Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11987 posts
May 24th '13

Okay....the first post I was nice. Now I feel like you need blunt, brutal honesty. 3 months is not a commitment because you got pregnant. Moving in together just because you are having a baby together is not smart. Co-parent and be in a relationship in separate houses until you are truly ready to live together. His wife (separated but still his wife) doesn't even want you to meet his DD for another 3 months. He doesn't even want you to be there when he tells his wife about your pregnancy. You are pushing a commitment that will most likely back fire and ruin your relationship.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16283 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Ave Mary A:" 3 months is NOTHING"


I agree...However, I moved in with my fiance a month and a half after dating him. I was in a bad situation though and he helped me.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21346 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Ave Mary A:" You are the one putting all your life out there. If you don't want people to comment on it, don't post ... [snip!] ... met) out of her room so that YOUR kids can sleep in it? You are a p***e o* s**t who doesn't deserve to wear the title "Mom". "


That is a bit extreme and a very hurtful thing to say.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
May 24th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" Thats what I said. I said we should be getting a place thats bigger. He's afraid of the commitment ... [snip!] ... or not I stay for good, no one knows. All I'm saying is I cant stand 8 f**king cats so if I have to stay there they need to go!"</blockquote>



He doesn't want to make that commitment cause you a hoe. :lol:
He's married, you're f**king around, and you haven't even met his kid.
What part of "hit it and quit it" did you miss?

tinana+2 Orlando, FL, Switzerland 39434 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I didn't insist shit! he wants his daughter to not have a room, she never stays overnight, and when she ... [snip!] ... overnight, and when she does she wants to sleep in the living room. I said I would feel bad to TAKE her room!! Learn to read."


If ANYTHING, like... if this situation REALLY and truly happens... you need to make it work so that everyone has a room. Don't make that little girl's room the living room. Even if she sleeps on the couch, so what... but she needs to have a place she knows is her room. The new baby can sleep in your room for quite some time. Don't take her room away. You will be THAT stepmom-ish figure.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Ave Mary A:" You are the one putting all your life out there. If you don't want people to comment on it, don't post ... [snip!] ... met) out of her room so that YOUR kids can sleep in it? You are a p***e o* s**t who doesn't deserve to wear the title "Mom". "


I did not say to kick his daughter out of the room. He WANTS to so Chloe and new baby can have it. I said why can't we just get a bigger house for all of us. He doesn't wanna leave his house and cats if it's not going to work out with us. How is that so hard to f**king grasp

Jenny&Boopy 3 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 9735 posts
May 24th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" Thats what I said. I said we should be getting a place thats bigger. He's afraid of the commitment ... [snip!] ... or not I stay for good, no one knows. All I'm saying is I cant stand 8 f**king cats so if I have to stay there they need to go!"</blockquote>




I would wait before making any big decisions like moving from your home to go anywhere or quitting your job until you're 100% sure this is going to work and you're both on the same page.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21346 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" Thats what I said. I said we should be getting a place thats bigger. He's afraid of the commitment ... [snip!] ... or not I stay for good, no one knows. All I'm saying is I cant stand 8 f**king cats so if I have to stay there they need to go!"


I feel not working isnt the way to go in this situation. This will leave you with nothing if things don't work out. Does he know you cheated on him? He might think the baby could be the other mans....



All in all, this relationship sounds very unhealthy and it has only been 3 months. Imagine how worse it will get.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" Thats what I said. I said we should ... [snip!] ... :lol: He's married, you're f**king around, and you haven't even met his kid. What part of "hit it and quit it" did you miss?"



No sorry actually I'm not a "hoe"
You're a pathetic and rude p***e o* s**t, that's for sure.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
May 24th '13
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Majialin 2 kids; Ontario 424 posts
May 24th '13

They're his cats, and it's his daughter! They were all there before you! While eight cats is a lot, I would be livid if someone I was with for only three months made me get rid of my pets. Did you read what you typed?

tinana+2 Orlando, FL, Switzerland 39434 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I did not say to kick his daughter out of the room. He WANTS to so Chloe and new baby can have it. ... [snip!] ... of us. He doesn't wanna leave his house and cats if it's not going to work out with us. How is that so hard to f**king grasp"


I mean... I'm not a cat person, but I'm thinking of this if they were dogs. I'd never tell a man that they had to get rid of their dogs or whatever just because I got pregnant and need to move in. Unless of course they were violent and a danger to the kids, but then obviously he wouldn't have a kid there to begin with.



You ARE kind of trying to control him, telling him you think he should move 3 months into a relationship. Obviously it wasn't a planned pregnancy so you're kind of going to have to take it one step at a time here.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" Okay....the first post I was nice. Now I feel like you need blunt, brutal honesty. 3 months is not a ... [snip!] ... tells his wife about your pregnancy. You are pushing a commitment that will most likely back fire and ruin your relationship."


I need to stay with him until I get on my feet. I will be graduating nursing school, and making double what I do now, and I won't have to worry about these things. But Im not going to put a newborn baby in daycare and busting my ass for min wage when the father makes good money and owns his house. how much sense does that make? Its the f**king cats. Aside from drain-o... I have no clue what to do about it. I hate cats but I hate the thought of leaving my baby even more.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
May 24th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" No sorry actually I'm not a "hoe" You're a pathetic and rude p***e o* s**t, that's for sure."</blockquote>
You got knocked up by some dude you've been dating for three months who's still married, already cheated on him, and now expect him to change his life and house and finances to support your ass because you're having his(?) baby and he is obviously trying to duck the f**k out while he still can by refusing to compromise, or introduce you to his child.



Pretty sure that is the definition of a solid stage four clingy hoe.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
May 24th '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" No sorry actually I'm not a "hoe" ... [snip!] ... refusing to compromise, or introduce you to his child. Pretty sure that is the definition of a solid stage four clingy hoe."



He's not refusing to introuduce me to his kid. The mother is, and he doesn't wanna piss her off considering theres no custody agreement.