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Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
May 15th '13

Idk, I guess I would depend on the severity of the emotional abuse. I mean, if it was so bad that he almost seemed capable of physical abuse, no. If it was just their relationship, and he's not like that to his family or anyone else, yes, I would tell him. Not every bad boyfriend is a bad father. My Dad was supposedly abusive to my Mom, physically, verbally, and emotionally, yet he has been overall a WONDERFUL Dad, better than most could hope for. He has never yelled at me, let alone raised a hand to me, and has been there for me in every way a Dad should be.
Idk, IMO, he deserves the chance to prove himself as a Dad. Based on MY experience, being a bad significant other doesn't say much about how he will be as a Dad, KWIM?

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
May 15th '13

well he finally responded, he said something along the lines of her tricking him into it (she was on bc...) and that he wanted her to have an abortion, or he wouldnt talk to her again. he said he would drop off the money to her today if she wanted.

so either way its fucked.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting I Stab People:" well he finally responded, he said something along the lines of her tricking him into it (she was on ... [snip!] ... or he wouldnt talk to her again. he said he would drop off the money to her today if she wanted. so either way its fucked."



:( I feel so bad for her. Shes in a hard place.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting I Stab People:" well he finally responded, he said something along the lines of her tricking him into it (she was on ... [snip!] ... or he wouldnt talk to her again. he said he would drop off the money to her today if she wanted. so either way its fucked."

My Dad wanted my Mom to have an abortion also, since they were in the middle of divorcing when I was conceived. (Just pointing out how similar the situation is to my parent's situation and glad that my situation turned out as good as it possibly could, despite the afore mentioned abuse) Obviously my Dad came around when my Mom refused to abort me(thank God!)

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" :( I feel so bad for her. Shes in a hard place. "


i do too. especially the whole "Tricking" comment, she could have gone without that, i know she already feels bad enough.

shes gonna come over later n talk. shes already a single mom raising 1 son.

Yurvette [♥] TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37262 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting I Stab People:" i do too. especially the whole "Tricking" comment, she could have gone without that, i know she already ... [snip!] ... that, i know she already feels bad enough. shes gonna come over later n talk. shes already a single mom raising 1 son."


:( Ok. I hope you can help her.

♔ BαtMαɳ Due April 8; Gotham, DC, United States 91103 posts
May 15th '13
Quoting I Stab People:" well he finally responded, he said something along the lines of her tricking him into it (she was on ... [snip!] ... or he wouldnt talk to her again. he said he would drop off the money to her today if she wanted. so either way its fucked."


Shitty situation but it's her body, her choice on what she wants to do from here.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I Stab People:</b>" what did he do? im sorry mama. he still didnt respond. shes a nervous wreck :( i feel so bad for her, ... [snip!] ... a period till yesterday, and we jokingly took a test together because IM 3 weeks late, and mine was neg and hers is pos :("</blockquote>



Basically told me I was ugly, worthless, stupid. He pulled my hair, threw me around. All sorts of stuff. When I wa pregnant I went Into early labor before viability because of all the stress. He told me he couldn't care less if the brat lived or died. I luckily got labor stopped and she came at 38 weeks.



Then he took me to court to try to strip me of custody. He told friends who told me that he knew he didn't have a case, and he didnt care anything about her, but he knew doing it would hurt me and he wanted to make my life hell for leaving him and putting a restraining order on him.




He lost the battle. Never was put on te BC and I haven't seen him in a while. DD has no clue who he is.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
May 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I Stab People:</b>" well he finally responded, he said something along the lines of her tricking him into it (she was on ... [snip!] ... or he wouldnt talk to her again. he said he would drop off the money to her today if she wanted. so either way its fucked."</blockquote>




If she doesn't want the abortion she should tell him to shove the money up his ass.