Quoting mamaofacrawla:" I would have someone that is a friend stand at the door and if there name isnt on the list they arnt getting in.... :twisted:"
I like how you think :)
Meh. I can be extremely rude when i feel it's warranted, and i definitely would in this situation I'd tell her she's not welcome and she's incredibly rude to plan on crashing. And I'd remind her that this day is about ME, not her, and she can keep her damn drama to herself.