Maybe find a doula? Being alone would really suck, I imagine, but you don't want someone unsupportive or that you're not comfortable with either.
Well if you're not comfortable just do it alone. I had my SO with me and all he did was stand around. So theres no point, well to me there isn't. And after my LO was born I was left alone and spent the days 2 days pretty much by myself with the baby. Its due-able.
I had just my mom for my first 2. My last it was mainly the nurses because SO was annoying me & ihe left to get food & almost missed the birth. He actually walked in when I was pushing
It just sucks that this is happening right before my due date so I don't even have time to get used to the idea. A fear I have is something going wrong or needing an emergency c section and having no one there for emotional support. Also it makes me feel kinda stupid and pathetic because it seems everyone gives birth with at least someone there.
Honestly my ex was an ass with DS and I would rather he wasn't there...he said stupid stuff disappeared to get high once and just ugh go away...with DD he wasn't as bad.
If I get my way I will be laboring and birthing alone.
The only person I would want there is my mum but she is also the only person I feel comfortable leaving DS#1 with and I would feel better knowing he is safe with someone he and I both trust.
The dad Im having less and less contact with and am not sure if he will even make it back out here when I go into labor. I really have to think about that situation because if we don't talk I won't feel comfortable with him there but I know it will cause a huge fight.
I'm in the same boat! Me and the father aren't speaking, I have no close friends, and none of my family is supportive of my natural birth plan so It looks like I'll be alone. I can't afford a doula. I've heard some women say they hate beig touched or talked to during labor so I'm hoping I'm the same. Good luck to you OP
I'm considering doing it on my own. SO was a bit of an ass with DS and wasn't very supportive. I lost count the amount of times he told me I was over reacting. This time around he doesn't seam to want to be there he actually said "I've been to one birth, second will just be the same" maybe I'll just leave him home to look after DS!! Saves me worrying about trying to contact someone in the middle of the night to come over and look after him!!
Quoting Bekkir91:" I'm considering doing it on my own. SO was a bit of an ass with DS and wasn't very supportive. I lost ... [snip!] ... look after DS!! Saves me worrying about trying to contact someone in the middle of the night to come over and look after him!!"
SO and I are OK now but I also hope he's better this time! Last time he told me to move positions while I was in the middle of a huge contraction and couldn't move and was like "fine don't".. then I started crying from pain and he was like"why are you crying?"