Made a big mistake..smh ***KELLZ*** 1 child; Brooklyn, New York 608 posts
May 26th '13

Memorial Day weekend is a big weekend in NYC. Parties non stop. My bd and I broke up several months ago but he takes good care of my child. I stopped sleeping with him almost 3 months ago until last night.. I was drunk, he was drunk and we started making love in the club ( not literally but we were all over eachother). He came home with me and now it's like we are a family again. He stayed until morning, went and picked up my daughter, brought her home and hung out with us all day. Now he saying he wants his family back and he misses having a support system. He said he is tired of messing with random girls and he wants to come home. I have heard this several times before but he never changes. Things just feel so right with him. Should I give him another chance? I think I was too wasted last night to base any decisions off of his actions last night.

user banned New York 15996 posts
May 26th '13

I wouldn't. That's just the crazy lusty hormones right now

Ellie Goulding 2 kids; London, --, United Kingdom 6218 posts
May 26th '13

I wouldn't either. The longer you allow it to continue, the more you'll probably remember why you guys broke up to begin with. And besides, if he hasn't changed in the past, he probably won't now. If you guys DO get back together ever, it should be after a long discussion and an agreement, not a drunken hookup, know what I mean?

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
May 26th '13

Set a requirement for him. Mine was talking to a mentor or a professional about his anger issues. Whatever it is that broke y'all up, if he's serious he'll make a move to actually FIX things. Pretending everything is fine doesn't count.

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
May 28th '13

Sounds like some soul searchin to me. Complete strangers on a forum, especially embittered single moms, aren't going to know how much you've gone through.

:): 18 kids; California 80 posts
Jun 4th '13

okay so I broke with my baby daddy November 2012 had a restraining order on him and everything eventually i dropped the restraining to make it easier for the kids ( its complicated ) but anyways have'nt seen him since beside at court.... Hes was coming over a lot like everyday ... at the the time i was renting a room.... the last I had sex was in February (It was disappointing at that) the baby was a asleep and the x put our oldest in the bath (he loves taking baths) any ways ... after he did that he picked up my room a little and well he kind of already knew how I was feeling (horny)and we started to fool around ... haha like the night before but this time we had sex haha in closet I know when hes about to blow so jumped off even though he had a condom on ................ hear him start laughing and i look up and that shit broke and I immediately start to panic ... he starts saying things like when i shoot i don't miss i almost started crying ... i told him to get me the day after pill ... he didnt have money but he will tomorrow ... so its tomorrow and my mom wants me to go with her some where so i go then she try to drag me along everywhere .... i told i need to go home she keeps asking me why and finally i crack ..." I NEED THE DAY AFTER PIL!! like NOW!" she says that fool buy it for you so i call him and he starts saying i pulled out and i thought you wanted to get back together anyways so why does it matter ... any ways my mom found one in her bathroom SMH what a dumb ass I thought he changed but he was just trying to get my pregnant so I would take him back.... I'm still kind of paranoid though....