I don't know (yet :lol:) but we made sure we waited until DS was potty trained, slept in his own bed, and was more independent. And able to talk well/explain things (like ask us for what he needs, if something hurts, etc.) He'll be 4 in July and we're expecting our second in January. :D
mine are 18 months apart and the hardest thing is getting them on the same schedule so i can nap when they do...and the screaming at the same time is no fun either
<blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" I have a hard time keepin the house clean as it is!! I'm also worried because my son is a huuuge mamas boy and I don't want him to feel left out."</blockquote>
DD has been punishing me since DS was born. She's an amazing sister, but she's a bit of a terror and she gets jealous.
Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" I'm wondering this right now, since there is a chance that I'll be going from 1-2. And what did you guys do to make the transition easier?"
for me it was teaching DD to pick up her toys before the baby got here. She's still learning. But taking care of 4 people is tough. DH does his own laundry but that's it. I clean and cook and do the kids laundry.
If your SO is a good helper, establish chores between you too before hand. That's really the toughest part for me, how much I have to keep up with. I just get so depressed if my house is a mess.
I found it quite easy, My oldest was 3 1/2 when my 2nd came. And now my youngest will be 4 1/2 when this one comes. I wanted my kids spaced out. I like the spacing. My older 2 are very close even with a 3 yr gap, and they are very independent, so bringing a new baby home i feel will be just as easy as going from 1-2, I will have tons of help.
I would have to say the hardest part when i went from 1-2 was dividing my time between the 2
Quoting Belle.:" I have a hard time keepin the house clean as it is!! I'm also worried because my son is a huuuge mamas boy and I don't want him to feel left out."
DD is a HUGE mommas girl. It's bad. She wants to be on me 95% of the time. I have to find things to distract her because she gets so upset when I can't cuddle the SECOND she wants too, because the baby needs me. I think she will get over it though, maybe, DS is only 8 weeks.
Quoting MamaRound3:" I have 3 years between my first two, and I feel like it was ideal because then she was potty trained by the time he was born ;)"
:!: I have 3 years in between the girls for the same reason lol. Its much easier to change one set of diapers than it is 2.
The hardest part was trying to give them both equal time. DD2 was a few weeks early and really small, so I felt I had to watch her like a hawk. Thankfully, DD1 is a really good big sister and she was helpful and understanding. She also got alot of time with 2 of 3 sets of grandparents. So she was spoiled too when I couldn't do as much.
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" for me it was teaching DD to pick up her toys before the baby got here. She's still learning. But taking ... [snip!] ... hand. That's really the toughest part for me, how much I have to keep up with. I just get so depressed if my house is a mess."
i agree try to teach your LO to help out ...we taught DD how to throw stuff away (good idea but also a bad one lol) so when im changing diapers she will trow her brothers and hers out...she also tries to help feed him and burp him its really cute, she is learning more and more about helping out and usually when i ask her to do something like get me a diaper she gets it right about 80% of the time
Dividing time is tough. But I think it's even tougher now to find time for myself.
DS is still little, so he sleeps on and off most of the day. When he is asleep I take that time to give DD attention as much as a can. Whether its going outside with her, watching tv with her, whatever she wants. Then he wakes up and I tend to him.
DH gets done with work and I make him take the baby while I clean and cook. Then it's the kids bedtime and I'm up until 2am doing whatever I want. And I just end up tired every morning.
I think that the first few years with two will be really hard but once they get old enough to play with each other it might get better. They can keep each other company and be friends. That's what I'm hoping anyways! I want to ttc after my son weans. I'm scared lol. I'm going to have to have an organized schedule that dh and I can stick to!