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user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" I remember everything up to the point I passed out on the couch."


Did you call or text anyone while you were blacked out?

*M3* 2 kids; Florida 11720 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" Damn... I'd lose that chick as a friend, go get tested and I would act like that night never happened."</blockquote>




This :!:

Mama Who? 129 kids; 8 angel babies; Alabama 299 posts
May 15th '13

You really need to have a rape kit to know if there is even anything left behind. :/ Can you go without SO knowing? Sorry your worried about rape. No matter how drunk or high someone is they do not deserve to be raped. :(

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Did you call or text anyone while you were blacked out?"

i don't have a cell phon.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" That is very possible. She said they where only hanging out there long enough to take two shots then he went home because he was tired from working all day."


Yeah. I think maybe you feeling bad about smoking weed/getting too drunk plus feeling like general hungover shit and having a past rape is maybe getting to your head.



I'm not saying nothing possibly happened-there is that possibility...but the more I hear & think about it I think you probably just ditched your clothes etc.



I would get an std test just for peace of mind.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
May 15th '13

Did her and the guy leave together? Cuz if not and they both went their separate ways, maybe he could have came back in after she left?

Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8560 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" I remember everything up to the point I passed out on the couch."


Was your door locked when you woke up? From the outside, does it have to be locked with a key or does it have the kind of handle where you can lock it from the inside before closing it?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Yeah. I think maybe you feeling bad about smoking weed/getting too drunk plus feeling like general hungover ... [snip!] ... & think about it I think you probably just ditched your clothes etc. I would get an std test just for peace of mind. "

I think that is what I am going to do. I would hate to have to relive the whole rape kit if it wasn't actually a rape.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting Stfu Squirrel:" Was your door locked when you woke up? From the outside, does it have to be locked with a key or does it have the kind of handle where you can lock it from the inside before closing it?"

no it wasn't locked because we only have a deadbolt right now.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" I think that is what I am going to do. I would hate to have to relive the whole rape kit if it wasn't actually a rape."


Whatever you're comfortable with, dude. You're the one that'd have to go through it, not anyone else.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
May 15th '13

In the OP you say you messed up, and the end of the post sounded like you meant smoking weed was the "f**k up". But you also mention your boyfriend would not be happy with you having a guy in the house without him there while you're drunk.



I'm just really confused at why the sexual activity was just thrown in the middle so nonchalantly and then passed over, and the focus was put on the weed.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
May 15th '13

So he left with your friend and they hung out at her place and he then left her there? Find out what time and everything. Just get as many details as you can and talk about the night because sometimes that'll jog your wetbrained drunk memories a bit.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" I think that is what I am going to do. I would hate to have to relive the whole rape kit if it wasn't actually a rape."</blockquote>




You wouldn't rather know that you might not have been, or whether or not you're STD free?

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Yeah. I think maybe you feeling bad about smoking weed/getting too drunk plus feeling like general hungover ... [snip!] ... & think about it I think you probably just ditched your clothes etc. I would get an std test just for peace of mind. "</blockquote>




I would do this too. But add in plan B if you're not on any kind of bc just in case. I'm not saying I think you were raped or not but if you don't want a rape kit done to know for sure I'd be safe and take plan B.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" I think that is what I am going to do. I would ... [snip!] ... a rape."</blockquote> You wouldn't rather know that you might not have been, or whether or not you're STD free?"</blockquote>



Rape kits are extremely intrusive and a lot of people don't want to go through that. Her body, her decision.



However, OP. I would get an STD test and plan B just in case.



I'm pretty sure planned parenthood does them if you can't afford to see a doctor, if not, free clinics defintely do.