So to any mommies who maybe have been in similar situations or know a thing or two about a thing or two, or who have some experience with how custody arrangements can play out in court, I have a question for you...
My daughter's father is in prison on a 5 year sentence and because they're violent felonies, he'll have to at least 30-50% of that time. So, he's got some time done, but he's looking at about.. 2 years give or take before he's out. It was devastating until I realized he's just a loser and lied to me about what he was pleading guilty to.
He plead guilty to something that happened years ago (before I ever met him) that he was arrested for but never convicted of, instead of the charge he obtained (while I was 8 months pregnant, mind you ) which was wayyyyy serious.
Anyhow, he ended up pleading out to the "lesser charges" which are as follows, Forgery, Child Endangerment in the 1st degree, Domestic Assault in the 2nd Degree, Assault in the 2nd Degree & Forgery.
I guess my question is, with those types of CONVICTIONS (not charges, convictions) and having had no contribution the upbringing of our child, do any of you think it is likely he could get joint custody of our daughter?
I care about him as a person and I would like for my daughter to have a healthy, trusting relationship with her dad, but I feel that's just never going to happen. He's a career criminal in the making and I truly, can't trust him. He lied to me about what happened years ago that's resulted in those charges, he lied to me about what happened while I was pregnant that landed him in jail... he's just a liar and a controlling, abusive individual and I don't see that changing and I don't want my daughter around him. I don't believe he's learned his lesson. I don't think anything has changed and he's a risk to my daughter and myself, honestly. She wouldn't be safe. This is NOT about power or control over him, it's about my daughter's safety and happiness.
In short my question is, having been convicted of those types of crimes, do you think I have anything to worry about? I mean, when he gets out, she'll be almost 2. He missed her birth, he missed EVERYTHING... He's convicted of crimes regarding children and has contributed nothing..
Do you think a judge would deem him safe to have joint custody or unsupervised visitation of our daughter?
DON'T QUOTE PLEASE. Will be deleting.
my DDs father was convicted of drug felonies and organized crime, he just got out a few months ago after serving 2 years of a 8 year sentence and I was already told that it would be very difficult and a long process if he ever tried for joint custody because of his convictions and his status as a parolee, so with him being convicted of child endangerment I think it's pretty safe to say that he wont have a very good shot.
He might be able to get supervised visitation if he tries hard and does what he:s supposed to. I would at least see where his head is at when he gets out.
It would be highly unlikely for him to get anything more than supervised visitation, so I really don't think you have anything to worry about.
You need to delete her thread. She asked not to be quoted.
OP I don't see him getting many rights from his charges.
Quoting Big D!:" He might be able to get supervised visitation if he tries hard and does what he:s supposed to. I would at least see where his head is at when he gets out."
Well, honestly, we were together and I was going to ride it out with him.. because from what he told me, (lies), he'd make it sound like he'd be getting out very soon, and it wouldn't happen, so he kept stringing me along month by month.. then as time went on and I spoke to his lawyer and looked things upon the internet, I discovered his lies and how he was manipulating me to stay with him. I just can't. I'm disgusted at his charges.
He's got a shitty attitude already... He hasn't changed at all.
Unless or until I can fully trust him, I don't in my heart of hearts feel my daughter would be safe with him, alone or with anyone he may be around.
If I believed he would on his best behavior, I would ENCOURAGE their relationship.
I just can't think of anything more horrendous than knowing your child won't be safe with their own dad, and the court ordering you to give your baby to them every other week/end.
Quoting nothinuneed2no:" You need to delete her thread. She asked not to be quoted. OP I don't see him getting many rights from his charges. "
Thank you :)
I didn't want to be rude and point it out.
My ex is a convicted felon, he tried for joint custody and got visitation. Got another felony and now he has had his visitation revoked.
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" My ex is a convicted felon, he tried for joint custody and got visitation. Got another felony and now he has had his visitation revoked."
So he wasn't granted joint custody, just visitation?
I wonder if having multiple convictions can affect granting visitation or not?
sorry, I erased it, didn't notice the 'no quote' thing, I apologize.
Quoting K.J♥:" sorry, I erased it, didn't notice the 'no quote' thing, I apologize."
No worries! :)
<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" So he wasn't granted joint custody, just visitation? I wonder if having multiple convictions can affect granting visitation or not?"</blockquote>
I think it depends on the offense, his was possession of meth when he had denied using drugs for years and I had accused him of being addict and had been asking for supervised visitation and drug testing. He refused to do supervised visits so the judge eventually just revoked his rights all together, there's even a no contact order in place now.