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user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
May 19th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" Yes, he says its up to me he'll support me either way.. but he does want me to do it. He said it would be for the best which kinda hurts that he thinkis that way"


He's being honest. It might hurt your feelings, but it's best that he is. Ultimately it's your decision.

Mrs.C+4.5 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Duncan, OK, United States 17708 posts
status May 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" Yes, he says its up to me he'll support me either way.. but he does want me to do it. He said it would be for the best which kinda hurts that he thinkis that way"</blockquote>



That's tough. What do YOU want to do?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 19th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" Yes, he says its up to me he'll support me either way.. but he does want me to do it. He said it would be for the best which kinda hurts that he thinkis that way"


This whole situation is such a mess and not ideal for bringing in a new baby. I see how it could hurt but he is being honest about how he feels. As I said before you should consider abortion but ultimately it is what you can live with.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
May 19th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" Yes, he says its up to me he'll support me either way.. but he does want me to do it. He said it would be for the best which kinda hurts that he thinkis that way"

It may seem insensitive. But, it's smart.



Imagine the chaos with a baby mixed in.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
May 19th '13

I'm late on this... but I think you're out of line to tell the mother of that child you think you should meet the daughter sooner just because you're pregnant. How would you feel if the situation was flipped? Personally I don't think you need to make a big deal about it and both be present to tell her, she doesn't need a play by play of your life. You should respect your SO's wishes on the subject.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
May 19th '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I think I really should just take the abortion pill. "


The abortion pill can be a great option... I did it once and while I did love the child, it was for the best.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
May 20th '13

I don't know why everyone is telling her to get an abortion like this is the worst situation for a child to be in. The girl who was raped by her brother and chose to keep the baby gets more support than this... lol

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
May 20th '13
Quoting Rd.:" I don't know why everyone is telling her to get an abortion like this is the worst situation for a child ... [snip!] ... for a child to be in. The girl who was raped by her brother and chose to keep the baby gets more support than this... lol"


She seemed a lot more levelheaded and mature. Her mind was already made up.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I'm trying. I'm not going to demand anything from him anymore. I'm going to let him talk to her about ... [snip!] ... why he's nervous about it all. I'm going to apologize to him for being so demanding and making him feel like I'm forcing him."


did you really just say his ex is REALLY crazy, and in the same breath say "maybe worse than me" cuz thats funny.. you admit your apeshitbananas crazy yet you think its a good situation to bring a child into??



i would be making myself an apt at the clinic. your poor children dont need to be brought into that shitstorm. if i was his ex i wouldnt let him near his daughter either, hes acting like an idiot. playing house with someone elses child and now adding another to the mix. he should be with



his own kid

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 21st '13
Quoting Rd.:" I don't know why everyone is telling her to get an abortion like this is the worst situation for a child ... [snip!] ... for a child to be in. The girl who was raped by her brother and chose to keep the baby gets more support than this... lol"


Two completely different scenarios.

Seneca Thurman 2 kids; Nashville, Tennessee 609 posts
May 29th '13

Have you not even considered adoption? Abortion seems like a dumb decision, I mean you laid down and made the child, why not give it to someone that would love it and not put it into a horrible situation?

Mrs.C+4.5 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Duncan, OK, United States 17708 posts
status May 29th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Seneca Thurman:</b>" Have you not even considered adoption? Abortion seems like a dumb decision, I mean you laid down and ... [snip!] ... mean you laid down and made the child, why not give it to someone that would love it and not put it into a horrible situation?"</blockquote>



Seriously? Way to push your views on abortion down someone's throat.

Seneca Thurman 2 kids; Nashville, Tennessee 609 posts
May 29th '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Seneca Thurman:</b>" Have you not even considered adoption? ... [snip!] ... not put it into a horrible situation?"</blockquote> Seriously? Way to push your views on abortion down someone's throat."

I'm pro-choice, and I'm not saying she had to use adoption, just asking if she even considered it seeing as she obviously is in a bad situation and there are plenty of people out there that would take care of her child. She seems really indecisive over the whole abortion thing, just my opinion but I wouldn't get one if I thought I would regret it later. If she can't handle another child, adoption is also an option.

Mrs.C+4.5 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Duncan, OK, United States 17708 posts
status May 29th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Seneca Thurman:</b>" I'm pro-choice, and I'm not saying she had to use adoption, just asking if she even considered it seeing ... [snip!] ... but I wouldn't get one if I thought I would regret it later. If she can't handle another child, adoption is also an option. "</blockquote>




There were other ways to go about telling her that. There was no need to be rude about it.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
May 31st '13
Quoting Seneca Thurman:" Have you not even considered adoption? Abortion seems like a dumb decision, I mean you laid down and ... [snip!] ... mean you laid down and made the child, why not give it to someone that would love it and not put it into a horrible situation?"


Last I checked, sex wasn't purely for procreation. It may be a dumb decision to you, but what IS dumb is to carry a child when you dont want it or need it. Don't worry about people loving that adopted baby, there are PLENTY of babies in this world waiting to be adopted right now without going to "OMG Dont do abortion babies need homes and people will love it!" When there are kids on their butts waiting to be adopted but no one wants them because they aren't a baby, or "perfect" in some way.