmental when not once did I speak on her situation. I spoke on mine.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting You and me + 3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I can see from your attitude that you don't ... [snip!] ... actually a lot of support and i had a lot of respect for others losses.I have an attitude now Bc I was banned for no reason."</blockquote>




J would never imply that a women who lost their infant was at fault in any way. I'm sure it is something that she already blames herself for in a way. No one is perfect and each women takes "risks" while pregnant. I see why they banned you. To cut out the drama before it esculated

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
Jun 3rd '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" Yeah this, plus your need to ... [snip!] ... my experience as a smoker and she claimed I was being judgmental when not once did I speak on her situation. I spoke on mine."


To you, it might not have been "much of a debate" but obviously they felt it was.



I look at support groups the way I look at S&L here, it's there for support. Period.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
Jun 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I don't think any mother that has suffered a loss wants to hear that some random person thinks the loss ... [snip!] ... the loss was the mothers fault, regardless of if it was poor judgement :? Have a little....idk class? tact? Something, ffs"</blockquote>



Where did I tell her that her loss was her fault? In fact I specifically said "no one is blaming you for your loss just stating that there is truth in those ads Bc there are indeed risks"



Then I went into my story