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♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting cunning cuniculi:" i went through this as a child, my neighbors mom was like a second mom. she knew a portion of what was ... [snip!] ... and kept me hanging on, kept me knowing that that behavior wasnt normal. i cant imagine anyone doing anything better for me. "


psh I know, I called on another family who we use to be friends with..who BEAT their kids and sniff pills in front of them, they live in an abandoned camper in the woods with MOLDED f**king FLOORS! I shit you not! kids are filthy, like you would seriously be disgusted if you saw what goes on! these kids have a horrible life, their parents spent their 7000 taxes on drugs in 2 weeks, kids get nothing! the parents beat each other in front of them...cps can care less...I have been calling on them for 3 years and nobody give a shit.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60774 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I'd definitely take the necessary steps to help the girl get a better home life. I'd also continue to ... [snip!] ... continue to be there for her as needed. If she doesn't have you for support, you never know how the young girl might end up."


I'd make sure the 12 year old had my number and knew that she had someone to call if she needed to. That's for sure.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I'd definitely take the necessary steps to help the girl get a better home life. I'd also continue to ... [snip!] ... continue to be there for her as needed. If she doesn't have you for support, you never know how the young girl might end up."


Yup, she knows she can stay with me. I honestly would let this girl live with me. She knows how I am with parenting..I know kids make mistakes, and name calling and hitting is not going to help its going to make it worse..shes not doing well in school but I feel like its because of her home life. I am gonna talk to DH when he gets home about it...see if there is something I can do.



her mom has bragged to me about beating her ass as a toddler when she had tantrums..shes like you got patients idk how you deal with it I use to beat C

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" psh I know, I called on another family who we use to be friends with..who BEAT their kids and sniff ... [snip!] ... parents beat each other in front of them...cps can care less...I have been calling on them for 3 years and nobody give a shit."


Absolutely f**king disgusting.

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 31st '13

Call CPS. I understand that she doesn't want that to happen, but she's only 12. She can't really understand what that decision means, which in this case, it's for her own good.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60774 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" psh I know, I called on another family who we use to be friends with..who BEAT their kids and sniff ... [snip!] ... parents beat each other in front of them...cps can care less...I have been calling on them for 3 years and nobody give a shit."


It's amazing how backwards CPS sometimes get it.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Absolutely f**king disgusting."



I just sent another email to the supervisor asking him what else I can do about the situation..these kids lives are 100% destroyed and no one wants to help.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" Yup, she knows she can stay with me. I honestly would let this girl live with me. She knows how I am ... [snip!] ... about beating her ass as a toddler when she had tantrums..shes like you got patients idk how you deal with it I use to beat C"


Does she have any other children? Is this child particularly singled out over her other children (if she has them)?



Like they say, patience is a virtue.

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
May 31st '13

call cps. no dought about it. her life is in danger. what if her mom really gets upset and does something worse than beating.. i wouldnt wait.

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting The Doctor:" I agree that often CPS does not do enough when something is legitimately wrong. But not doing anything... ... [snip!] ... really, I don't know how anyone could feel if a child was seriously injured or killed when they hadn't tried to do everything."


idk but cps was called on our parents a million times.
calling names and slapping isnt going to do shit for them. all it did was make my mom worse-she would threaten us that we would get sent to a home where i would be raped and raised as a wh**e. if my neighbor called cps and my mom found out then that tie would be cut and that would be one less lifeline for me.



idk what cps can do in cases like this, apparently nothing for mine which sounds very similar. and its not doing nothing. she did more than the rest of my family (aunts and uncles) who talked about convincing CPS that they should take us away but didnt want to see us in foster care and didnt want to split us up between themselves because "we should be kept together" pfft.
the teachers did call a few times though-they came and checked for bruises and asked us if we were being beat (ha).



i dont know what the right or wrong thing to do here is, but definitely be there for the girl.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Does she have any other children? Is this child particularly singled out over her other children (if she has them)? Like they say, patience is a virtue."


she has a 23 year old, who does not like her much either or like the way she treats the girl...



the mom told me when she use to beat cs ass as a kid that the oldest would cry and tell her how mean she is...so I know c is not making this up.;

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting cunning cuniculi:" idk but cps was called on our parents a million times. calling names and slapping isnt going to do ... [snip!] ... if we were being beat (ha). i dont know what the right or wrong thing to do here is, but definitely be there for the girl. "

always...next time her mom talks shit about her to me ill offer her to stay with me.

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" Yup, she knows she can stay with me. I honestly would let this girl live with me. She knows how I am ... [snip!] ... about beating her ass as a toddler when she had tantrums..shes like you got patients idk how you deal with it I use to beat C"


Don't not be an advocate for this child because you assume CPS won't do enough. Sometimes the system fails, yeah, but sometimes it works. Especially if you went to them and said YOU could foster her until her mom gets "help" or whatever. My most recent experience with CPS that I know of is that a couple was doing a ton of drugs, one of them went to the ER and tested positive. The hospital called CPS and the next day, all three of their children were taken out of that house and have not been back since. There wasn't abuse, just drug use, and CPS still stepped in for those kids. I think in some situations, they have to evaluate the risk. If there isn't a family to foster, they give the kids back to the parents because it's the best they can do at the time. If you said you would foster the child, there would be a safe place for her to go and that would eliminate that issue, ya know?

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" psh I know, I called on another family who we use to be friends with..who BEAT their kids and sniff ... [snip!] ... parents beat each other in front of them...cps can care less...I have been calling on them for 3 years and nobody give a shit."


:cry:
yeaaahhhh. poor kids

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
May 31st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" i went through this as a child, my neighbors mom was like a second mom. she knew a portion of what was ... [snip!] ... and kept me hanging on, kept me knowing that that behavior wasnt normal. i cant imagine anyone doing anything better for me. "</blockquote>



This is how it worked for me. My mother had CPS called on her 7 times before I was 14. I was a repeat runaway at 14 & 15. She had threatened to throw me down the stairs because I wouldn't clean up her mess in her room. She slapped me in the face a few times & pushed me but I sat quickly enough to catch the first couple steps. The front door was broken, we had a dog who had chewed holes in her leg where plasma leaked constantly(I tried getting the dog help through the dog park but since she was in my mothers name they couldn't do anything), dog stains were everywhere & we had ramen in the kitchen with no other food. My brother was 7. I called cps after I ran away & all they did was have the police come pick me up, cuff & shackle me, take me to the dhome & call my mother. That gave her time to pay a friend to clean up real quick, bring food & drop her/my dog off at the pound to be put down :(