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Spent a good chunk of my night crying. user banned
May 21st '13

Problem #1: I had to switch OBs yesterday because my new ins. can take up to 2 months to process and my old OB refused to see me unless I paid full price BEFORE each visit.



Problem #2: It really looks like we're not going to be able to afford our homebirth... it'll cost me $3000 OOP, and it doesn't seem like we can swing that after rent/food/bills/etc.



Problem #3: I'd rather have an unassisted birth than let this OB deliver my baby. He's induction happy, epi happy and c-section happy. He likes to induce before the due date for "ease." He pushes epidurals like there's no tomorrow and openly admits to giving unnecessary C-sections because they're "easier and require less time."



My home birth is my dream. I can't stop crying, the hospitals and hospital staff around here suck for maternity. I'm low risk so there's no need for a hospital. Someone make me feel better :cry:

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56012 posts
May 21st '13

Read about unassisted Home births. Shouldn't cost more than the inflatable birth pool lol

*beck-i* {JAS08} Due January 8; 3 kids; Prattsburgh, New York 4812 posts
May 21st '13

I know how you feel I can't find a good midwife to deliver at home for us either and that is what I really wanted. I am still on the hunt but for right now I will have to settle with a new Dr and a hospital birth. :-(

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
May 21st '13

I am sorry. Have you talked to your midwife? My HB midwife is always willing to help people. She doesn't do it for the money and I know she would still help me even if I couldn't pay. Maybe she can get you a payment plan?

If you are going to do an unassisted HB I would look for Doulas in your area who are training to be midwives, ask your midwife is she knows anyone in training that may cost less.

I am planning a HB and I would have an unassisted before I would go back to my OB.

Everything will work out darling.

Ax3 2 kids; Arkansas 4254 posts
May 21st '13

I'm sorry :(:( But just think....the end result of both scenarios is a beautiful baby in your arms. You can refuse the epi and refuse to get induced

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."


Just because people died in a tornado doesn't mean she cannot be upset about not getting her birth experience.

What the hell?

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I was remarking on the drama of being in tears all night :roll: I mean really :lol: and you're ... [snip!] ... and unconcerned with anything that does not effect them personally as much as they want, idk why I expected any different :D"</blockquote>




I agree with you

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:</b>" Just because people died in a tornado doesn't mean she cannot be upset about not getting her birth experience. What the hell?"</blockquote>




:!: right? I hate when ppl act like that. This is just like the whole "oh before you go and fake a pregnancy for April fools think about all the women who can't have babies." Wtf?



Op, You have every right to be sad about it. I hated my hospital birth with ds and refuse to ever do it again unless I end up high risk.

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; d***o, 4998 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."


My sincerest apologies for having my own concerns about my baby and my body, I forgot that when bad things happen around the world (i.e. every second of every day - what about the starving kids in Africa? I hope you never have ever complained about not liking your meal!) we're not allowed to have any concern for ourselves.

[[Breezy]] Due August 15 (boy); 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 16753 posts
status May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I thought this was going to be about OK :? Some people need perspective."</blockquote>




The f**k? Just because there are bad things occurring in the world doesn't mean a person isn't allowed to grieve the problems that are personally affecting them. :?

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; d***o, 4998 posts
May 21st '13

Anyway, without giving any more thought or time to the people who think I'm selfish for having my own concerns, have any of you ladies had a birth at a birthing center? How was it?



I just contacted another midwife group to see their prices... My normal midwife, I can understand why she needs the money right now. She's also a family friend and money is really tight right now so I don't blame her whatsoever. I'm determined to not be bullied and disrespected at another birth like I was at my son's.

[[Breezy]] Due August 15 (boy); 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 16753 posts
status May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being up all night in tears is a bit dramatic, no? I mean, I ... [snip!] ... you're right, you have every right to be a drama wh**e b/c you did not get the birth of your choice :D enjoy :lol: "</blockquote>



Wtf is your problem? Who the f**k are you to decide what someone else can and can't be upset about, as well as the level of upset?

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5968 posts
May 21st '13

I'm sorry mama, that kinda sucks. Like another poster said, look into doulas in your area and ask your midwife about options. You still have wine time to figure it out. Oh, and don't let what's her face tear you down, you have every right to be upset.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" just stop totally not the same. Being up all night in tears is a bit dramatic, no? I mean, I ... [snip!] ... you're right, you have every right to be a drama wh**e b/c you did not get the birth of your choice :D enjoy :lol: "</blockquote>




Um, I'd cry all night too if I knew the dr I had to go to was a quack! And my first birth was horrible because of the hospital and dr... It would have been completely comfortable(as comfortable as labour can be) if I was at home.
So yeah I'd bawl my f**king eyes out of I had to have a hospital birth again. There is nothing wrong with crying. I guess it's ok to be a b***h because this post wasn't about what you wanted :lol:

[[Breezy]] Due August 15 (boy); 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 16753 posts
status May 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Loves Her Boys:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Thank God some people think of others and not ... [snip!] ... grieve for the victims in OK too. Just because you have the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we are all so inept."</blockquote>




Well said. :P